Showing posts from January, 2013

Pageant Photo

One of the contestants from last November's Miss International Queen womanless beauty pageant in Thailand.

Transgender Self Help

On too many occasions, I hear from transgender women who are painfully stuck in the closet. There are ways out of your dark room and every once in a while someone steps forward with a great idea. This one comes from Toni D'Orsay and her Dyssonance blog. (Disclaimer. Sometimes Toni gets a little "wordy" for my tastes but she does incredible with this!) "Idea: for the month of March, volunteer for 20 hours with an organization or project that specifically deals with trans folk, or solve a local problem. Without getting involved in politics. When I say without getting involved in politics, I mean without becoming embroiled in the online arguments we see, without lobbying for a law to change, without going to see a politician and getting them to vote for something. Kinda different for a request, isn't it? It is a suggestion to you in order to get you to help yourself. The difficulty is that the way that it helps you is indirect -- far more so than working o

A Case for Transitioning Young

I have subscribed recently to a blog called en gender written by Helen Boyd  of My Husband Betty fame. As with most of her posts, this one is compelling: " The other day I published a brief interview with Christine Benvenuto, who wrote a book about her marriage to and divorce from a trans woman. I blurbed her book, let me admit up front. I blurbed it because despite some transphobic tendencies (not respecting her ex’s change to feminine pronouns, most notably), I think it’s important that partners get their stories out there – as important as it is for trans people to do so. I’ve been enabling the latter for a long time, and I’m proud to have done so. But I see so often that partners who are having a hard time or who are bitter about a divorce or angry about transition are told – in trans community spaces – to STFU, pretty much. And that really sucks, a lot. The thing is, nothing about her memoir struck me as patently false. I’ve known a lot of trans women and a lot of wive

It Always Come Back

I found this YouTube video which I found to be quite prophetic and described my transgender life completely. You have to follow the video towards the end when Tiffany says her desire to live as a woman just never went away. It just kept coming back:

Dating Yourself Part 2

I started thinking more and more about my last post about dating myself as a guy and as it turned out others were too. The first thing I thought was " hell yes I would date a stud like myself!" Just kidding!!!!!!!! I've had a couple comments from transgender women who don't date men at all. That describes me but to each their own of course. As I started the serious task of transitioning I did  date a few guys but just kept migrating back to the company of women. Then when I started to think about it perhaps I was just seeking the validation of having a man with me in public. What better way would there be to be accepted as a woman? But the buzz just didn't last. At that point I began to think about the very few male friends I had in my past. I had zillions of acquaintances of course but friends? I could count them on one hand over a 40 year adult life and all had moved away or had passed on. From then on this process became more natural , even when I separate

Dating Yourself?

Maybe I should say-would you date your old male self? I saw this question on a YouTube video and was fascinated. I have asked here in Cyrsti's Condo would you be the kind of daughter Mom would like or even would you be the kind of girl she would like to see her son bring home? Back to the question, would I date me? For no particular egotistical reason I would say yes. As with so many other young men in my circles, sports and cars dominated my existence so as a young woman I would have had to expect it and adjust. I worked and had an income so as a young woman I could go with me and have interesting dates. (Or at least get out of the house!) I suppose I was reasonable looking and smart enough to be headed to college so there were worse guys to be seen with. Drawbacks? As any male, past and present-old and young-I had an ego. In fact as a transgender woman I deal with it now with any men I meet. To think genetic women don't learn to deal with the game all their lives is

Transgender Pageant Aussie Style

Miss Gay & Miss Transsexual Australia 2013, an alternative beauty pageant, is being held on 2 February 2013 at Yarraville, Victoria. The organisers of the pageant, The Victorian Secrets Promotions, has already successfully organised the pageant three times, starting in 2009. According to its website, the interstate beauty pageant "embraces diversity in the LGBTI community and provides a safe space for people-like-us to share their beauty and showcase their talents to the general audience."

"Chained Melody"

Author Debbie Martin recently sent me an email asking me to review her recently published love story which crosses the frontiers of transsexualism. For what ever reason I was not able to open the file on my computer. Since she went to the trouble of finding me on the world wide web, the least I could do was pass along the info to all of you from Goodreads .com.  Here's an intro of sorts: " Even with the sexual revolution of the permissive seventies and eighties, men remained men. But as childhood friends Tom and Will enter adulthood, for one of them maturity isn’t just growing from boy to man. He develops into someone completely new as surely as the butterfly emerges transformed from its chrysalis, irrevocably and chaotically also transforming both their worlds in the process. Through battle ground bravado in Northern Ireland, drugs, sexual betrayal, IVF, transsexualism, and ‘forbidden’ love, they each search for courage to live life their way. Can love be strong enough t

Ville Ruuska

From Finland's yleuutiset Ruuska ,   Finland’s first male-female model. " Signed by modelling agency Paparazzi, he is set to grace international runways in the near future. Fashion agencies are increasingly hiring male models to model women’s clothing, Ruuska says, going on to explain on Yle's morning show Aamu-tv on Monday what it means to be a man in a woman's world. "The fashion world has always been interested in special cases. It’s nice that it’s breaking down gender barriers. It adds some spice to fashion when there’s some question over whether the model is a man or a woman," he says." Before the femme nazi's go off again on the unrealistic idea of a super model's ultra thin figures. (Duh!) Ruuska explained:  "That androgynous modelling is not about being thin. He compares the male-female form to that of child models aged around 14, before feminine curves have blossomed and a boyish figure is still natural. Yet he maintains tha

Horror Scope

Yes!!!!!!!!! It's time for a new "Horror-Scope" for all you Libra's  here in Cyrsti's Condo :  Libra (September 23 - October 22) Romance will come back like the sun’s arrival after a stretch of gray days. All your past woes will fade, and it's only warmth you’ll feel from this week on forward. Be thankful for the moment, as it should be an inspiration for your times to come. Looking up is essential now, so put your self-sabotaging ways on hold, because this week it’s all about love. Got to love this one! Horror scope is my term for yours go here to theFrisky!

Countdown to Fat Tuesday!

As always, time is flying by and my trip to Mardi Gras is coming up in less than two weeks. The trip to "Naw Awlins" will provide a number of firsts. It's my first trip to Mardi Gras although I have been to the city a couple of times. It's my first trip to the city as a woman and the first time I have had to pack for such an adventure. Since I have never been one to shy away from a party, this is a big one! Of course the packing part is providing the biggest challenge. I will be leaning heavily on my girlfriend for guidance!!!! So far, I have made my hair appointment for a couple days before we leave and still have to schedule a time to get my nails done. Then I have to find a dog sitter for my constant furry companion and I'm off!!! Of course I will keep you up to date.

Telling It Like It Is!

I love the simplicity of this crossdresser's video on YouTube:

Diamond Stylz

Check out her website. In her own words: where race, gender and sexuality collide. Go here .

Taking on the Military

As genetic women won the much deserved right to serve in combat functions in the United States military, transgender individuals are still on the outside looking in. More precisely really looking in since we are forbidden to serve at all. Here in Cyrsti's Condo , I have mentioned Allyson Robinson. Who is a decorated veteran, a wife, a mother, an ordained Baptist minister, and the executive director of the recently combined advocacy organization for LGBT people in uniform, OutServe-Servicemembers Legal Defense Network. The Army veteran was tapped to lead the 6,000-member organization in October, and her appointment is noteworthy not only because she is one of the few women leading a military group but also because she is the first transgender person to lead a national LGBT organization. A new feature in   theAdvocate  spotlighted Allyson's qualifications: "Robinson’s appointment is anything but an affirmative-action hire, said retired Navy captain April Heinze, cocha

Jimmy...No Jenny Olsen

From XX Factor's  Alyssa Rosenberg: "Over the past several days, a rumor, based on both still photos and IMDb credits for Zack Snyder's upcoming Superman movie Man of Steel, has spread throughout the nerdosphere: that Snyder's made an important change to the Superman canon, turning Superman's pal, cub reporter Jimmy Olsen, into a girl. Some observers have suggested that the switch, if it proves to be true, would have some basis in Superman comics, given Jimmy's habit of dressing up like a woman. But if Snyder really is gender-bending Olsen, I hope he's thinking about what a permanent sex change might mean for the character—and what it would mean for Superman to have a close female friend. Superman writer and comics commentator Grant Morrison has suggested that Jimmy Olsen turned to drag in response to his essential uselessness to Superman. "Jimmy Olsen could barely stand to be himself for more than five pages," Morrison wrote in his book Superg

Cross Dressers on the "Tube"

What's easier, picking the number of stars in the universe or the number of cross dressing video's on YouTube? Easy...picking the number of stars!

Gender Slurs and the Transgender Person

Tranny, Gurl, or girrl ? What's your preference as a trans woman? For those of you who have been around Cyrsti's Condo, you know my preference...none of the above. I know you are thinking "just what the hell does she want to be called?" My feelings are "tranny" is what drag queens call all of us and the other two are terms which toss me into the promiscuous stereotype that many male "admirers" put us into. I would rather be called "Hey You" or how about "Cyrsti"? I'm doing my best to educate people now and not become seriously upset. I simply say "what's a gurl?" The reason I brought out my soap box and went on this mini rant is I was called a "gurl" today. After the good news I received from the doctor today, a gender slur was not what I wanted to hear!

Band of Doctors

Actually a band of one doctor and me. As I posted yesterday I had another appointment today with my Endocrinologist. I don't believe I have ever pointed out that today was my first visit ever with a physician who looked at my current medical status and discussed my HRT future with me. This is what I mean: Amazingly enough since I hand carried my blood labs from the VA to his office, he had the proper information. The first visit he had no blood work. I was surprised with the results.  First and most importantly he said my overall blood levels were good and then he asked what my plans were. I said I wasn't really satisfied with my progress I have made over the last year. Of course I have never been the most patient person in the world and I always want more. He said unless I really want to get serious about castration or the like, patience may be the best virtue for me. Why? Because my testosterone levels are very low and likely to go lower as they lose the war against the es

Vietnamese Transsexual

From Vietnam's Vietnam.Net   comes the story of the first legally recognized transgender woman. "In  November 5, 2009,  the decision: allowed Pham Van Hiep to re-define sex from male to female and to change her name to Pham Le Quynh Tram. She said,   “I can’t believe that this is true. I cannot describe my happiness of living with my true sex,” Tram went on to say was born in HCM City. Her family moved to Binh Phuoc when she was small. Tram was born as an intersex but she was defined at birth as a boy." Follow the link for more! But then on a story dated Monday: On Monday Nguyen Van Hoi, chairman of Binh Phuoc People’s Committee, officially asked the justice department to act as a counselor in revoking two decisions issued by the People’s Committee of Chon Thanh district in 2009 and 2011 to allow Pham Van Hiep to re-define his sex from male to female and to change his name to Pham Le Quynh Tram. The provincial people’s committee said in a statement that the gen

Endo Doc Two

Early in the morning I make the trek into the unknown again as I go for a second visit to my Endocrinologist- which if the truth be known I can't say the word let alone spell it! But I know what it means to me! This is my chance to again to take a giant stride down my gender road. Once again I have a curious blend of anticipation and trepidation . Almost every doctor I have ever been to has been better at telling me what he thinks is right without a great amount of regard for my feelings. That's the reason for my misgivings. My feelings will be simple however. I want to kick my HRT feminization up a notch or two and I wish I could bring more knowledge to the situation.  I've talked to more than a couple trans women friends concerning alternatives but I'm not sure I came out any wiser for the experience. For example, the difference between estrogen pills, patches or injections. My first MD (not an endo doc) was a firm believer pills were easier on the liver than inje

Guys Have Good Legs

 Yet another cross dresser from YouTube and Cyrsti's Condo They are everywhere!

Working for the Transgender Nation

From the Michigan State University News: "Some MSU students reconsidered gender and personal identity in art Tuesday by attending a workshop hosted by transgender activist and performer Rebecca Kling. With an extensive educational background in theater and performing arts, Kling was able to use her education to develop her identity, and when she visited MSU to run the workshop and perform for students, she encouraged her audience to do the same. “I used the tools as an artist to explore for the first time my experience as a transgender person on stage,” Kling said. “The reason we make art is to see ourselves. I used storytelling to share and fully understand who I was as a person.” Kling used what she has learned as a performer and a transgender person by talking to students and community members Tuesday in Snyder Hall about how to act and adapt to transgender people, and allow those people themselves to become comfortable in their own skin."  Picture credit: Juli

Springer Goes "Catfishin"

I mentioned the MTV show called " Catfish the Show ". Last night they attempted to rival the "Jerry Springer Show" in out and out trash programming. The premise of this well promoted episode was this guy who had a transgender girlfriend. Of course when they finally met he revealed he used a fake name and fake pictures to meet this very realistic transgender woman. As it turned out she wasn't transgender at all but claimed to be a lesbian who was considering having a relationship with a man. Of course it got even better when it turned out she was actually sending him money to pay his bills. Really? It seemed to me this guy was content to think this woman was easy pickings because she was trans and who was he to ruin his meal ticket? Plus what the hell was she thinking? Maybe we will find out on Jerry!

Martin Luther King

Thanks Dr. King! For those of you outside the United States today is Dr. Martin Luther King  Jr's. birthday. He was a leader in the African American Civil Rights struggle in the 1960's and was assasinated in 1968. Many of his non violent efforts spearheaded a civil rights campaign which extended basic civil protections to the Black American public. Finally last year the transgender population of our country began to achieve some protections under law which Dr. King fought for - and many gay Americans already have. In recent history it's easy to say the Civil Right's movement in the 1960's was the beginning of the civil rights struggle which we as transgender American's still are lacking. Dr. King provided a very clear path. In many ways he indeed could have been a  very sympathetic supporter of our cause if he was alive today. I just wanted to take the moment to thank him!

Potty Principles Revisited

Every once in a while here in Cyrsti's Condo  I try to back track a bit and bring up items which you newer visitors may have never seen. One of the most important subjects which continues to cause major problems with many folks is the simple task of using the bathroom. First of all, I am not going to get into any kind of discussion of being allowed to use the rest room at all. Also these are only my experiences. Yours could be quite different. For the rest of you, especially those of you who are new to going public as a woman: there are going to be times when you need a rest room. Of course some are more trans user friendly than others. Here are examples: Certain big box stores in my part of the world have their restrooms up by the front doors. You can slip in and out without going in the store at all. On the other end of the spectrum are the mall bathrooms with all the security cameras and guards in the mall. Other possibilities are restrooms in stores such as books

Horror Scope!

ALREADY kids it's time for another "Horror Scope" here in Cyrsti's Condo.  Here we go! Libra (September 23 - October 22) " You’re going to have to get creative to save face, as showmanship is going to matter and dealing sternly with a certain someone needs to happen. After all, your fate is now dangling from a string and you know you can’t take these thrills any longer. Not to say you want your life to end in a stalemate, but just being able to stay still isn’t a luxury right now." Way too many "action words" in this one! I'm lost in the scope but you don't have be lost in yours. To get it from theFrisky go here . While you are there take a look at the article " Why a straight guy cares about transgender rights." Here's one excerpt: Here’s why I take transgender issues personally… Because I or someone I love might get cancer at some point, and a trans person who is capable of discovering the cure is otherwise occupied

Sunday Morning Ramblings

Been busy chasing my tail lately. The worst part is I didn't catch it and I wondered where I would have found the time to do all these things if I had not retired! Normally when I go through these times I have bits and pieces of ideas run through my mind which I would like to pass along and just don't get around to it. The first was an animated chat a friend and I had about transphobic gay men. Do they have a tendency to be more transphobic and why. Sometimes I think they do and here is why. First, in some ways transgender women and men are forced on them. We go to their hang outs and sometimes don't interact so well. I've seen more than one cross dresser make a fool of himself in a gay club. On a deeper level though, a gay man has no more understanding of us than a hetero normal one does. If you throw in the drag queen culture, the average gay person has as much reason to wonder as the rest of the population. Plus on a deeper gender level, do we represent a "tr

It Sure Looks Good on YOU!

One of my favorite YouTube transsexual transitions.


MTV recently came up with a show based on the motion picture Catfish which is based on people who pull elaborate identity scams on social sites such as Facebook. Of course already they have had an episode which featured a woman who developed a on line relationship with a person who turned out to be a transitioning trans man. Coming up this Monday it seems a transgender woman is involved. We transgender folk don't need any more bad public relations and I hate to see us being the "scammers" at all. But with ratings and all I figured it was just a matter of time. On the positive side the trans man episode ended with a happy ending when the couple stayed together. We will see what Monday brings. It could be worse though, at least the Heisman runner up from Notre Dame (Manti Te'o) who has blown up the airwaves with his Catfish scandal hasn't been placed with a transgender woman...yet. Here's the MTV promo: Get More: Catfish: The TV Show , Full Episode

Maid Service?

This YouTube video crosses a couple of fantasy lines in the cross dressing community.

All that Jazz

Perhaps you remember Jazz  the young transgender girl who was spotlighted several years ago. She's back with an update interview with Barbra Walters: Here's the promo from ABC: Unfortunately your browser does not support IFrames. Watch More News Videos at ABC | 2012 Presidential Election | Entertainment & Celebrity News " Barbara Walters will sit down with 12-year-old Jazz on 20/20 tomorrow, a young girl whose life seems like every other kid her age, only Jazz was born a boy but identifies as a girl. What’s more, Jazz has been living as a girl from an early age. From the brief preview of the interview, which you can watch above, Jazz seems to be one of the most well-adjusted kids we have ever seen, forget the fact that she is transgender. Jazz has the support of both of her parents, who have identified her as a girl on her birth certificate and even had Jazz record a video explaining that she thinks like a girl and is a girl, but with boy parts,

Brazilian Transsexual

By now I'm sure you have read the story of the furor which came out of this comment: “we [women] are angry with ourselves for not being happier, not being loved properly and not having the ideal body shape – that of a Brazilian transsexual.” Of course all the trans nazi's and trans feminist's jumped hysterically on this. I hang out almost exclusively with genetic women and I have to say most of them and I would kill to have a body like Brazilian transsexual Lea T  shown on the right. Look, all of us know we are never going to develop a body such as Lea's. She is a model for a reason!!! As far as a role model for girls and women's struggles around the world- that's a bit of a stretch. My point is feminists have a real reason to criticize society as a whole until all women have equal treatment around the world. I don't care that most don't consider transgender women "worthy" of joining their gender inner sanctum. Don't need their sup

Transgender In America

Representing a very  informative look at being trans in America. From NBC News:  

Mama Said-

"If you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all." She really didn't say that but it sounds good! There is no way I can sugar coat the way I think about some of the cross dressing pictures I see on a site called "Flickr". First of all, let me say I'm not an appearance elitist. I'm not a huge fan of pictures- especially my own. I see everything on Flickr from photo shopped beauties, glamour shot lovelies, naturally beautiful cross dressers and then tragic fashion mistakes. I'm thinking what was this person thinking ? Many have quite a few feminine qualities but when they are out in the back yard in a bathing suit and heels it was all I could do to not jump in on the comments. Not in a positive manner. I didn't but could not have help noticing the nine or ten positive comments this person received. I did the worst thing I could. I stayed quiet. The best I could have done was offer a "for what it's worth" comment.

Mark Your Calendars

All of you who are kind enough to read my babble here in Cyrsti's Condo and are in the Ohio area will have a chance to hear my babble at this year's TransOhio Trans and Ally Symposium.  I have been accepted to provide a workshop called "Better late than never, Transitioning late in life." The event is April 26-28th in Columbus. Seriously, I'm honored to be accepted and hope I can provide a little guidance to others. Meeting any of you there would be extra fun! I will have more info for you later!


I love to pass along transgender transition videos from YouTube which show the positives of a journey!  

If I was Transgender

Well I am of course! I'm always surprised on how I approach the subject with myself and others. Truthfully, I started to say I really don't think about the subject much but that's not true. I think while I'm mentally the same person that person is female. So I don't think about that. Purists would argue though how I can ever think I am female, transgender or not.  Essentially , if I think therefore I am.   It matters not what anyone else thinks. Right? So, I don't really think quite a bit about being internally transgender but   do planning  to make my external trans life easier. I keep close track of hormonal body changes, how long my hair is and even how much hair is left in my brush. I've fairly well adjusted to grooming routines which include extra cleansing, softening and moisturizing. I can't say I have totally adjusted to being essentially an androgynous person if I'm not made up at all. It's still a shock to see what was left of my m

Darling, Did You See My Dress?

In the spirit of covering as many facets of the cross dressing - transgender culture as we can here in Cyrsti's Condo-  it's only fair we pass along this YouTube video of a self professed cross dresser. Who happens to be very good at his craft:

Damn I'm Confused!

This morning I decided (for once) to get ahead of the game and go to my VA clinic for my required hormone level blood tests. Just to confuse you, going to my local VA clinic is not going to the closest center where I have to go most of the time. It's much smaller , normally has one busy check in person and about 20 seats or so. You can't get lost in a crowd there! Of course you need an ID to check in and at this point of my transition I still have a very male VA identification card. This morning I simply tied my hair back in a pony tail and went in. I was fairly certain I would not have to answer any potentially embarrassing questions about why was I getting an estrogen as well as an testosterone test done. I was totally relaxed as I waited in line to get checked in until the receptionist glanced up and said "can I help you Mam?". Then he looked at my I.D and started with Mam I'm sorry Sir. Well I went from relaxed, to amused to elated! Then it was time to &qu

"Horror Scope"

It's time again kids for your Cyrsti's Condo "Horror Scope"   from theFrisky . Libra (September 23 - October 22) All the glory you dream of is on its way, but you have to keep weathering the storm and do your homework. This is no sprint you’re in now, so pace yourself and accept that the challenges you overcome now will ultimately make you worthy of reaping the rewards you’re after. No, it’s not the prettiest time in your life, but a meaningful one. '' I just hope the stars and I have the same idea of what the definition of "glory" is! Of course if today's activity was any indication, the stars may be spot on again! (Details in the next post!) The Horror Scope title is an invention of my own devious mind!

Worth Another Look!

Awhile ago ABC's What Would You Do? television series ran a feature which centered around transsexual Carmen Carrera . She was working as a server in a diner and this is what happened: From YouTube of course.

Don't Let Struggle Become Your Identity

This video is compelling enough but the phrase at the end says it all: "Don't let struggle become your identity"! from YouTube:

Down Under Drag

Divanna Lorrette I found this site by sheer accident " A Pictorial History of Melbourne Drag " by Jamie Lee Skye. Just for kicks and giggles I also threw in a classic picture of Barry Kay. Barry Kay Follow the link above for more classic female impersonation pictures!

Pieces of the Puzzle

Every once in  while here in Cyrsti's Condo I get excited and do a little housekeeping. I was going through a few of the old posts which described my first visit to a hair stylist and the resulting benefits. As I said at the time, being able to go natural with my own hair was huge! The whole experience was similar to finding a huge piece of my transgender puzzle. I was to discover quickly the benefits and drawbacks of finally being able to wear my own hair. Of course there was the sensuality. Whether or not women know the effect a simple twist of their hair has on some men is up for speculation but at the least the simple twist has an effect on them. The other end of the spectrum is the time and effort hair requires. A part of me didn't believe I would have to schedule monthly salon visits to hide my gray, cut the split ends and trim my bangs. All of the sudden, I'm shopping for different shampoos, combs, brushes and hair dryers. As all my genetic female friends say &qu

Transgender Stars

"Laura Calvo, a transgender activist from Portland, Ore.has become the first transgender woman elected to the Democratic National Committee, according to the Statesman Journal. Laura Calvo, the twice-elected treasurer of the Democratic Party of Oregon, has worked closely with Basic Rights Oregon in helping to pass Oregon’s Equality Act and Family Fairness Act. She's held a number of positions on local, state, and national levels. She was a regional director on the board of National Stonewall Democrats, served as treasurer of the party's LGBT caucus, served on the Hillary Clinton National LGBT Steering Committee and then went directly to work as a member of the Obama National Policy and Finance Committee once Obama won the nomination. Just Out named her as one of the top 25 LGBT community leaders of the past quarter century." Many times I think all of us get too involved with the "glitzier" members of the transgender - transsexual community who are very p

Transgender Basics

All too often I read of beginning cross dressers all the way to transsexuals who dwell on the smallest points of fashion, shoes and makeup- there is nothing wrong with that! On the other hand, if you are not practicing the beauty basics in essence you could be wasting a lot of time before you slide into those heels! My first example is weight. Similar to most of us, I have a thick torso  so any weight I gain still goes to my upper body. (I think the hormones are finally shifting some "padding" to my hips, thighs and butt.) Excluding my breasts, the last thing I want to do is gain weight. My thought is, if you want to enter the feminine world, you may want to get obsessive about your weight like most genetic women. Be forewarned such as I was. Hormones will not help your weight issue! Pounds are as easy to put on but much harder to take off! My second example is skin care.  Of course your skin is a canvas. The better the base-the better the finished product. One area of my


If enigma sounds like a mysterious word, it is supposed to! By definition an  enigma is  an inscrutable or mysterious person. Just think about it this way. If the average male can not decipher the average female,  just what do they think about us? Plus, let me take this a step further and ask what the average genetic female thinks about a transgender woman? The easy answer is most of the public doesn't know what to think.  The best part is most know we are here to stay.  It's part of our allure to stay an enigma!

Transgender Changes

From YouTube (of course) A little transgender history:  

Hold Still-Here Comes Your Label!

I certainly do my best to stay away from the insane world of labels. I recently read a column concerning the "correctness" of using transgender rather than transsexual. I don't remember which. Personally, I identify with the transgender term myself...I think! The word seems to separate me from the transsexuals in that the word sex was used.  I followed through the fact that sex is between the legs and gender is between the ears and I don't have the overriding urge to have a total sex change. Of course what I feel about those two labels doesn't matter. I am who I know  I am not who I say I am - just to please society. Also, my ideas don't stop me from writing about those who use labels to hate and bigot...Such as these two. "A Twitter message about spitting led Towson lawyer and lesbian advocate Cathy Brennan to file for a peace order against a transgender advocate. Phylicia Sampson, a 28-year-old Baltimore resident, and Brennan, 42, were engaged in a

Top Gay Cities in America

The current issue of the Advocate features their choice of the "gayest" cities in America. I have had an interest in this ranking for several years when nearby Columbus, Ohio made the list. I know though that being the "gayest" city often has nothing to do with being transgender friendly of course. Still, it has been interesting to me from a public relations viewpoint of Ohio. More than once I have been asked by a former Ohioian who has not been back for awhile, how I stand to live here? Well, times do change of course and certainly there are pockets of transphobia and homophobia as virulent as any place else in the country here. But do not slap the stereotypical conservative "bible belt" tag on us all. Of particular interest in this selection of cities was the inclusion of Cincinnati. "The Nati" (also close by) in my lifetime has always been known for a very conservative stance on almost all issues. Obviously, I was surprised and happy to se


Like so many larger women, black is the basis of my wardrobe.  Sure black makes you look thinner but there are options. Check this fashion advice from Fabulous after 40 . I'm a real believer in keeping up with all of the feminine fashion and make up tips I can find and passing them along to you on occasion here in Cyrsti's Condo .

Video Trans Fun

This transsexual video is very simply easy on your eyes! Enjoy! From YouTube of course!  


Well kids, here we are. 2013 is collectively beginning to wrap her collective arms around us all. Of course, as the dust has settled-some of us have tossed our new years resolutions in the trash all ready. I prefer to think of mine as goals . In my mind at least a kinder gentler form of resolution. Truthfully, I haven't had much time to think much about them because once again life seems to be rushing ahead so fast I'm lucky to stay on for the ride. Speaking of ride, the first week or so of my year left me without one. My car developed severe problems shortly after Christmas. I live in an area devoid of public transportation so thank goodness for friends who came to my rescue. Since I'm finally on the road again, I can take care of fun filled tasks such as a big dental appointment...Yay! On the bright side though I have set up another appointment with my Endo Doc to judge where I am with my  hormone levels and where we can go with them. That week is turning out to be a

Quote of the Day

"Are you too old to start transgender transition at the age of 60? You are too old not too!" Cyrsti

Cross Dressing in the "People's Republic"

From the Chinese " People's Daily On Line ":  "As the music rose, a fine-looking woman in ancient Chinese clothes appeared on the stage, waving her long sleeves and the ribbons tied to her wasp waist, delicate and graceful. Dancing and singing, she looked like a fairy on the cloud-shrouded stage and every tantalizing move aroused applause and ovations. This scene occurred at a concert in the Great Hall of the People at the end of 2012. The audience was thrilled not just because of the beauty of this woman, but because the performer was actually a man, Li Yugang, a male singer whose specialty is performing as ancient beauties. His imitation usually makes the audience forget about his gender. Li rose to fame in 2006 in a talent show with his cross-gender act (fanchuan art), a fresh form of stage art that combines make-up and performances. Since then, there has been an increase in the number of both performers and audiences for fanchuan. "Li launched a new era

Hispanic Crossdresser

I think "he" calls it his "hobby" So did I "back in the day!"

"Insta" SRS

Yes sometimes I'm an opinionated bitch I know and one of my favorite subjects is the availablity of non researched sex changes in places such as Thailand. It makes no difference if you have lived a week a month or a year as your chosen gender- just have the money. My belief what this leads to is transgender individuals  (who may not be) may be led down a path of no return without proper socialization. I believe some feel that with enough cash, anything is possible and after a trip overseas and a couple months of healing- POOF - all life's ills will be solved. I knew a person like this. She merely became the best looking cross dresser in the room-even with her store bought equipment. I'm not good enough to write about this as well as this post I read. It's written by Jillian at the Montreal Gazette: "For those of you who are planning to physically transition, I can’t emphasize enough the importance of the real-life experience period. I know about the desire to g

Blondes and Fun?

We got mail!  From Stephanie: "I only have Dial-up internet so watching a video is out of the question. But.....if you have doubts that blonds don't have more fun, you being brunette, put on a bright blond wig, some bright red lipstick, and take a drive down the road. There will men hanging out of their trucks to wave at you! ....(someone who's been both blond and brunette!) on Blondes Do Have More Fun!" Stephanie, I too have been blond and brunette and red! I agree with what you wrote but would like to add my two cents. I have always thought that blonds do get more attention but how that translates to fun depends on the individuals! Ha! One of my "best and worst" of all blond worlds is similar to yours. I had a streaked summer blond wig which I ended up naming "suicide blond". The best of time was driving the interstate in my denim mini with mirror sunglasses distracting guys everywhere. The worst of time was when I stopped anywhere and con

Horror Scope

Well kids, it's time here in Cyrsti's Condo for the new years second "Horror-Scope"! I have rebounded a bit from the first one: Libra (September 23 - October 22) Good news is coming, and will make you feel more settled in your life and trust the direction you're taking. So, keep up the momentum and go with it, even if you don’t have all the answers! As long as you keep pace with the the action, everything will fall into place as it needs to. Yay!!!! As always, "Horror Scope" is my term and you can go get your own here !

Transgender Law

No it's not a new television show (unfortunately). My friend Bobbie  was kind enough to send along this information from a police publication called "Dealing with Transgender Subjects". Here is an excerpt: "Officers must often protect and serve members of special groups. Providing this service can bring challenges that demand agency guidance or targeted training. One such group that has rarely been seen or contacted by officers in the past has become empowered to step out and live openly in their communities. They are the transgender individuals. On every continent there is at least one culture that gives social recognition to individuals who don't fit the gender binary of male or female. Only until recently has medicine made it possible to match the individual to their appearance with surgical procedures. Our Western societies have forced these individuals underground (into "the closet") to survive by avoiding ridicule and persecution. Being trans

Blondes Do Have More Fun!

I have a friend you sends me YouTube videos which we have a fun time critiqing and everyone in a while I find one out of the transgender transition type and find a drag one like this blond bombshell drag queen:

Male Privilege

Relax, I'm not going into a contrived emotional post concerning "male priviledge". Talk about a horse that has been beaten into the ground! Recently I read a article called "Sex change patients are getting younger and are more likely to be women". That's right. "Transsexuals in Hong Kong are now seeking gender-changing surgery at a much earlier age than two decades ago, and those coming forward are more likely to be women seeking to become men. "It seems that more and more patients are in their 20s," said Dr Albert Yuen Wai-cheung, chief of service at Ruttonjee Hospital's department of surgery and the only specialist performing sex reassignment surgery at the city's public hospitals. "In the past, they were in their 30s. Now they are quite young, still studying," Yuen said. "With more information available, more are willing to see doctors." Also, women undergoing sex change operations to become men now outnu

Blond Drag Fun

I have seen a couple of this person's transformation videos and think his friend is just incredible!

Tran "S" Gender Voices

Most of us struggle with feminine vocalization in our transgender journeys. We learn early on the process involves much more than just pitch.  Many genetic women have sexy lower pitched voices. Famous examples are actresses Lauren Bacall   or Jacqueline Bisset . I recently came across this study: "How can you tell if a person is male or female just by their voice? In general, men have deeper voices than women. However, according to a study conducted by Lal Zimman, a doctoral student at The University of Colorado - Boulder at the time of his research, the style of speech can impact perceptions of a person's gender as well, not simply the pitch of his or her voice. In fact, the letter "S" can, on its own, impact people's perception of the speaker's gender." Read more here . If you are like me you need all the vocal help you can get!

Guide to Becoming More Manly!

Yes girls! A friend sent this to me (not seriously) so I will pass it along in Cyrsti's Condo to you. Put down that mascara wand and pick up that tire jack! :

Transgender Mirrors

Janie Black recently wrote a post which jogged my sleepy mind called Gender and the Wrong Body. She wrote a very thought provoking post ( here ) which basically goes into the much debated ideas of why we transgender or transsexual people feel this way. I'm going to greatly over simplify this topic by using the "born in the wrong body" argument.  Personally I can't use that as any rationalization for my status as a transgender woman. It could be argued I was born into the wrong body to hit the baseball the way I wanted or to play football the way I thought I should. OK, I can agree with those of you that are thinking "pretty shallow" Cyrsti.  You are right and wrong. Wrong in that those were important to me at the time.  Right, in that I learned to live with reality and they went away. What never went away was the idea I was somehow living life from the wrong gender perspective. You could argue I was born into the wrong body but you know you have to go w

Patience as a Transgender Virtue

Autumn Sandeen Here in Cyrsti's Condo we have discussed on occasion the power of patience. I don't have much of that specific power so I respect those who do. SO! I really respected this post I just read from Autumn Sandeen.   She is a transgender vet I've referenced before. Her article is called My Year of Bureaucratic Changes in Gender, but in reality covers the ten years since she began living as Autumn.  Here's the link  to read more but in the meantime I would s pecifically recommend all of you who are considering a transgender transition journey to check it out. Indeed, patience is a virtue!  Another virtue is Autumn writing about her experiences!

Pejic Meets Warhol

"Edie" As with many others, it seems we can't get enough of super model Andrej Pejic here in Cyrsti's Condo . Recently we posted his new cover of the Serbian Elle and even briefly discussed him in a comment response from Gina. Now he has surfaced in a fashion feature for the luxury magazine DuJour .   Not that Pejic doesn't look stunning in everything he does, but this feature channels Andrej recreating the looks of several Andy Warhol icons. Of course one can only speculate how intrigued Warhol would be with Pejic if he was alive today.   "Candy Darling" Here's an excerpt from DuJour from Glenn O'Brien (who actually knew Warhol): "Andrej is as pretty as Candy, although I’m not sure who is the more feminine character. Being feminine was definitely harder for a boy in the old days." He also goes on to state: "Andy would have been fascinated by Andrej. He liked pretty boys, and he liked boys who could impersonate girls

Princeton Beauty

Princeton's Triangle Club in 1916 produced this picture of a feminine lead to promote The Evil Eye production. The "woman" is actually F.Scott Fitzgerald. Fitzgerald was in his third year at Princeton when the musical-comedy troupe performed the bawdy lyrics penned by the future Great Gatsby writer. In a review of his performance, the Times referred to Fitzgerald as "the most beautiful" girl in the whole production. Maybe he was writing the lead for himself? For more go here .

Casey Up To Bat

Over the years, I have been a fan of certain fashion makeover shows. I believe the shows provide invaluable style advice to all transgender women- especially beginners. Normally our male based bodies have something in common with certain female bodies. An example would be a genetic woman who has broad shoulders and narrow hips. The TLC network has a show that I have watched off and on for several years called What Not To Wear who is going to makeover a transsexual woman named Casey.  To my knowledge this could be the first time the show has featured a transgender or transsexual makeover. I have seen shows over the years makeover drag queens but lets say not your cross dresser down the street. I'm biased but most of us really could use a dose of fashion advice. Here's the promo: (This season) " Other contributors in need of drastic wardrobe overhauls include Simona - an overachieving scientist who needs to ditch her comfortable duds, Tristen - a New Yorker but self-

By the Numbers

I just happened on the number of posts here in Cyrsti's Condo over the years. Similar to the increase in government expenditures recently, here are the stats: June 2010-Dec 31st- 189 posts Jan   2011-Dec 31st- 518 posts Jan   2012-Dec 31st -867 posts Only one thing to say : "Blah, Blah Blah!!!!"

We've Got Mail!

Recently I ran a post called Skip the Makeup here in Cyrsti's Condo .  It's Gina's blog and she was good enough to drop me a comment back. I mentioned the lack of any mention of Andrej Pejic in her mention of transgender models. Rightfully so, as Pejic has never outed himself as transgender. for whatever reason.  Here's more of Gina's comment! "Heh, thanks for the mention of my rather neglected blog. Mostly, for the past 2 years, I've just been reviewing books and films with trans characters rather than doing cultural commentary. I think that post was before Andrej appeared but, moreover, he's never identified himself as transgender (from what he says about himself, he sounds somewhat genderqueer but doesn't call himself that). I would never ID someone as trans if they didn't personally identify that way. Needless to say, since I wrote that there have already been a lot more stories about trans models (especially in Brazil) and at least

Horror Scope

With all the end of year activities, somehow I let our Cyrsti's Condo Horror Scope slide by! Perhaps if you read this, you will know why!  Libra (September 23 - October 22) Remember you like to get ahead of yourself a lot, thinking it's going to prepare you, but you forget that method doesn’t work for you. Slow it down, as this is when you're going to have to maneuver a bit more delicately to get what you want, as in step-by-step. Order exists for a reason in such matters, so respect it and practice it now. Dammit! I never have been one to "slow it down a bit" or "maneuver a bit more delicately"! Of course the term "Horror Scope" is my own and as always you can go to theFrisky for your own.

A Touch of Class!

We need all the "class" we can get here in Cyrsti's Condo .  I don't want you thinking "Cyrsti has a lot of class, it's just all low!" Ha ha! Perhaps you have seen me reference my transgender friend Jessye from France.  She has just embarked on a journey I started over a year ago. The road to HRT is opening for her! I could just feel her excitement in her recent e mails.  Ironically, it was only a couple nights ago on New Years Eve I was thinking about her.  During the French themed production we went to. Of course, I wondered if Jessye inherited any of the "in bred" style French women are known for and out of the clear blue (cold-snowy) sky she sent me a few! So I will pin them up here in Cyrsti's Condo for all of us to enjoy! By the way, she certainly did inherit the French sense of style!