Tuesday, April 30, 2013

HorrorScope

Do the stars move this fast or is it just me? Seems like yesterday when I posted the last HorrorScope here in Cyrsti's Condo! Regardless here is the latest:

"Libra (September 23 – October 22) Mistakes that you make now are your fault and if you waste even another second trying to blame anyone else, another egg will fly into your face. Being hopeful is great and being a genius is gift, but if you don't take that potential and use it towards being responsible in your own individual way, then you may just end up a statistic. Don't just stand up, stand out.
 Astro Guide 2013: Libra"

Whoa! A mistake that is my fault? Can't be!...just kidding.

On the serious side, I think I am moving quickly through the standing up category into the standing out part.  Hopefully in a positive way for the transgender community.

My disclaimer is "HorrorScope" is my title and you can go to theFrisky to get "scoped". It won't hurt!

I Love Ohio

Marcela Ohio Miss T Brazil 2012 Transsexual beauty.



Hi-Ho, Hi-Ho its off to Columbus we Go!

Picking up where we left off with the Trans Ohio Symposium weekend, my first two Cyrsti's Condo posts dealt with a hair appointment and ear piercing. To give you an idea again of location. Hair and ears were done in Dayton, Ohio and my home is near Springfield on the way to Columbus where the Symposium was held. Got that? It's OK, sometimes I don't either!

Due to financial considerations and only living approximately a half hour away, girlfriend and I stopped at my house and headed on to "C-bus" for the Friday night meet and greet at a place called Club Diversity. I have always liked "Diversity" because it is just that in it's clientele plus the place is decidedly low key. Have to admit the "club music mix" in most gay venues just kills me. Per norm, the entertainment on Friday was a jazz mix with a transgender singer even!

I wish I could pass along some sort of an exciting story from the evening but all in all not many showed up from the Symposium. One table of six with Chloe Prince of Pink Essence was the notable exception. I would imagine most just stayed in the hotel and mingled and did not have to worry about drinking and driving.

None of that mattered to Liz and I as we enjoyed each other's company and the music. We had a couple of beverages and the day had been long and exciting anyway - so we picked up some "gourmet slider" burgers and took off for home. Soon it would be time to do it all again Saturday!

Kim Lya Transsexual Model

Like many other boys growing up, Kim Lya felt increasingly uneasy in his own skin. He just could not understand why he felt trapped in his own body. At first, Kim thought he might be gay. But this was not the answer. One day he read an article about transsexuality and from there on, knew why he had felt so unhappy.




Monday, April 29, 2013

It's Prom Time!

Enjoy this seasonal post from a self professed Teen Drag Queen on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen. I love how things have changed since my prom days...before electric lights!

No Pain-No Gain

Going back to the previous post, gf and I headed back towards my house on the way to Columbus from the hair salon and stopped to get my ears pierced.

Once again here I was putting myself at the mercy of a person who was going to hurt me! I hitched up my big girl panties, went into the lion's den and got two extra holes in my body. OK, I am a huge sissy and was trying my best to play any sympathy cards I could. But in the end I just had to be a big girl and withstand a little pain I equated with just getting a shot.

Of course I got no sympathy and my whimpering did no good but it turned out the ear piercing details in the fine print were the real surprise.  As I went blissfully on with my piercing less life, I just figured after the pain and suffering I could go out and buy some gypsy style big hoop earrings and get rolling! Well, not so fast girl. I found I can't do anything about having fun with different styles for at least four to six weeks. Plus I have to be very diligent about cleaning the piercings day and night and rotating the earrings to make sure the holes stay open. The only problems for me?  Waiting four to six weeks for anything and remembering to be gentle when I brush my hair off my face. Of course I found out the hard way when the next morning the first thing I did was knock the back piece off of one of the new earrings-never to be seen again. SO off we went back to the torture chamber to get the ear re pierced and a new earring put in.

Let it never be said the most effective learning process for me is getting knocked up the side of the noggin. Just as effective though is getting a hole drilled in your ear lobe!

Before I knew it, the time had come to wipe the tears from my eyes and head to Columbus for some pre Trans Ohio Symposium fun!


Will the Circle be Unbroken?

Friday I went to my fourth visit to my hair stylist at a salon called Square One in Dayton, Ohio.  (They have also expanded to Columbus) Square One certainly does not need my "plug" on their incredible expertise...they are great!  I would be remiss though if I did not mention the amazing amount of AIDS research money the owners have been instrumental in raising.

At any rate my "wonder weekend" finally was getting underway as I sat down in the chair in front of "Abby" my stylist/magician. The plan was to highlight my hair for the first time. Yes, I did have a vague idea I would be one of those women waiting around with aluminum foil in their hair hoping no thunderstorms were in the building...and I was.

As always, I'm having a difficult time coming up with a decent picture showing how the highlights came out but this is some sort of an idea on the left taken two days after the salon when I got back home Sunday.

Already, my hair was responding to a rainy fairly humid day. (Or trying to party like I was 30 again). I will have to work harder to try to show the copper highlights to you. This pic is also a fairly good representation of how I'm working harder to tone the makeup down to a bit of eyeliner, foundation and lip gloss.

My girlfriend was coming up from **Cincinnati to meet me in Dayton for a cup of coffee and hang out for a while before we headed to Columbus, but as luck and the timing Goddess would have it, she ended up meeting me at the salon.
Then, all of the sudden (since both her and Abby know of my sarcastic sense of humor) my hair highlighting experience became highlighting a harassing Cyrsti experience...Wait a minute? Wasn't I the one paying to get this abuse??? I know, the process was just a fun initiation into their sorority. You can believe me too,  I can give it out as well as I can take it!

Finally though the aluminum foil was removed and the heavenly shampoo and styling was next.  When Abby finally let me take a sneak peek in the mirror, I nearly passed out with euphoria! Well, that could be a bit dramatic but my mind was doing all these cartwheels in my noggin! I'm always so happy, I think I am probably much like a little kid and essentially it's true. I do have to remind Abby this girl stuff is still so new to me. Don't hesitate to give me her insights! Tell me things and never take for granted I have much knowledge about aluminum foil and hair!  Come on now, all this time I only thought foil was only good for cooking.  Friday I learned though what foil was really for when I looked in the mirror and how Abby used it to work her magic.

As I have mentioned, the visit to the magician was only the beginning of the weekend.  The next stop was a little more painful but just as satisfying!



** To give you a little reference on mileage and such, I live about 20 minutes outside of Dayton, 40 minutes outside of Columbus and about an hour or so from Cincinnati.




She's...Baaaack!

Hello all, I think being MIA (missing in action) from Cyrsti's Condo for two days was like leaving my daughter overnight with the parents for the first time when she was tiny.

The much anticipated Trans Ohio Symposium has come and gone and of course I have a ton of observations and info to pass along!

The biggest observation was I'm way to old to party down in Columbus two nights in a row like I used to plus get my hair done and my ears pierced the day before I went.

The second pleasant surprise to me was the trans youth who attended the symposium, specifically the number of transgender men. AT least one third of the attendees were trans guys according to my unofficial stats and I think the lead organizers were too.

Obviously, I have way more thoughts to come. I'm going to try to start at the beginning Friday with my hair appointment in the next post!

Friday, April 26, 2013

Transgender Advocate

As I begin an exciting weekend at the Trans- Ohio Symposium, I thought I would pass along this YouTube video from transgender advocate Janet Mock on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen. Side note : Janet is not scheduled to be there but her thoughts certainly will be!



Thursday, April 25, 2013

Night before Christmas?

Today was a little anti climatic as my stylist called in sick and cancelled my hair appointment. Fortunately I was able to reschedule my first ever highlight color treatment tomorrow (Friday) and then go to get my ears pierced and go to the Trans-Ohio mixer at night.

I feel like a kid on Christmas Eve!

Transgender Gossip

Late Wednesday afternoon I received a surprise e mail from a marketing person from the VH-1 show "The Gossip Game".  It turns out she linked to Cyrsti's Condo and my email from Matt Kailey's well respected Tranifesto blog.

Coming up Monday the Gossip Game show will include a reasonably intense segment concerning one of the shows mother's transgender son. OK, really intense in spots.

I have to tell you I have scanned the show in the past a couple times and while it is true I just may happen to participate in some gossip from time to time- BUT - I do try to steer clear of extra drama in my life. Which is what this show obviously is built on!  The women on this estrogen charged show come in with their nails pre sharpened for the cat fight.

OK, I know what you are thinking...come on Cyrsti, get with the program out there in middle America. Ratings are everything and why not throw in a transgender son? I get all that but here is why I liked the way this was handled:

First of all the problem was set up basically with a gay slur hurled at one woman about her gay daughter. The first thing her son Kayden said emphatically I'm not gay I'm a transitioning straight male. I'm transgender.
Kayden and Vivian (right) Photo VH-1
From there Mom and son went down a few very predictable paths on his lifestyle. What wasn't so predictable about this show was I didn't see the nice "trans fluff"I have seen recently. You know the show. Family accepts trans kid. Trans kid does well at school and Dr. Marcy Bowers awaits in the future with the magic SRS surgery to seal the gender deal. An over simplification to be sure and I'm not saying the transgender culture does not desperately need all the good public relations we can get. Gossip Game though,  took the time to look at the behind the scenes anguish and tears most of us have experienced in this world.

Finally, for this post-the flat out acceptance of her child by Mom should be a model for all mothers. Certainly Mom didn't understand or even agree with her son's decisions but hell would be paid by anyone else who slammed her son.

VH-1 is sending me some images to pass along to you and as soon as they do I will post them.

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Pavel Arambula

Mexican female impersonator Pavel Arambula on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:



Fun in "C-Bus"!

"C-bus" is an abbreviation used for "Columbus, Ohio" the site of the 5th annual Trans Ohio Symposium. As you probably know by now, I'm presenting a workshop on the subject of transitioning later in life.

After I saw the lineup of other presenters, not only was I humbled to be added-I was just a little scared. I've always thought though I was better in what ever I tried if I did have a touch of fear of the unknown pushing me. We will certainly find out Saturday afternoon!

Whatever I'm able to add or not add to this transgender education effort , the chance to have some fun is definitively in the mix!

Tomorrow (Thursday) is my appointment to add highlights to my hair at the salon and Friday I'm getting my ears pierced for the first time. That's all wonderful but Friday night I'm really looking forward to the Symposium's "Meet and Greet". It's in a place called "Club Diversity" downtown which is in an old Victorian house and not in a big faceless room in the hotel where the event is. BUT  I'm normally pretty shy at interacting with a group of strangers like this.  It will be interesting to see if any of the trans "big timers" attend.  Yes, I could easily be a groupie!!!! Ironically, it's my girlfriend who really wants to meet several of these peeps!

Then there is Saturday night.  My girlfriend identifies as a femme lesbian and I have very little interest in men so we are really interested in going to this:


"Fabulously Fluid!, Ohio’s only genderbent performance showcase, brings a diverse show about the fluidity of gender, with performances ranging from trans* performance, drag, burlesque, performance art, music, and dance. The show will be hosted by the fantastic drag king extraordinaire, Cool Ethan, and Midwest GenderQueer!" This doesn't seem like one of those normal you have seen it all before drag shows.

I have to admit, I don't consider as much as I should the rapidly expanding influence of the trans male in our community. I have a lot of tunnel vision as far as the content goes here in Cyrsti's Condo but I have one trans man friend in particular who has opened my eyes to his transition.

So I'm fairly certain I will live through my presentation and do the best I can but the two "events' which are in downtown C-bus should make the whole weekend worthwhile.

RuPaulogize

Far be it for me to pass along anything which makes fun of "Rude Paul" but I really needed to turn the sound up on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen for this YouTube video by William Belli

Transgender Transition with a capital "T"!

The only comment I can add to this trans woman's transition video is WOW  Then again is this too good? One of the comments suggested a possible brother/sister team on this? I have seen quite a few amazing transition videos but many of them mention Facial Feminization Surgery (FFS).  I don't think it was brought up here. At any rate take a look:


Tuesday, April 23, 2013

More Alphabet Soup for Dinner

Certainly I'm not one to go overboard on a topic (yeah right!) But my excuse on this one is I got involved in a discussion on another site and figured I would bring it back to Cyrsti's Condo for all of you. Nothing earth shattering and very much my "norm" on the subject:

"I would like to "jump" back in here and throw out my ideas of why the "T" is silent in the gay community.

 First and foremost we have allowed it to be and I don't believe the reasons why are all negative. For so many years we so polarized in our community we were frozen in time. We did not benefit from visible celebrity people coming out trans. We didn't and really still don't have all the "Ellen's" and "Anderson's" etc. It's barely a surprise when a celeb comes out these days. On the other hand, an overwhelming number of people in our culture went from one closet before they transitioned to another when they went stealth. We had no role models until trans leaders began to appear through the magic of the internet and social media. 

 Nearly as important is we don't have near the financial impact the gay and lesbian culture has. In fact it's the opposite. We are truly the poor brothers and sisters under the so called rainbow. In fact, I can see why some of the G's and L's probably think we are riding their coattails because normally all we could bring to the table were very vague silent numbers...so they tossed us in to their group only when it was convenient for them. Recently though I am encouraged. We are seeing more and more of our folks demanding a seat at the table. The more of us who do so in any small way will certainly open those doors we have been knocking on. Let me reinforce again how impressed I am with the young trans women and men today. Sooner more than later their efforts will enable the T to be an equal and functioning full partner in the LGBT movement.

  I'm also impressed with the cooperative feel I've gotten from my visits across the web and other places. The trans "sisters of the cloth" are to a person a HUGE improvement over the old hierarchy of transsexual  girls looking down on the transgender girls who look down on the cross dressers. Doesn't take a genius to figure out we are stronger as a group. Certainly the G's and L's aren't totally all the same but they seem to make it work. I really think our trans future is as bright as any of us have ever seen it."

They are Everywhere!

Well at least bunches of guys shaving their beards, using all sort of tags such as cross dresser and transgender in the same sentence (like I just did) and coming up with quite a few dramatic male to female transitions like this one are.  Check it out!

Horror Scope

The clouds have parted kids and it's time for star gazing in Cyrsti's Condo. Yes it's time for another "Horrorscope":

Libra (September 23-October 22): You will need to make a choice between two people you love, as one will need priority over the other. Sacrifice sucks, but it is do or die time and where you place your energy now will matter. However, that doesn’t mean you have to give up anyone; just think of it as prioritizing. But don’t be shortsighted, as fate will pay out accordingly from here.

WELL!  Let me see if I can sort through this and if I do, I will get back with you!!!  OK I'm back.

First of all, love is a word I don't toss around easily. Basically there are only three people I love and one is me! Just kidding but you do have to like yourself to like others. The other two are personal non competing personages in my life. So I'm just going to abstain on this "scope" and wait till next week! Yes procrastination is fun!

Please remember "Horrorscope" is my term and you can go to theFrisky for yours!

While you are there, I'm going to give you another link you may want to take a quick look at.
I read so many notes here and there from transgender women who are waiting for that wonderful guy to show up and sweep them away  You probably know a big portion of the female population is in the same boat as you and they think it is the Titantic! This however is a fun look at the dating dance  and is written in a delicious cynical prose!
from a young genetic woman's viewpoint  Believe me,  it's not boring
It's called The Slut Shamer

Monday, April 22, 2013

Carlotta

From the Star Observer:


"Australian transgender pioneer and Sydney nightlife royalty, Carlotta, (above) will have her groundbreaking story told in an upcoming ABC1 telemovie. The first transgender surgery patient to come to public attention – and notoriety – in the 1970s, Carlotta was the headline act of the iconic Kings Cross cabaret show Les Girls in 1960s and ’70s. The performer collaborated with writer David Hannam to tell her inspiring story. Carlotta will be a “universal story about identity, family, tolerance and acceptance”, the ABC said today. “Carlotta lays bare the life of a confused teenager named Richard, his flight into the hedonistic Kings Cross of the ’60s and ’70s, and his transformation into Carol.”


Here's your link!  Unfortunately it looks as if a genetic actress will play the part of Carlotta.

Jessica YES!

As the sun rises over the snow capped mountains and the clear blue beaches, I'm enjoying a morning "cup o joe" on my rear deck here in Cyrsti's Condo...Huh? Just kidding kids, none of that stuff here where I live in Ohio! But, life (along with the traffic) continues to move by at "warped" speed**...a take off from the "Star Trek" movin picture shows of which there is a new one coming out soon.

 Speaking of coming out, I can't think of a more effective way to do it than Jessica last night on the television network VH 1.   The Jessica I'm speaking of also hosts the very entertaining and accomplished Jessica Who web site which is linked here in our blog. Last night as I was finishing my normal day of moving from one unmovable object to another I happened upon a show called "I married a...Cross Dresser". I quickly turned it on and saw a very familiar face Jessica/Louis and thought wow I have chatted with her and her she is!!! Then I began to wonder how in the world had I almost missed this?  DUH! That's must have been what that link to her blog was all about...duh! Like I said I'm used to spending periods of time in other dimensions or being referred to as a "ditz"

Bottom line is I cannot say how wonderful the interaction between Jessica,  wife PG and Mom was portrayed. The raw emotions we encounter as transgender, cross dresser or transsexual persons were all on display. I can't speak for Jessica but I really don't believe in using the "brave" term with me so I won't with her and PG. I will say her coming out was courageous and complete. If you are an acquaintance of Louis today, you met Jessica last night!

Obviously the more Jessica's of the world who are able to gain access to such a major public platform and use it in such a positive way will go light years (Star Trek again) in helping others out of very dark closets!

I'm adding one of the video's from the show for you plus a couple links to follow for more!

Thanks Jess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




**I use two twisted terms from the Star Trek movin' picture shows of which there is a new one coming out soon. The other favorite term is "Beam me up Scotty, there is no intelligent life down here".

So Wrong but So Right

This person did his best to slam every search term into this Crysti's Condo big screen video He slaughtered "transgendered" and then threw it in with drag queen and even some sort of a male to female wording. One thing is sure though, he sure knows his way around drag makeup!


 

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Make Up Bargains

As we all know, cost does not always equal quality. It's also true in makeup according to Amanda Storey on the Yahoo Fashionate Beauty Blog who writes:


"I am a drugstore beauty product addict. It all started when I began hoarding my lunch money and spending it on fashion magazines instead of pizza slices. I would flip through in amazement at all of the beautiful women and mentally take note of all of their makeup looks. One particular ad featuring, then model-of-the-moment Milla Jovovich, prompted my first makeup purchase ever. L'Oreal Drumbeat Red lipstick. I saved up $7, a lot for a fifteen year old with zero income, and headed to my local drugstore. I had to keep it a secret because my Mom wouldn't approve of me wearing lipstick, especially red. I wore that lipstick to my first school dance and wearing red ever since! Fast forward to my early years of working as a Makeup Artist in a department store. I worked with my best friend and we were surrounded by luxury makeup all day. We would constantly play, tempt each other with new product discoveries and encourage one another to buy things because "you have to have it!" Following a long hard day of prettifying people, we would hop in my car and set out for our secret hideaway, the drugstore beauty department. In a department store $30 might get you a great lipstick, but in a drugstore you'd walk out with a haul of eyeshadows, brushes, lipsticks and foundation. There is something so satisfying about spending a little and getting a lot. It was during this time, the fever-pitch of my bargain makeup addiction, that I discovered some of my "I can't live without" drugstore makeup products."

Read on here for more of her ideas!

Transgender Mothers?

I picked up this interesting story from Monica Roberts TransGriot site:

"Doctors successfully transplanted a donor uterus from a deceased woman into now 22 year old Derya Cert, a Turkish woman born without one but who had functioning ovaries. Being born without a uterus affects one in every 5000 women and until this procedure came along meant that the woman in question would be childless. A uterus transplant has been attempted once before by a medical team in Saudi Arabia back in 2000. The womb came from a live donor but failed after 99 days due to heavy blood clotting and was removed from the patient receiving it. Medical centers in Sweden and the United States are also working on perfecting uterine transplant medical technology and the medical procedures and drugs necessary to prevent the body from rejecting the transplanted organ. Cert became the first woman in the world to have a successful transplant from a deceased woman, which raises the hopes of women that are in a similar situation to hers that they could one day undergo the procedure once the techniques are refined and give birth to their own biological children."


"We've long wistfully expressed the sentiment in transworld if only trans men and trans women could swap body parts. It's becoming increasingly possible that a trans man when having the hysterectomy could designate it be donated to a trans woman for implantation. But if they did so, this is a situation in which cis privilege would aggressively assert itself. If that trans man donated their uterus, it would probably get prioritized toward being given to a cis woman without one. Trans women would be extremely far down the transplant list despite the desires of some of us to be fruitful and multiply. That research is also geared at this time toward helping infertile couples, not giving trans women the ability to give birth to biological children of their own But that shouldn't stop us from doing hard solid thinking about reproductive rights issues, procreation and the potentially game altering way that uterine transplant medical technology that hones its procedures and becomes as common as heart and other organ transplants could one day be applied to trans women. . The trans community definitely needs to be having these conversations about where we fit in this equation and think about what happens if they perfect uterine transplants. Could testicular ones be on the horizon next?"

Opens a lot of potential doors doesn't it?  Go here for more of the story.

Outing Myself

I believe I have mentioned that I finally stepped up and out by joining my local equality LGBT group.  This is huge in the sense those who talked behind my back will have to find someway else to entertain themselves.

Regardless of the outcome for all of them, I had to do what I had to do. Ironically I became involved in an in depth discussion with one of my long time friends who has stayed in the closet. (I do not begrudge him any of that.) All too quickly we jumped into one of my favorite soapbox topics: Stealth in the transgender culture. Here's how it started. I said I was completely surprised this group had no out transgender person, knowledge of our culture and almost no reference to it.


He said: "Okay, here ya go: (1) I believe that transition is about M to F or F to M paths, and if you chose to take that step you should know a little about the difficulty in getting to the end point. (2) I can see that some percentage of newly arrived F's and M's want to do something aligned with their attained gender and not risk that position by entering politics. That's their choice. On the other hand I don't have an issue with providing a little friendly support to someone on the journey, but I also disdain noisy in-your-face political activity completely."

The last reference was in response to my statement I was going to go to meetings and saying something about the lack of representation. Here is an abbreviated version of my response as I ignored the in-your-face comment:

"As far as the "going stealth" deal goes, I can see both sides of the story. Certainly we all know how incredibly difficult it is to switch genders and each is entitled to take their marbles and go home.  I do believe however that stealth is inherently wrong and will become unique to our generation. (Strictly speaking)  I attribute stealth to not risking yourself at all and it's the same as failing to cover another troop on the live BCT (basic training) range in the Army...but I know that is a bit dramatic. (We were both in the Army and I used it as a point of reference.)

You ask why I think the kids are doing it right? My latest big example was "Devon" on the Katie Couric Show.  I think in a couple of years she too will fade into the fiber of society to live as happily ever after as any of us can but she was totally stealth and still took a moment to come out and pay forward. I think the number of YouTube videos and the number of blogs are a sign of how these kids are building a better future for transgender people of the future. Their generation will change stealth to life on their terms and it just will fade away as a outmoded term. If you deal in semantics they will be going stealth and just living life on the same playing field as anyone else which is all we can ask for.

Now, let me point out of why getting surgery and going stealth didn't work for our generation. Did we indeed just jump from one closet to another? Yes! We did as all of the sudden we are waking up and realizing the transgender populace is the most legally discriminated minority in the country."

As the conversation moved on I used an example of an old mutual acquaintance from the mid 80's.  She went through SRS moved out West, married a man and became a very successful business person. Absolutely one of the most exuberant natural women I have ever met. Back to the chat:

"Susan" of course is the classic good transition example of a transsexual person we both know.  But now if she lived in Arizona and not in another state, all of the sudden she may have to produce a female birth certificate to even pee in a women's room.  If she was born here in Ohio she still can't get her birth cert changed by SRS. Was she mandated to make a statement? No. Should have she? Her call. I'm only using her as an example of my perceived epidemic generational transgender stealth problem.

The kids on the other hand, are realizing they better start screaming to get laws changed because no matter how good they look (Devon) a company can just up and fire them for being trans or can't even find a place to pee.

Before you accuse me of throwing huge rocks in glass houses,  I can rationalize my lack of action by saying I started late and didn't know how far I was going with this and then I get really torn by nights like last night. You know I have never felt I could go stealth no matter how hard I tried-but I could have been there last night. So now what do I do?

You are completely right to ask me why would I jeopardize all of that work over the years? The honest answer is at my age I'm in the home stretch of my life and I know due to very unpleasant circumstances in my life, I'm left with less to lose than others.

So bottom line, I should do some public work before I fade into whatever the next reality happens to be.  If I don't and there is another stopping point in eternity I would have to put transgender inaction in the loss column. My blog, Trans Ohio workshop and the Equality group are efforts to soften the defeat.  I will get back to you on the results!"

As you can tell, I flat out wore the "soap box" out!


Saturday, April 20, 2013

So Sweet!

Almost had to refill the tissue box in the Cyrsti's Condo screening room today. Earlier I finally came to the conclusion I would have loved to have Humphrey Bogart's baby- then I saw this:

Feminine Privilege

It's just odd to me how some days just get into a karma flow and never seem to change until the sun comes up on a new day. I posted yesterday about how the day just started all warm and fuzzy girl like and then actually finished that way. If I was a surfer I would compare the day to riding a big smooth wave.

Last night I received a coupon on my email for a food item discount at one of my regular "haunts" and decided to use it.  I could eat and watch the Reds baseball game on one of their 2 zillion big screens, come home and get ready to help girlfriend with yard work today...a decidedly  non gender specific project.

Life was good in my girl world as guys opened doors for me and let me go first in narrow spots filled with others celebrating  One even made sure I got his seat as he was leaving with a grand sweep of his hand. (As close as I have ever come to a man pulling out a seat for me.) I thought Wow! I like this.

As all princess stories go though, they loose their buzz like that donut I'm eating will-shortly.

I would be remiss somehow if I labeled this under real female privilege so you notice I tossed it under "feminine privilege".  Just a few warm and fuzzies guys can do to women to make us feel better. Trans woman or not I was basking in the interior glow. Could it be I was becoming my dreaded "stealth" person? BUT: I'm not one to look a "gift horse in the mouth" because I have spent an incredible amount of time looking at or being a accused of being the other end of the horse.

I packed up my warm and fuzzies and headed home knowing I would need them today after a 30 degree temperature drop over the past two days. The "princess" doesn't have enough subjects to help tackle my girlfriend's yard. Such is life!

Friday, April 19, 2013

Japanese Cross Dressing

It's no secret Japanese guys cross dress into knock out women.
There have been several videos out for quite a while from a show featuring Japanese boyfriends being entered into this show by their girlfriends. (I think). At any rate I'm going to pass along this video on the Cysrti's Condo big screen and you can go from there. This is my favorite from the set because it seems the potential for so much more happening is there.
Hats off to the Japanese for having a show like this on television!


New Drag Queen Of Bollywood

Actually this is not so new and I have seen pictures of this actor before.  I have not seem him presented any other way so I thought I would pass this along on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:




Obviously he is taking advantage of those very expensive breast forms!

Monday Night Highlights?

This morning I played role reversal sports with my girlfriend.  We were exchanging a few morning texts and she was trying to tell me which prime time games the Bengals were playing this upcoming season. However I was as insistent asking her ideas about highlighting my hair.  This coming week is salon hair visit before the Trans Ohio Symposium. The highlighting process is a little more expensive so I was wondering if I had to repeat the whole process on every visit. (No)

She asked was I feeling especially girly this morning since she was talking football and I was talking hair.

Actually I was.  Many of you loyal readers to Cyrsti's Condo know I identify transgender and not transsexual because I don't feel the pressing need for SRS.  Ideally I suppose you could label me as gender fluid too as some days I do feel more girly than others.

Looking back on a rather long and interesting life on the gender frontier, the more things change the more they stay the same. HRT or not, I think I was always very much the same person.  I just crushed the idea of thinking of "girl stuff" before "boy stuff". I dislike dealing in stereotypes but damn I still love my sports but I love them even more when my "girl fluid" is high.

Classic Cross Dressing Clip

Remembering an episode of dual cross dressing on the old "Boy Meets World" television series:


Thursday, April 18, 2013

Cross Dressing Geometry

Two hundred ninety years ago when I was in high school working very hard not to flunk geometry, I thought  just what the hell would I use it for anyhow? My Dad pointed out some sort of geometric knowledge of angles may work to improve my worse than terrible pool game.  I hated pool and still didn't care. I was motivated somewhat by my Mom who said flunk it and goodbye college and hello Army. So I managed a C-.

Years later, I finally found a use for geometry in....body styles and fashion! I may have paid more attention in class if someone had explained my body was the "inverted triangle" type and to shop accordingly as a girl.

We have discussed the inverted triangle here in Cyrsti's Condo. The majority of transgender women and cross dressers probably have this body shape.

To refresh all of you who have short memory spans like me, here's a definition from my new fave fashion site "Fabulous After 40" :

"If your body resembles an inverted-triangle it means you have broad shoulders, narrow hips, an undefined waist and a large bust in proportion to the rest of your body. You kind of always look like you are wearing shoulder pads when you are not , or a better way to say it is you have a swimmer’s shape."

For more really great hints to put your best girl-self forward, go here and in the meantime we will finish up with this great tip from the "Fab" :

"As I (Deborah) mentioned earlier a gal with this figure type has a large bust in proportion to the rest of her body. While that’s pretty sexy when you’re young, after 40 when everything starts to sag and bulk up you can look really top heavy and matronly. So my tip to you get a great bra that hikes your breasts up and off your tummy. Your bust should sit halfway between your shoulders and your elbow. The perkier you look, the more youthful you will look."

Great stuff...right? All you "Dolly Parton" wannabe's still have a shot if you do it right!

Please don't stare in the mirror and hate yourself and definitely,  do not be a victim and think you can't improve your feminine image! Remember sites such "Fabulous After 40" can help you dramatically... if you adapt their knowledge to yourself.

 I'm very sure they have no idea their knowledge speaks to the very core of who we are and how we are struggling to present ourselves to the world. But then again our fashion goals are the same as any other genetic woman.

More than likely those stylish women you admire so much are have already read and benefited from this information! Now where's that damn geometry book. I'm sure I can raise my grade to a "C"!

Just When You Thought

Well maybe you didn't think but I thought I was getting too serious about my transgender life....soooo why not pass along a little fun on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:


Cool to be Trans?

As a culture I wonder sometimes if we will ever reach the cultural pizzazz of the gay culture or are we doomed to be boring. Will there ever be the equivalent of the Trans Housewives of Columbus, Ohio on the thousand channels of boring television?
Before you all want to medicate me again, let me give you some examples of where this is coming from.

When I was beginning to really explore the world, I did run into the occasional "trans-groupie". Normally this person was a young 20 something female. She just had to talk to me. It's not important to explore the whys now, I can only say the phenomenon doesn't happen with me much anymore. I'm just a trans girl in the world.

On occasion I have mentioned the "Bravo" television network which has to be the "gayest" effort since "Logo" The network has more than it's fair share of male gay shows as well as the occasional lesbian effort mixed in (Tabitha).  As I always do, I was wondering where the transgender show was? Then I knew-we weren't getting discriminated against-we are boring!

Our lives are different and compelling.  We are fighting to be accepted and to be extended basic human liberties.  We are fighting to build or maintain quality lives. Our suicide rate is ridiculously high and we can't get a job. Worse still, some people think it's OK to hurt us physically.

The entertainment flair of the gay community just isn't there and our stories are still too heavy for light viewing.  Change is happening as more and more of us decide to come out and be role models and not go stealth but still:

If one of us does hit the mainstream such as serious transsexual actress Laverne Cox (above) what entertainment chance does she have to overcome the ignorant flamer Rue Paul and his merry band of drag queens?

Bottom line is we have a very serious battle going on to define even where we pee. I guess the occasional wide eyed groupie asking where I bought my purse and the Bravo television show are going to have to wait.


Sex Safe Fashion

From the "Tuoitren" Vietnam News:

"Transsexual singer Huong Giang, who ended up in the top ten of the 2012 Vietnam Idol singing reality show, doesn’t mind donning a heavy dress made of 2,000 condoms as part of a community campaign to normalize condoms."

For the story, go here.

Check this Out

Perhaps you have read about or have seen this story which went viral:
" Thanks to being posted on Reddit, a Facebook post from a dad who sided with his son when the toddler asked for a copy of Disney's animated series about a princess, Sofia the First.


"The father, whose name has been redacted, recounts how he was standing in line at Walmart with his son when a display advertising Sofia the First caught the child's eye. After initially telling his son the family already had plenty of movies at home, a man in another line imposed some harsh gender-policing, telling the child, "You don't want to grow up like a mommy, you want to grow up to be like daddy." That's when the boy's dad stepped in, replying, "Actually, I just want him to grow up to be whatever he is supposed to be … and if that's a boy that likes princess movies, then great." The bystander, who the father simply labels "Moron," then gets outright explicit in warning the father that his son might turn out "funny" — you know, he might like boys. The dad's quippy response? "And I'd love him just as much … and he'd probably smell better as a teenager." Then an elderly woman in line behind the family offers the icing on the cake."

Go here for the icing!

I think the flavor should be called "Mind your own business Moron, the future doesn't need you."

We Got Mail

Yesterday I received this comment from Pat  concerning the "Pedestal or the Heels" post here in Cyrsti's Condo. To give you a little background, I was writing about my experience with two other transgender friends in a small gay venue. Part of what I said:

"At the least our little group was educational to a largely uninformed gay populace".  The reply:

"You hit the nail on the head. Because the common acronym is LGBT there is an assumption that those represented by each of the letters understand the others. This is clearly not the case with "T" people. I do not live in "fool's paradise" so I do not delude myself into think that at 6'1" and 240 lbs that too many people confuse me with being a GG. As such I tend to not get out with the civilian population but I do feel safe at an ever growing number of primarily gay venues. I like to go and strike up conversations with people. This past Friday I went to a gay bar. I had an extended conversation with a very nice 70 year old man. He said that he has known he was gay since childhood but freely admitted that he knew nothing about cross dressers. He said that he was told that men who wear dresses are mostly gay. I had the chance to fill him in on the concept that there is a very broad and wide spectrum from the occasional closet dresser to the surgically completed TS. I mentioned to him that most CDs are hetero and that it is estimated that the incidence of CDs being gay may be similar to the percentage of gays in the over all population. Normally, when I go out to the bars I am the first to head home to bed but since this guy was 10 years my senior he took his leave before I did."
 "Sitting next to me on the other side were two women. They were together and had been partaking of adult beverages for a while. We had several nice conversations with much of my talk being to educate them about "T"s and the fallacy that 'one size fits all' does not pertain to "T" people with any more accuracy than it does to pantyhose. Simply stated, based on my own frequenting of LGBT venues, it seems that the gay population does not have any better understanding of 'T' people than the overall population at large. As such, I do consider my time spent in conversations at such venues to be a form of education."

Indeed a wonderful job of educating the public Pat! Can not say it enough that the rest of the LGB triangle knows little about us. You may exceed the GG size limits and you also exceed with your
courage and heart! Thanks!!!!

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Is All Publicity Good Publicity?


Gertrude Kachenis
I wonder sometimes if these guys who compete in womanless beauty pageants know  their pictures bounce around the web and end up like places like Cyrsti's Condo and ton of other sites? For some I'm sure they are flattered while some may be embarrassed. In some cases that's a whole ton of make up and looks to live down with the guys!

Here's the question. Did the womanless pageant participant "practice" by cross dressing at home in the closet for years?   Of course for the most part we will never know.


The reason I brought this up is I found yet another womanless pageant coming from the deep south of the US. Go here for more.

Hey Gertrude! If you are reading this gf, I will never tell!

Days Gone By

It's no real secret that more than a few of the peeps in our community have a highly idealized view of women. Especially the ones who have really not socialized as a trans woman with women.

I have mentioned a number of times I augment my meager retirement earnings by buying a selling "collectibles" or as some say old junk! If you are familiar with shows such as American Pickers  that's me on an itty bitty scale.

On a recent pick, I ran across a 1965 Luella Cuming Course in feminine social awareness, poise and gracious living. IF you are one of those who wish the world would rewind and women should socialize this way-this is a perfect book for you. IF you just want to take a look back into a long gone era, it's very cool too! IF you just want to shock your preteen grand daughters with this book like I did-it's worth it!

Go here for a better look, price and pictures. It's towards the top towards the left hand side.

















BCGT 101

You transgender vets know the abbreviation "BCT" stands for basic training or used to. I just tossed in "G" for girl because we are so fond of labels and abbreviations in the transgender culture.

Earlier this morning I was out buying shipping supplies to send out a couple of my sold collectibles and found myself in familiar/unfamiliar territory.
As I was walking through the store, I unconsciously was moving from my hips and thus taking smaller steps. Finally my muscle memory and not conscious thought was moving me into the increasingly more familiar feminine movement territory. As with most anything else related to transitioning gender, there is a ton of information on how to adapt to feminine movements. And as with everything else in my life, I have a very difficult time reading directions plus god forbid following them. I did find a simpler down to earth link though I thought I would pass on called "Differences in Walking in Men and Women.".

Here's an excerpt:

"Men, for the most part are larger than women; their bodies are built for physical work. Walking for men, from a physiological stand point, is utilitarian. The purpose of walking is to achieve a specific function, get from place to place. As such, the walking movements of men tend to be straight and linear. Women tend to move more gracefully, swinging their hips and taking shorter "feminine" steps. The legs rarely go very far apart in long strides, even when walking swiftly. Women still walk to get from point a to point b, but their movements and walking style are influenced by years of evolution. From an evolutionary standpoint, walking style for women has served to attract men and get a mate. Shoes The kinds of shoes that men and women wear also influence the way they walk. For example, men who wear work boots will have added bulky weight on their feet. This results in a sloppier walk with less precision and control. Women who wear high heels would find it difficult to walk in heels if they did not control the exact movements of each step."

Follow the link above for more very simple but then again a very basic look at gender differences.

While we are on the subject of basics allow me to climb up on my soapbox and mention three of my transition basics:

!.- Diet
2.-Skin Care
3.-Research

Diet is self explanatory although I'm not saying go out and start a "super model" starvation diet. If you can't control that man's beer belly of yours with pair of industrial strength "Spanx" then you have a problem.
Skin care is so basic! The more you take care of your skin the better canvas you provide for your makeup. The less is more makeup principal takes it from there.
Research we always talk about here in Cyrsti's Condo. There is such an enormous amount of information in certain medias these days, there is no excuse not to get ideas.  The problem is sorting out the fantasy from the real woman info.

Finally I have a version of what is essentially a fantasy look at women coming up in my next post.

Before My Time!

I found this incredibly clear video on YouTube of famed female impersonator Julian Eltinge from 1929:

Enjoy!


Tuesday, April 16, 2013

The Wizard of Oz

Ozzie
Here's a different experience. I stopped at a store yesterday coming back from my daughter's house to pick up some much needed peanut butter cookies. As I was checking out the clerk (same age as I) said "Has anyone told you you look like Ozzie Osborn?"

Even my normal sarcastic self was at a loss for a comment except..."Really?" Then I started to think on the way home between cookie bites and fighting my dog for the crumbs...hell she was right! I was wearing a slight amount of eye makeup and for some reason lately my skin has been on the pale side so with my hair pulled back and in male clothes I probably did somewhat resemble the "Oz" with my HRT softened skin.

I did tell her that I do attribute parts of my hearing loss from going early Black Sabbath concerts when Ozzie was part of the band... and was she going to be attending "OzzFest" in Columbus this summer?

Could have been worse. She could have said I looked like Aerosmith's Steven Tyler! (below)




Giving Credit

Here is a follow up post looking back at the Phil Donahue show.  I always try to give credit on any information I find on the web.
The video I posted came through Monica Robert's Trangriot blog and here is an excerpt:


"Phil Donahue's talk show based out of Chicago started in 1970 and was the gold standard in that genre for years. Phil had the number one rated talk show in the 80's and early 90's before Oprah took that title away and his show canceled in 1996. He was one of the first talk show hosts to discuss trans issues and for the most part did so without sensationalizing it. These shows were a huge assist in terms of me and other trans people during that time trying to gather information on trans issues during the pre-Internet era. However, watching them with our second decade of the 21st century evolution on these issues and terms we use in the community now can be grating on your nerves at times. But peeps, this is what we had to work with at the time ."

As I said in my post Donahue actually started a year or two before 1970 but made it big when he moved to Chicago as Monica said. Here is part of his bio:

"At WHIO in Dayton, he became a newscaster, and also started a radio talk show called Conversation Piece. In 1967 he joined a rival station, WLWD-TV, and tried out a new format, a talk show aimed at "women who think." His idea was to involve the audience, and have them interact in person, or via telephone, with his guests. His topics attempted to be substantive, relevant, informative, and somewhat controversially progressive."

That's when I began to see Donahue when we lived about 20 miles from Dayton.
The most relevant statement Monica made was "peeps, this is what we had to work with at the time."
It's great she remembered Phil!

Plus here is another video on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:


Boston

I just wanted to take a moment and send out any good karma I can to the city of Boston. Specifically to the victims and families of the senseless tragedy we witnessed yesterday. How sad is it that a portion of the human race around the world is so emotionally and morally deadened that it resorts to actions we saw at the Boston Marathon. All of us have to embrace what is good in the world and not let the terror of fear and hate ruin our lives.

Femulating Millions

Congratuations to the gold standard of transgender / cross dresser blogs- Femulate for passing the SEVEN Million hit mark!

A true testament to the endless work and knowledge Stana has put into her blog over the years!

Monday, April 15, 2013

Horror Scope

Another week has flown by in our little portion of the universe and it's time for another look at the stars from Cyrsti's Condo and theFrisky.


(September 23-October 22): Sign your name on the dotted line and get those agreements sealed. There is something about making commitments official this week that will put your mind into a new realm of oohing and aching. Yes, finally you will have certain bragging rights and the proof that goes with them. However, new headaches will also be arrive, so get ready for level 2.

Wow! Where did this come from? I don't think I have been commit phobic during my life but definitely commit cautious. So, I have decided to be comment phobic and leave this one alone! (Thanks Liz!)

The term "Horror Scope" is my own follow theFrisky link above for your "scope"

Big Hair Drag from the 80's

Big hair was heaven for trans girls and cross dressers who could afford it in the 80's.  Here is a vintage drag queen video on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:



Was it in the 1980's when the phrase was introduced "Is that your hair? Yes, I bought it!"

Trans Ohio Symposium Update

Over the past couple months I have tried to pass along info here in Cyrsti's Condo concerning the rapidly approaching  5th TransOhio Trans & Ally Symposium coming up April 26th thru 28th in Columbus. I am just one of a huge group of presenters.
Learn all about the weekend here.
That link will also provide you registration info I believe. Obviously I would love to meet you in person if you are going to be there. I promise I have had all my shots and won't bite!

Trans Blast from the Past

If you are "more mature" such as I, you may remember more than a couple of the early "transvestite" themed Phil Donahue television shows.

I was particuarly a "Phil Fan" because he started his talk show in nearby Dayton, Ohio. I actually went to went to one of his Vietnam War discussion shows. I also thought Phil went out of his way to address the subject of cross dressing all the way to sex change surgery with respect not sensationalism.

I found a post which featured a couple "vintage Phil" trans interviews here's one for the Cyrsti's Condo big screen from You Tube:




When More is More

I you have probably noticed, I have sort of been on this fashion and style binge lately. Most of it is because spring weather has finally sprung in my part of the world and it's time for me to look ahead to my second summer of serious transgender transition. This I know for sure. I went from a summer furnace to a winter freezer and I have no reason to believe I won't be in the furnace again this summer. It is time to prepare for "air cooled" fashion.

I've been going through my closet looking for sleeveless and tank tops which I think are still good fashion staples for my summer wardrobe. Long flowing light skirts are good and fun too. All of that is good but then I remembered an old advertising slogan which went something like this:  "Your biggest fashion accessory this summer will be your skin".  How true, more is more when it comes to my skin- legs, arms and all.

I am fortunate my HRT has lessened my body hair tremendously except my beard..  On the negative side, last summer taught me to stock up on the body lotions to help the overall feel and look of my skin. I also am not a fan of panty hose, so I need to provide some color to my snow white legs.

Finally it's also time to get to work on feet and get them ready for summer shoe fashion if I want to go the sandal or the flip flop route.

More is always more for me when I procrastinate and wait for spring to magically appear.  Well. it's here and I have more to do!

Sunday, April 14, 2013

The Pedestal or the Heels?

It's Sunday morning here again in Cyrsti's Condo and I assume elsewhere.  Last night I had the pleasure of spending the night with a couple other transgender friends-one trans man and another trans woman. We went  to a local gay venue with a show and before the room got too loud to talk easily we exchanged stories about transitioning and our current and past relationships.This morning it occurred to me our get together was historic in the sense the venue we were in probably had never seen three out and proud transgender people together at once. At the least our little group was educational to a largely uniformed gay populace.

My problem is as I basked in my own smugness, I had to remind myself of how slippery my pedestal can be.   So I took a moment to thank Mother Karma of what I've become and how I have become it. In the end, we are only the sum total of our actions in life. As I gingerly climbed back down from my pedestal I read about Andrej Pejic's painful idea to put me back on one:


"Andrej Pejic apparently wants to launch his own shoe line–just don’t expect them to be comfortable. “The shoes are going to be called Codeine Heels, because you need codeine [to wear] the best heels,” he told WWD. We think we’ll just stick to good old fashioned bandaids rather than bust out the sizzurp. Pejic hopes that shoes will be a part of his own fashion line, which he says will soon debut with (presumably comfortable) t-shirts. Quoted from Fashionista."


I guess I better start starving myself with cotton balls soaked in orange juice, stock up on pain killers and start hoarding pennies to get a pair..to fall off of.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Pockets of Pissy Peeps

Really?

A 25-year-old transgender Lewiston, Idaho resident who identifies as a woman said she's been served with trespassing papers after customers at a local grocery store complained when she used the women's bathroom. "When I did use the males (restroom) there would be people that would harass me in school," Ally Robledo said. "I would feel really embarrassed and there were times when I found myself in a lot of dangerous situations." Robledo, who prefers to go by Ally and identifies as a woman, was given a no trespass order Monday night shortly after leaving the Rosauer's grocery store location in Lewiston.

Stories like this just want to make me pull out some of this hair I have taken so long to grow in frustration. Of course I have long known it is impossible for a few humans to stay the hell out of other peoples business-especially if you happen to be transgender.

I also know how dramatic just having to pee has been for me in the past as I have had the cops called on me twice. Try as I might though, I just can't understand these people and how they rationalize their lack of humanity. Then again I do know why they try and I know I have to reach deep into my soul to be a better person than them.

Unfortunately it doesn't look like this "pissin" battle is going away anytime soon. I guess I better hold my frustration the best I can before it happens to me again.

Go here for the rest of your story.

"Big Girl" Fashion

By now you have seen me mention the "Fabulous after 40" fashion website here in Cyrsti's Condo. Currently they are providing fashion tips for big women.

Most of the time, I see as much practical worth in ideas such as these as I do copying the looks of Andrej Pejic on the runways. But this article is different.

To begin with there are big women and then there are big trans women like me. Proportion is the key of course. I'm aware many genetic women have approximately the same shoulder size and arms I have but in the vast majority of cases have a much bigger hip and thigh area.  I have always been fortunate in that my large frame is at the least rounded and I can use certain pieces of fashion to my style advantage. Check the picture at right for a couple examples of body styles:

Lets get to the tips:


Tip # 1 – Don’t Buy Clothes that are Too Tight Nothing is worse than trying to fit into clothes that are too small. You think smaller sized clothing is going to make you look thinner, when in reality it makes you look bigger. Small clothes on a big body exaggerates your weight. Get the size that fits and forget about the size tag.
 Tip # 2 – Don’t Buy Clothes that are Too Baggy On the Flip side, clothing that is too loose doesn’t work either. When it comes to Fashion Tips for overweight women, this is one you really need to pay attention to. It’s so common to see a heavy woman walking around in a “tent” of a top. What I mean here is a top or dress that is big, sloppy and has no fit. Many larger women think that they can hide behind loose clothing when in reality they are only drawing more attention to their body. Clothes need to skim your body, no matter what your shape. They don’t need to be tight but they need create flow over the curves of your body

The model on the left shows an example of what I am talking about.  Slowly but surely HRT is taking the muscle tone away from my biceps and my skin is smoothing out so in reality, her shoulders and arms are close to mine.  I still have a long ways to go in the hips department so I really need the skim over the hip area.

Let's move on:


Tip # 3 - Wear Dark Colors on the Heavy Bits Color is a wonderful way to camouflage weight. Dark colors recede and bright/light colors advance if you wear dark colors on your heavy parts those parts will look smaller. Big Thighs? Then wear dark navy, brown, black, gray, burgundy pants and a lighter/brighter top. Huge bust and tiny hips? Then you’d want to wear the darker color up top and the lighter color on the bottom.
 Tip # 4- Avoid Detail where you carry the Weight plus size women with bigger bone structure can wear bigger, heavier accessories Buttons, pockets, pleats, embellishment…They all draw attention. So don’t have them where you where don’t want people to look. If you have a generous rear end that you are trying to downplay don’t buy jeans with studs, embroidery or anything else jazzing up the back pockets. If your upper arms are beefy, a short sleeve top with sleeves that end at the thickest part of your arm is going to make them look heavier. A mirror is your best friend.

Aha! That pesky mirror again!!! I can't tell you how many times it has lied to me!!!  At some point of time you have to woman up and face the real image in the mirror. In my case, I know I am never going to be thin enough to run around in the shower to get wet.  I just don't have that body style with my bones and torso- so I have to work with it and around it! Gee thanks mirror!

Finally, the fun tip!:


Tip # 5 - Keep Your Accessories in Scale If you are a heavier woman you need to have heavier accessories. A 200 Pound woman is going to look heavier with tiny, dainty jewelry. She can looks big in medium to even very large size jewelry. Scale is also important when it comes to other things such as the thickness of your heels. For example if you have heavy legs and calves a thin spiky heel is such a contrast to your legs that you are going to look like you have even heavier legs. A thicker heavier heel would be better for you. Imagine a very heavy set woman with a tiny purse. It just makes her look bigger right. Keep your accessories in line with your weight and size and you will look slimmer.

There you go girls. Five really good tips to dressing your body.  As we discussed in a recent post, it may be harder being a woman but if you do your homework and obsess a little with the process, the benefits will be worth it!

Classic NOLA Drag

Classic female impersonation and drag queen entertainment from New Orleans on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Thanks Liz!

Friday, April 12, 2013

Guess Whose Coming to Dinner

I can't believe it has been almost a week now since I (yes I) went to Sunday dinner with my gf's father, brother and son.

She has been pushing me to do it for quite sometime now and I finally figured why not? Actually her 15 year old son has known me for awhile and he is quite accepting and brother is a successful professional so I figured two out of three were in the bag. The wild card was Dad.  He is a card carrying NRA conservative 87 year old and carries that go to hell if you don't like me attitude of most guys of that age. Also like most men of that age he can't hear or see too well which helped me out!

He got the ball rolling quickly when we arrived at his apartment and the first thing he said about me was "bring her over here so I can take a better look".  I was a little nervous and wanted to ask if I could take a hit off of his oxygen tank but actually I didn't have to. He did his best to include me in the family conversations.

We soon took off and went to a nearby steak house for dinner and before I knew it the day was over.  Ironically, every time I think my transition process is reaching some sort of plateau something comes along to prove I'm still just getting started.

In some ways, I hope my life always stays this way.  As the old paranoia's of the past encounters with the public begin to fade, I can finally experience the true essence of  the gender I should have always been.

Less is More

I am passing this video of a young transgender woman along on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen for the sheer simplicity of it and the fact she is a total "natural".

Shopping Idea

Every once in a while it would be remiss of me not to re pass along a shopping hint or two.

Most of you Cyrsti's Condo's regulars probably know I certainly don't have the financial means to be a serious retail price shopper. So the thrift stores around here are this girl's best friend. I'm a firm believer in building my wardrobe with fashion basics which fit my style and with a little time and some luck I can find those pieces at a fraction of the price. Not too long ago I found this wonderful lacy cream colored top which will look fabulous over a tank top for 2.99.

For you novices, these outlets are wonderful places to buy an article of feminine clothing or two for sometimes under five dollars.  "Back in the day" thrift stores were how I first learned what sizes looked best on me not to mention styles. Misfitting clothes and terrible fashion ideas were simply re donated for the next cross dresser. (just kidding about the cross dresser part).

For the most part these stores have no workers who do not do anything but stock so you face a minimum of people. So the bottom line is you really don't have much of one. Very little expense and exposure plus maximum gain as you learn!

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Spring Fashion Accessory?

I guess you can use this as a potential personal security device or at the least one heck of a conversation starter:


Former porn star Jenna Jameson used a brass knuckle iPhone case when she beat up her transgender assistant in a California salon over the weekend according to reports. Jameson, 39, was charged with battery after allegedly assaulting her assistant, Britney Markham (right) with the accessory turned weapon following accusations she had stolen from her. Markham claims the mother of two entered a Newport Beach salon on Saturday yelling at her, hours before planning to celebrate her 39th birthday at Heat Ultra Lounge in Anaheim that night.

Maybe I should have said-conversation "ender". If you care about this earth shattering story, go here.

Transsexual "Iron Man"?

From Cruncy Roll:  
"Earlier this week, DC got a lot of comic book news press for revealing that Batgirl's roommate is transgender. That's nothing. Japan has given us a transsexual Iron Man with Miss International Queen 2009 Ai Haruna putting on the armor and joining decathlete So Takei to promote the Japanese release of Iron Man 3."

Here it is:


Aussie Prison Trans Rehab?

Paul Wayne Luckman/Nicole Louise Pearce
For quite some time now wife killer Robert "Michelle" Kosilek has captured headlines for his bid to have a state funded sex change.  It turns out Australia too has a history of violent men who become women behind bars. This story comes from the Australian News. It chronicles the stories of a few male criminals who transitioned to women behind bars.
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Trans Teen Model

A documentary video from YouTube on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

We Are In The Comics

From Underwired:


Once banned from the world of mainstream comic books by the infamous Comics Code Authority, LGBT characters now have a stronger presence in the world of superhero comics than ever before, with gay and lesbian heroes like Batwoman, Northstar and Green Lantern Alan Scott openly declaring who they are — and even getting married. Today, DC Comics told Wired that it will continue to expand the LGBT diversity of its superhero universe by introducing the first openly transgender character in a mainstream superhero comic. In Batgirl #19, on sale today in both print and digital formats, the character Alysia Yeoh will reveal that she is a transwoman in a conversation with her roommate, Barbara Gordon (aka Batgirl). Taking care to distinguish Yeoh’s sexual orientation from her gender identity, Batgirl writer Gail Simone noted that the character is also bisexual.




You "Make" a Good Looking Woman

As I look back at my transition process in the early stages, one of the most difficult ideas to overcome was the idea that I made a good looking woman. All semantics aside, I don't think I ever had the power to make a woman.

My problem was of course I was being compared to the man I was. Now before you may be thinking I'm being a total brat-hear me out.

First of all, I was truly lost.  Sure the compliments would send me into vanity heaven for weeks but in truth the "buzz" was similar to what I experience when I eat a couple of my favorite cookies.  The sugar high just turns into empty calories and is gone all too soon. Looking back of course I was searching for my true transgender feelings,. Deep down I knew my cross dressing was just a quick fix and refused to face it.

Following up on my last post, I slowly but surely began to open my closet door. On occasion I did it the right way but other times I was terrible. I pulled some stunts on my wife I will always regret. On the positive side though I went out into the world as a woman by mutual agreement. We enjoyed enough of an income that I could take my clothes and makeup with me, get a motel room change and spend the day out and about.

The absolute most stunning realization was I just couldn't do this as just a another faceless person in public.  Quickly I learned I had to interact with the public. Going back to the last post, these weren't the people at the cross dressing meetings I went to or the people at gay venues-these were strangers who expected some sort of response from me as a perceived woman or even trans woman. To make matters more complicated, these encounters were normally always different.  An example would a stranger asking me for directions followed my a clerk asking me for my size.

No matter how good or bad, big or small these public interactions were, I would take them home with me and build off of them. Also, before I forget to tell you all this was occurring over years. Slowly but surely though my whole thought pattern was beginning to take on a different idea of who I was. I was fitting more and more into that newer transgender niche. During this time of discovery, I was starting to really stretch the boundaries of being a woman in the world. Shopping turned into lunch, lunch turned into going places I had never been before and finally to my first visit at night to a busy casual dining restaurant.

Was this process tough? Of course it was. No matter how the early compliments of being an attractive woman echoed in my head. There were (and are) people who took great delight in letting me know I wasn't. On the other hand, I found the power of feminine socialization overcame the narrow minded idiots.

Again and again my message to any of you who may be in the same spot I was in years ago is somehow, someway you have to find a way to try to live it. Who knows, if you do you may find you are content to be a cross dresser. As I continually stress there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and you may be able to hold your life together and have fun with it. The true tragedy comes when a person tries to take their gender identity too far. I know a person who went through SRS to simply become the best looking woman in the room but never grasped the "woman" part.

I can only say no matter how tough this journey has been-it was the right one for me.  It just feels right. When you begin to get there-you will know or won't. That's OK too. You just could me that man who "makes a good looking woman!"


Are You Man Enough?

As most of you know I'm a regular visitor to Stana's Femulate blog. Her recent "real life experience" post I thought was very thought provoking.  Basically, she was responding to a question or two about gaining "girl time" in the real world.

I get the same questions too of course.  It's a tough answer.  Perhaps you may remember my long ago mention of when my deceased wife finally told me "be man enough to be a woman". Which I suppose parallels Stana's "It's hard work being a woman" post.

From the outside looking in, it's easy to think is it that bad? Getting all dolled up in women's clothes-how much fun is that? My deceased wife used to call it the "Princess Syndrome". Taking hours to get ready every night just wasn't in her "woman's handbook".

I have never looked at the process as being "hard" as much as necessity. Sure, my hair, skin, nails etc take a lot more work but it comes with the territory.

Getting down to basics: How you get into the world as a woman" is as personal as you.  Are you married or single. Do you have a family and job you are risking?  As Stana said- trans conferences and the such won't get you far in learning what a woman's life is all about. My pet observation is you have to get out of the gay venues too.

I got my "start" doing my own shopping as a girl which forced me to interact as a woman (or trans woman) with the public and moved on from there. Because it worked for me, doesn't mean it will work for you. You just have to be creative and obsessive enough to know if you want this bad enough you can find away to do it.

Please go here to read the rest of the post on Femulate! In the meantime, I will try to come up with something more concise which may give you a better idea of my path.


Just a Man being a Woman

Recently here in Cyrsti's Condo I have attempted to pass along YouTube videos which I thought covered everyone from transitioning transgender and transsexual women all the way to drag queens. All too often I have a tendency to leave out the cross dresser segment of our culture.  I feel bad about it because all too often I think some cross dressers feel somehow I don't relate to them or put myself up on some pedestal because of my HRT or lifestyle.  Let me tell you all-I'm terrible on pedestals and karma knocks me off every time!
To make amends check out this cross dressing video:

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Over a Trans Man's Shoulder

Another comment on the "Over my Shoulder" trans security post here in Cyrsti's Condo:

 "Any "man" that feels it necessary to be menacing isn't truly a man. I understand the thinking that if you dress a certain way what do you expect. However, that thinking does not make the treatment correct. All women have a right to dress however they feel without having to fear being accosted. Even as a Trans male I still scope out an area before I go out. I think in this day and age ANY person needs to be on the lookout for their safety. Draco on Looking over my Shoulder"

 Thanks Draco for two huge reasons. Yes a real man doesn't and won't result to hostile behavior. As we all know though so many guys are so insecure in their manhood in so many ways it's tough to sort them out. Plus the great majority of trans women of course never approached a woman like that so we have to be careful that others do.

Two.- YES! Any person does have to be on their outlook for their safety!

Finally, not to embarrass Draco but I have known him for awhile and he just started on testosterone not long ago.  Of all the transgender people I have known over the years, his amazing happiness of finally realizing some of his gender dreams was contagious. Your views are always welcome my friend!

Anti Trans Womyn

Over the years, a tremendous line in the girls sandbox has always been drawn by the radical feminist "womym's" movement. The annual Michigan Womyn's Music Festival in many ways has been a bigoted, short sighted rallying point against the transgender woman community.
In 1991 a transgender woman was ejected from the festival.  Trans people began to organize multiple protests against the policy, including establishing Camp Trans outside the festival's gates. Over the years I have read with sadness the hate filled taunts which have gone back and forth from members of both sides.
Finally it seems movement is starting to happen. One of the popular musical acts "The Indigo Girls" released this statement coming out against transgender discrimination at the festival and more:

"To our community in regards to Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival We want you to know some of our thoughts about our participation in Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. Indigo Girls have a lot of respect for protest and dialogue in our feminist and queer movements, and we want to do our part to encourage growth and evolution in our community. We care about MWMF deeply, and in our years of playing the Festival, we have evolved and benefited from the experience. We have received many gifts from this unique and powerful gathering. Our hope for all the past years has been that the Festival would move towards an intention of Trans-Inclusion. We have continued to search our selves and look at both sides of this issue and truly respect the different points of view, but have always come back to our core belief that Trans Womyn should be included in the Festival, and their womynhood should be honored by the intentions of MWMF. The current intention for the Festival to be for “Womyn born Womyn” only grew out of an important necessity to honor the idea that womyn have a variety of self expression and appearance and they need a safe space where their womynhood is not in question as they stand in many different places on the spectrum from femininity to masculinity. This intention has a very important historic basis and has kept the space safe for many womyn over the years. But we strongly feel that the time is long overdue for a change of intention, to one that states very plainly the inclusion of Trans Womyn. To us, this change of intention is the only path to a truly “safe space” for womyn. We are in a time of struggle and rapid changes in our movement and we would be remiss to not recognize that many of the strides that have been made are a result of Trans Activism and the strength and perspective they have brought to the queer and feminist revolutions. We feel that if someone identifies as a womyn, they are a womyn and should be welcomed into our community with open arms. We will only be stronger for it. We will be playing the Festival this year in the spirit of change. We encourage the Founders and the community of MWMF to find the bravery and compassion that we are all endowed with to create a space that is Trans Inclusive. We know these changes are complex and take time and careful consideration. MWMF has a long and important history of being on the cutting edge of positive change- a torchbearer for the hard transitions within the feminist and queer movements. This is the time to fulfill MWMF’s most vital role in our community and help to honor the Trans Community out in the world, by honoring them within the world of Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. We hope in the end that we can all find our “safe space” and comfort on the sacred land of MWMF. We understand that there are many folks who feel passionately about these issues, but we encourage people on both sides to act peacefully when they express themselves. There is nothing to be gained from hateful rhetoric or aggressive actions. All over the world queer, and specifically Trans folks are beaten and killed for being who they are. The community of MWMF has a responsibility to fight this hate and be a beacon of love and light for all womyn suffering under hate and oppression, and this includes our Trans Sisters. If you are against Trans Inclusion at MWMF, that is your prerogative, but that does not mean you have to be aggressive towards the Trans community. This kind of hate and aggression will rip our community apart and we all know who benefits from “divide and conquer” and it’s not womyn or queers. Although we are playing the festival, we honor the current protest against MWMF and hope that it will help move the community towards change. Any money that we make playing the Festival will go towards Trans Activism. We will make a statement from stage at the Festival in support of Trans Inclusion. We have made it clear that this will be our last time at the Festival until MWMF shows visible and concrete signs of changing their intention. We have no animosity towards anyone in this case but see the deep and fearless legacy that MWMF has had during its existence and we honor that. We also honor the prayerfulness that has been a part of this struggle on both sides. This is not an easy path, so we empathize with all who struggle to make their decisions. We love Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival and hope for it’s continued presence and power in our lives. Sincerely, Amy and Emily Indigo Girls."

For more go here.

I don't want to state the obvious here but isn't this a total waste of time on the festival's part?  Then again on occasion I have not been a welcome addition to the girls sandbox, especially if they were just peeing in it!