Thursday, April 18, 2013

We Got Mail

Yesterday I received this comment from Pat  concerning the "Pedestal or the Heels" post here in Cyrsti's Condo. To give you a little background, I was writing about my experience with two other transgender friends in a small gay venue. Part of what I said:

"At the least our little group was educational to a largely uninformed gay populace".  The reply:

"You hit the nail on the head. Because the common acronym is LGBT there is an assumption that those represented by each of the letters understand the others. This is clearly not the case with "T" people. I do not live in "fool's paradise" so I do not delude myself into think that at 6'1" and 240 lbs that too many people confuse me with being a GG. As such I tend to not get out with the civilian population but I do feel safe at an ever growing number of primarily gay venues. I like to go and strike up conversations with people. This past Friday I went to a gay bar. I had an extended conversation with a very nice 70 year old man. He said that he has known he was gay since childhood but freely admitted that he knew nothing about cross dressers. He said that he was told that men who wear dresses are mostly gay. I had the chance to fill him in on the concept that there is a very broad and wide spectrum from the occasional closet dresser to the surgically completed TS. I mentioned to him that most CDs are hetero and that it is estimated that the incidence of CDs being gay may be similar to the percentage of gays in the over all population. Normally, when I go out to the bars I am the first to head home to bed but since this guy was 10 years my senior he took his leave before I did."
 "Sitting next to me on the other side were two women. They were together and had been partaking of adult beverages for a while. We had several nice conversations with much of my talk being to educate them about "T"s and the fallacy that 'one size fits all' does not pertain to "T" people with any more accuracy than it does to pantyhose. Simply stated, based on my own frequenting of LGBT venues, it seems that the gay population does not have any better understanding of 'T' people than the overall population at large. As such, I do consider my time spent in conversations at such venues to be a form of education."

Indeed a wonderful job of educating the public Pat! Can not say it enough that the rest of the LGB triangle knows little about us. You may exceed the GG size limits and you also exceed with your
courage and heart! Thanks!!!!

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