Sunday, September 30, 2012

No Gender At All Part Two

For those of you who have visited Cyrsti's Condo for awhile, you will know the respect I have for Sherri Lynne who is a transitioning transgender therapist who actually works with trans patients.
Her latest post actually revolves around her visit to the recent Southern Comfort Conference. As I read on though, the post actually went into a portion of the subject in my End of Men topic:

" I heard the attitude shared that many younger people at the conference philosophically don't like the idea of having a gender identity at all. They identify as gender queer or other similar labels and they would deny everyone their own right to a gender identity as male or female in a society of their own design. I find it interesting that they would segregate themselves and impose a societal code that denies others of their own gender identity. You see this theme in much of feminist academic writing and in the presentations these individuals give at workshops. They want to impose the use of new language in the use of pronouns that deny the existence of gender identity. Ironically, these folks seem to be a small proportion of those in the gender community. I can never see myself identifying as anything than "female" or "woman" and would feel oppressed by a society that denies me my own identity, much as these individuals feel oppressed by a society that expects them to have a gender identity of either male or female. I find that rather ironic that they would choose to subject others to the same oppression they seek to be freed from."

Read more from Sherri Lynne here!

Makes Sense

This all makes sense if you take a second to think about it and is very humorous:

The NFL Dallas Cowboys for some reason didn't settle a dispute over the domain name Cowboys.com.
Now it's a gay man's dating site.

No need to put out a few more bucks for a domain name if you are putting out mega bucks for a stadium-right?
Plus, don't gay cowboys deserve a site too?

The End of Men?

I read a post recently about this topic.
Yes it was feminist babble and not worth passing along. You have read it all before.  However,  in it's own way it's no worse than when I lost IQ and  talked down to by men as I really  started to transition.
Sooner more than later, I believe the human race (if we last that long) will become essentially genderless anyhow.
Already there is news about experimental womb transplants starting to occur. How long will it be before your flight to Bangkok will include a new womb too? Will it matter with some? Probably not I'm sure some will still think a home grown vagina or womb is worth more than store bought models.
Of course I'm biased but the feminists have always wanted us to feel guilty about our transgender or transsexual selves.
I'm sure similar to so many archaic gender biases-the feminist manifestos  will be yet another meaningless footnote in history.
Take sex out of the picture for a moment and unique view of the world from the gender spectrum's would be missed if there was an end to men and women!

I LOVE This!

I love this!!!!! Whatever political leanings you have...have a sense of humor!

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Outing your Stealth

This post is more un-original content but is as complex as the stealth question seems to be.
From the University of Montana comes the story of a transgender coed who ending up dancing with a male student who reportedly didn't know of her gender identification.
In a classic case of he said-she said the incident ended up in a beating for the coed and a restraining order against the male student. You can read an account of it here from The Missoulian.
My point is how responsible we are as trans women or men to out ourselves? Who knows?
I'm far from attractive enough and far from young enough to say attend a dance by myself or meet a man in a public situation where he doesn't know I'm trans.
If I was, I'm afraid I would attempt it even though I know it's wrong and extremely dangerous. I'm a firm believer in many violence cases against trans humans happen when we surprise the opposite gender (men).
So obviously I don't have the answer except I know my genetic female friends would point out very few of them would put themselves in the situation of the Montana coed to start with. They would want proof of how she was dressed and was she attending the dance by herself?
Then again I know some reasons she would.
What complex lives we live!

More Pejic

From the Huffington Post Stylelist comes an interesting Q&A with super model Andrej Pejic.

Of particular interest to me was the question of SRS:
    You were once quoted as saying that you would have a sex change for Victoria's Secret, do you still stand by that? "(Laughs) Yes I do. Definitely. In all seriousness, though, is a sex change operation something you plan on doing in the future? I like to keep all options open, but I like to think that is a personal thing. I don't talk about that very much.

   Also the subject of being added to a list of the world's sexiest women:

    Another recent controversy was when FHM listed you as number 98 on its "100 Sexiest Women In The World" story. They subsequently removed you from the list and issued an apology.
" I found it as flattering as any woman would. It's great, but I never thought that I would become a sex symbol. To be seen like that is exploring another type of beauty, being accepting and breaking a boundary."

Follow the link above for more!

Transgender College Info

From the "Gay Philly" site:

 Navigating college life can be a big change for anyone making the transition away from home for the first time. And for trans students, the experience can be even more challenging. That’s why the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) launched the Transgender On-campus Nondiscrimination Information (TONI) project, one of the first websites for trans college and university students in the country.

A free webinar about the site is here.

Friday, September 28, 2012

A Picture Behind the Story

By now I'm sure you heard the story of "Good Ol Boy Judge Bill Graves" in Oklahoma:

Oklahoma County District Judge Bill Graves on Aug. 30 refused to let James Dean Ingram, 29, of Oklahoma City, have the name Angela Renee Ingram. Ingram told the judge in a petition the reason for the name change request was “transition from male to female.” Ingram said the judge stated, “You can't change what God gave you.”

Bill,  I guess you can't change the fact that God neglected to give you a brain.
The good news is: The American Civil Liberties Union of Oklahoma on Thursday appealed a judge's refusal to let an Oklahoma City man planning on a sex change to have a feminine name.

I thought we all would love to know what this guy looks like, where he hides his dresses and some pertinent phone numbers:

District Judge Bailiff: Rebecca, 405-713-1456
Clerk: Diedre, 405-713-1455
 Court Reporter: Alexa, 405-713-1468

Halloween 2010

A post from Trans Halloween 2010 in Cyrsti's Condo.

Or is it really you in your Halloween costume? Well girl, it is almost Halloween. The time of year for transgender and real sisters alike to strut their stuff. It's our Christmas, New Year and Thanksgiving all rolled up into one glorious weekend. At the least, you can hit more than one party! It's the party where the women are jealous of your legs, hair and makeup, and by the way, where did you learn to walk in those heels? Who did do your makeup? It's the party where your guy friends either shy away from you or to you after a few adult beverages. How innocent is it when they run a hand up your nylon covered leg? That's you isn't it? The witch in the low cut dress. Hanging with Count Dracula your golfing buddy? Will he ever look at you quite the same again after a few beers in the clubhouse? The fun part is, you have so many ways to attend a Halloween party. You can wear a fun, sexy comfortable female costume or slut it up and go as a hooker. Remember girlfriends, those heels are very unforgiving after awhile and that short skirt becomes very difficult to be ladylike in all evening. Especially if you happen to get buzzed.(Yes, I've tried it) OR learn from Le Anne's example (she is a follower here) She dazzled a party by attending as a Hollywood starlet. Everyone was amazed by her look and how she presented as a woman. To LeAnne however she wasn't dressed in a costume. She was just dressed up! I paraphrased much of her comment but she makes an excellent point. Your big party night can be a coming out bash for the girl in you. Beware though, once you let her out and the compliments start rolling in-you may never be able to shut her in again. Finally, be careful of thinking you are one heavenly creature and go to WalMart the next day in the same clothes.No one will be impressed with you in the heels and the mini trying to look like "Lady Gaga"! Instead, take the compliments and build your confidence. Remember though, many of them are saying you make a great looking woman...for a guy. But that's OK! That's when the fun starts. I'm sure you all have some great stories like LeAnne's! Be sure to share them with all of us

MO Trans Mail

OK, kids one more "official post" on the Nat Geo generated piece I wrote.
"Miz" I think we are on the same page more than both of us realize and I will be happy happy to carry on the conversation in the regular "comment" section under each post. The way the blog "platform" works you just have to go back to the original post to view it...or any or all of you can email me: cyrstih@yahoo.com.
Before I go to "Miz"'s comments, here is one from Jamie:

"For a certain group out there, that considers themselves "real" women, you can only be a "transsexual" if you are young and pretty. Just like how some men only pay attention to women if they are young and pretty. It has not been explained to me how "women" treating other women this way is not as "sexist" as men doing it, but I suspect it is because it is still "men" doing it."

From Miz:  "OK look Transsexual, Transgender, they are two totally different things. Neither of which is bad nor good, they just are. But somewhere along the line transgender got stretched into one size fits all umbrella term uniting two totally different things into one big confusing hodgepodge. A hydra of misinformation that in effect has the occasional cross dresser being exactly the same as the young girl who must correct her sex or quite literally die, different only by degree... That's utter BS! It's like calling turtles and hawks the same because they both have hearts and warm blood!"

I agree TOTALLY with both of you and have been screaming about this for years after being trashed time and time again for how I identified.

More Miz:

"Now you know how it is I feel! Why I cringe every single time someone who is not transsexual is out there using us to put a good spin on themselves or "educating" the public about this great fallacious spectrum... But if I say that we are different, that this is not the face of transgender, I am called a hater and an elitist and a transphobe. YOU on the other hand can say the exact same thing and suddenly none of those things apply! No, you are just defending yourself and those like you from negative publicity..."

Perhaps, Miz. you haven't been around here long. I rarely throw stones in the glass trans house
 BUT I personally covet any positive information concerning the transgender culture we can get. It's true the transsexuals and fringe element types such as the body builder on Nat Geo do get the press-and dammit the enormous amount of time I have spent building my life as a transgender woman means the world to me...
and dammit I do resent the whole idea of being called Taboo by Nat Geo to start with ...so I guess you can call me all of the above...or you can call me a realist. I know the world as I face it day to day and I need all the help I can get...not another Jerry Springer moment on Nat Geo or anywhere!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Smokin! The Mail Box!

"You effing Hypocrite! You set land speed records in posting every young and outed type VI transsexual as being just another part of the lovely trans-spectrum "exactly" like you! Even though they are nothing of the sort but let National Geo showcase the "wonderful diversity" of the "trans-spectrum and you have the gall to cringe that they "represnt you?" Sorry Charlie! It doesn't work like that! Either stop riding our coat tails or accept the spectrum. You can't have it both ways!"  "Miz-Know- It- all"

Wow, I have been called everything...but not hypocrite for awhile!
First of all  most of the stories I pass along are because they represent what I feel are informative and for the most part positive. I'm sure you have noticed I try to stay away from the tragic trans violence stories.
I do comment if I feel the stories reflect the overall possible good of our "lovely transgender spectrum".

I'm sometimes a little slow in my hypocrisy  but  if I'm missing the real point here forgive me...Sorry Charlie-tell me which coat tails I have been riding? I don't believe you (Miz) or Chuck were there as I was building my new life.
Now back to the issue at hand. My point was and will continue to be if any Jerry Springer moment that turns up on Nat Geo (or elsewhere) is counter productive.  My guess is Miz you have already seen the show and base your comments on what you thought it was?

Look Miz...I'm right in the middle of the trans spectrum and to say I don't accept any of the trans community is completely unfounded. I can say safely that much of it doesn't accept me. I'm too much girl for many of the cross dressers and don't have the "Red Badge of Courage" SRS operation to be accepted by the transsexuals.

By the way, thanks for the "land speed" compliment!  My high speed service must be working and thanks for reading!

Cyrsti





What I Really Learned at Halloween

Kenny Eliason image from UnSplash.  Sadly, since I have lived over ten years as a full-time transgender woman, Halloween has become just ano...