Cyrsti's Condo - "Do You Remember?"

Our feature cover girl today goes back a way. To the year 2000, when Davina Willis won the UK "Tra--y of the Year" Award in the UK.

I remember reading a little about what happened to her a couple years ago and I imagine some of our "Condo Ites" from the UK like Paula or Vicki maybe able to fill in what ever missing info there may be.

Why Straight Men Love Transgender Women

For some reason, we have been more interested in the sexuality aspect of the transgender experience. So, in essence, this post actually written in February of 2013 by a Miss Suzi ( Shown below.)  continues in the same vein.  I thought I would pass it along-with the picture which I think is a wonderful cross dresser pic-not so sure about a trans woman.




"We LOVE being women more than most genetic women.

And much more important than that… We do not ever take our femininity for granted the way so many genetic women do. Many of us have sacrificed home, family, friends, careers, fortunes, and hours and hours of hard work each day to be the women we have become.

That is what I believe turns men on the most, the "Hey, Look at me; I'm sexy!" attitude that their wives and girlfriends have either lost or never have gotten quite right. He is probably afraid of the whole homo-thing of course... but quite needlessly so. I have found that the men who date me are more courageous and more masculine and more loving of sexy women than anyone who would not or could not love a special lady.

Sometimes a gentleman just wants to be with a woman who really loves being a woman. He longs for a woman who appreciates his desires and his need to look at, to talk with, to touch, to kiss, and to love a woman in high heels, nylons, lipstick, lace, and perfume with soft smooth shiny skin. He desires a woman who gives her undivided attention just to him. He wants a woman who does not make him feel stupid, queer, or unmasculine when he expresses his love of her femininity and his deepest longings to her.

There may be some fetishistic components to the desire of straight men for all women who do the girlie girl thing including transgendered women. Men do love women who wear nylons, high heels, and lipstick. Their overall perception of women and femininity was conditioned by years and years of reinforcement (mostly masturbatory and orgasmic) by the ultra feminine stereotype of womanhood... by so-called "real" women."

Personally, I agree with parts of this manifesto (no pun intended) and disagree with others.  It was presented on a site called The Examiner  and you can read the rest of it by following the link. I will let you make your own judgment on the article by following the link.

**Please note the material between the quotation marks comes from the post!!!

Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our feature cover today is the gorgeous Lia Eduarda, a MtF transgender woman from Brazil:

Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition"

"Ker Plunk!" welcome back to another Sunday Edition! It's quite and even a bit coolish for a mid-July morning here in southern Ohio/ USA, so a hot "Cup of Joe" (coffee) un iced  tastes pretty good!!!

Page 1.-  The Week in Review:  Last week, we weren't shy (per norm) around here in the "Condo" addressing topics like transgender sexuality and overall life in the "girl's sandbox."  To be sure, tough topics. The reason the subject came up at all was when I recently came out to my family member who really didn't have a problem with understanding the transgender aspect of me. She did however have a difficult time wrapping her noggin around the fact I was not gay in the sense my sexual nature was not attracted to men. She said "So you are gay." I really confused her when I said, yes and no.  Mentally, I have always felt sexually I always wanted to be with a woman but as a woman.  So mentally, I was always gay but physically functioned as a straight guy for the same reason.  I don't blame her for being confused, so we moved on to more important day to day life problems...Like cremating her Mom.

Page 2.- Life in the "Sandbox":  For years, I have called my socialization into the feminine world as "playing in the girl's sandbox."  The reasons were, I found out quickly, if I was to ease my transgender transition the most, interacting and being accepted by other women was the best way.  Of course, stopping my life at the age of 60 and redirecting my gender path was intensely difficult because of ignorance and misconceptions. I don't use the "ignorance" word lightly-only as a reference to not knowing what I was doing.  Genetic females face the same process as little girls.  Misconception is a "mellower" term.  From the outside looking in, almost any situation looks different.  From my years of working with women, I knew completely they weren't the "sugar and spice and everything nice" stereotyped gender.  what I didn't know was how the checks and balances worked in their world.

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Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our cover feature here in the "Condo" today is the Italian transsexual beauty Maria Roman rocking her LBD! "Mama Mia!"

Sex and the Transgender Girl

Wouldn't that subject make one heck of a reality television show?  More exciting than Mountain Men? Who knows, but one does touch quite a few nerves when you talk about it.  Then again, it's a highly personal subject.

Back when Dr. Stanley Biber was performing all the SRS changes in Trinidad, Colorado (prior to Marci Bowers joining his staff in 2003) all the rage was to have the operation, find a man, go stealth and live happily ever after. How about a plot like this- transsexual woman goes through the change, begins ideal life with the man of her dreams- until the woman of her dreams comes along?

Regardless of your feelings about all of that, times "are a changin'" (could Bob Dylan have been a closeted cross dresser?)

Most of us were shocked when Facebook went from two binary gender choices to 50-most of which we didn't understand-unless we were living them.  I for one, thought the process was a huge step forward, as much so as a growing number of individuals who rebel at any sort of sticker label being applied to them.  All of the sudden, genitalia aren't the basis for gender feelings and aren't the basis for being comfortable as a chosen gender in life.

Then, as you take sexuality and mix it in with this potent brew-the whole picture becomes even more confusing to some and exotic to others.  At my recent visit to the Equality Ohio meeting, the organizers went around the room and asked us to give our name, pronoun preference - plus how we identified.  I gave it all-to a point.  For some reason I said I identified as a transgender woman- not a transgender lesbian woman and transgender veteran (which I brought up later to them)  I just figured it was too much information for them.

Some times, it is too much information for me.  This Cyrsti's Condo comment sent in by Caroline, may say it best:

I was about four and a half and had know that there was something wrong for a couple of years already then I twigged that as bad as I thought it was, girls liking girls was a real no no...

I really thought way back in the fifties that I was truly doomed, they think I am a boy is bad enough but to not want to be a typical girl who likes boys, what the heck!?

I was even thinking only a few years ago that such a fact would make sure I never got any help but I did.

Who on earth can find guys attractive anyway?

Thanks Caroline, fortunately my Mom found my Dad attractive enough so I could be here babbling :). But of course I know what you are writing about. I believe the longer I do this, the more I feel there are more people like us Caroline.  I'm so glad you got help!

To those of you who are still coming out and unsure of your sexuality, I would say yes, the lesbians are a tough crowd to be accepted into.  But, if you follow certain parameters, I'm proof it's not impossible. (Coming up in a future post.) To explain the process even better, I'm still trying to get my lesbian partner to write a post or two here-maybe she could explain what the trans scenery looks like from the "other side of the street." 

She's a tough sell!!!

Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our cover feature today is the beautiful MtF model  Arthur Nazarov

Guilty Pleasures

I'm the first to admit, I have never been the most "girly girl" in the world and I am probably too fond of my "boy friend" jeans, boots or flip flops...BUT, then again there are mornings (like today) when I just can't resist sneaking in a set of girly dangling earrings when I'm buying other boring household items I need...like furniture polish for a vintage piece I'm selling or motor oil for my old leaking car!!!

This morning I felt like this!  Isn't the vintage "Pin-Up Art" fun?

Life in the Box

Continuing a post I wrote yesterday here in Cyrsti's Condo which I compared my MtF gender transition to climbing into the "girl's sandbox" .  I break it down further in my book  "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" but for simplicity (like my mind), here are a couple of thoughts.

For the record, I have nursed my biggest scratches over the years, from two groups-"A-list" genetic and TS women.  I leaned quickly from both, who sought me out for my comeuppance (as they say in my part of the world.) My first lesson came years ago at one of the transvestite "mixers" I used to attend.  I was always fascinated by the diversity of the group and loved to go out with a certain few after the "meeting" and party. The problem was, this group made up most attractive cross dressers in the room.(Not the most feminine though.)  They knew it and were very similar to the socialite/cheerleader types I encountered in high school.  To "tag along" was OK by them, as long as we all knew I didn't really belong. Lesson learned.  Maybe I didn't fit it with those girls in the sandbox, but there were others I was finding who indeed I did!

As most cat scratches do, I heeled and found more acceptance in the box than I ever thought possible.As we have discussed here in the "Condo" most genetic women are curious why you would even want to play in the sandbox at all and move on. My problems occurred when I wanted to use the "litter box" and I got scratched big time.  Through it all, I learned to watch my back because there could be a woman coming after me with a patented "passive aggressive" feminine attack.

Finally, I learned the worst attacks in the box came from those I couldn't even see, transsexual and transgender women who sit safe behind their computers and blast away.  I used to get mad (still do) and hurt (still do) but for the most part understand I put myself out here and with it comes abuse.

So now, I happy with my little spot of sand in the girl's sandbox and I have playmates too.  Plus on the positive side, I have interacted with sooooo many good hearted peeps like all of you.

Thanks for playing in our sandbox!!!