Sex and the Transgender Girl
Wouldn't that subject make one heck of a reality television show? More exciting than Mountain Men? Who knows, but one does touch quite a few nerves when you talk about it. Then again, it's a highly personal subject.
Back when Dr. Stanley Biber was performing all the SRS changes in Trinidad, Colorado (prior to Marci Bowers joining his staff in 2003) all the rage was to have the operation, find a man, go stealth and live happily ever after. How about a plot like this- transsexual woman goes through the change, begins ideal life with the man of her dreams- until the woman of her dreams comes along?
Regardless of your feelings about all of that, times "are a changin'" (could Bob Dylan have been a closeted cross dresser?)
Most of us were shocked when Facebook went from two binary gender choices to 50-most of which we didn't understand-unless we were living them. I for one, thought the process was a huge step forward, as much so as a growing number of individuals who rebel at any sort of sticker label being applied to them. All of the sudden, genitalia aren't the basis for gender feelings and aren't the basis for being comfortable as a chosen gender in life.
Then, as you take sexuality and mix it in with this potent brew-the whole picture becomes even more confusing to some and exotic to others. At my recent visit to the Equality Ohio meeting, the organizers went around the room and asked us to give our name, pronoun preference - plus how we identified. I gave it all-to a point. For some reason I said I identified as a transgender woman- not a transgender lesbian woman and transgender veteran (which I brought up later to them) I just figured it was too much information for them.
Some times, it is too much information for me. This Cyrsti's Condo comment sent in by Caroline, may say it best:
I was about four and a half and had know that there was something wrong for a couple of years already then I twigged that as bad as I thought it was, girls liking girls was a real no no...
I really thought way back in the fifties that I was truly doomed, they think I am a boy is bad enough but to not want to be a typical girl who likes boys, what the heck!?
I was even thinking only a few years ago that such a fact would make sure I never got any help but I did.
Who on earth can find guys attractive anyway?
Back when Dr. Stanley Biber was performing all the SRS changes in Trinidad, Colorado (prior to Marci Bowers joining his staff in 2003) all the rage was to have the operation, find a man, go stealth and live happily ever after. How about a plot like this- transsexual woman goes through the change, begins ideal life with the man of her dreams- until the woman of her dreams comes along?
Regardless of your feelings about all of that, times "are a changin'" (could Bob Dylan have been a closeted cross dresser?)
Most of us were shocked when Facebook went from two binary gender choices to 50-most of which we didn't understand-unless we were living them. I for one, thought the process was a huge step forward, as much so as a growing number of individuals who rebel at any sort of sticker label being applied to them. All of the sudden, genitalia aren't the basis for gender feelings and aren't the basis for being comfortable as a chosen gender in life.
Then, as you take sexuality and mix it in with this potent brew-the whole picture becomes even more confusing to some and exotic to others. At my recent visit to the Equality Ohio meeting, the organizers went around the room and asked us to give our name, pronoun preference - plus how we identified. I gave it all-to a point. For some reason I said I identified as a transgender woman- not a transgender lesbian woman and transgender veteran (which I brought up later to them) I just figured it was too much information for them.
Some times, it is too much information for me. This Cyrsti's Condo comment sent in by Caroline, may say it best:
I was about four and a half and had know that there was something wrong for a couple of years already then I twigged that as bad as I thought it was, girls liking girls was a real no no...
I really thought way back in the fifties that I was truly doomed, they think I am a boy is bad enough but to not want to be a typical girl who likes boys, what the heck!?
I was even thinking only a few years ago that such a fact would make sure I never got any help but I did.
Who on earth can find guys attractive anyway?
Thanks Caroline, fortunately my Mom found my Dad attractive enough so I could be here babbling :). But of course I know what you are writing about. I believe the longer I do this, the more I feel there are more people like us Caroline. I'm so glad you got help!
To those of you who are still coming out and unsure of your sexuality, I would say yes, the lesbians are a tough crowd to be accepted into. But, if you follow certain parameters, I'm proof it's not impossible. (Coming up in a future post.) To explain the process even better, I'm still trying to get my lesbian partner to write a post or two here-maybe she could explain what the trans scenery looks like from the "other side of the street."
She's a tough sell!!!
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