I believe I have whined, complained and yes, even bitched about how HRT has destroyed the thermostat in my body here in the Condo. Go ahead and say it, "no one twisted your arm to start HRT Cyrsti, so get the hell over it."
I accept all of that except - after a brief respite from the minus teens wind chills we are having here in my part of Ohio, we are expecting temps to go to 20 year lows next week. Really?
I have a confession to make: Cyrsti's Condo does not over look the mountains and the beach in the tropics but is in a circa 1860's drafty big brick building in Ohio. Our weather extremes though, do make you appreciative when Momma Nature throws you a bone and the temp rises to 50 in January - summertime.
To combat the cold though, I'm heading south again- to Cincinnati where the outside temp will be nearly as cold but the inside temp will be toasty with the help of a "B.A.F" - a big ass fireplace. Sorry about all the cussing in this Cyrsti's Condo post but this cold weather just gets me in this mood.
Setting aside all my whining, there are benefits to facing up to this cold "thang" as a girl. First of all, you are allowed to be cold by other women and men. Secondly, you can stylishly "layer" yourself up to stay warm and look good too. My best purchase of the season so far were my fur lined snow boots which fit over my hand knitted wool knee socks for warm "tootsies". Of course my "imagined" overstock of sweaters, leggings and scarves all of the sudden isn't so overstocked at all!
It's too bad that "karma", "cold" and "cussing" all don't begin with a "C". If they did, I could come up with some sort of inspired thought of why Karma was getting even with me for making fun of women all those years for being cold.
How about, I just can't or I give up Momma Karma, I'm sorry! You were right and you win!
Friday, January 3, 2014
Cyrsti's Condo "Trans Woman of the Day."
A week or so ago we mentioned a "surprise" transgender beauty's appearance on Project Runway All Stars. The show brought together a group of popular/established fashion bloggers from around the world and Gigi's Gorgeous New's Network blog made the cut!
During the show, Gigi proved she was much more than a pretty face as she owned the runway to the delight I'm sure, to transgender women around the world.
I have followed her YouTube videos for quite awhile and was particularly impressed when she came out as transgender and the work she has done which included her sister. (Thanks to many of you who pointed her video's out too!!! You are the best!)
In the -10(F) degree weather around the Condo, Gigi's work is certainly a thawing influence. She is just another example of how bright the future can be for transgender men and women everywhere.
Of course you can follow the link above to her Blog.
During the show, Gigi proved she was much more than a pretty face as she owned the runway to the delight I'm sure, to transgender women around the world.
I have followed her YouTube videos for quite awhile and was particularly impressed when she came out as transgender and the work she has done which included her sister. (Thanks to many of you who pointed her video's out too!!! You are the best!)
In the -10(F) degree weather around the Condo, Gigi's work is certainly a thawing influence. She is just another example of how bright the future can be for transgender men and women everywhere.
Of course you can follow the link above to her Blog.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
New Years Fashion Police
I have actually had a couple of you "Condo-ites" ask what Liz and I wore on New Years Eve.
She out "pizazzed" me with a multi colored silky tunic top which draped over her thighs with leggings. She also started out with a modest pair of heels for the short walks we were under taking but we went back to the hotel and she changed to a pair of metallic flats quickly. I wasn't have anything to do with heels as always!
I went with my 3/4 length patterned black blouse/top, black leggings and slouch boots. We weren't going anywhere too fancy, unlike last year, so comfort trumped "glam" this year. On the other hand, our nails were polished, our makeup was top notch and a great time was had by all!
As I have written here in Cyrsti's Condo in the past, the mirror I worship the most is the public eye. New Year's Eve, the public was very accepting of me. Interestingly, now I have several different scenarios to consider.
I am moving away from "Hey! isn't that a guy in a dress." To a very real possibility the public may think we are two lesbians. So before I get "my freak on" concerning a real or perceived public reaction, I have to understand where it's coming from. Here's an example. Our server where we ate, quite possibly was a lesbian too, gave us excellent service and better yet, spread that Ladies word around liberally. While it's true, the more I transition, the less all of this is important to me at all. Why I care at all just comes from years of negative conditioning.
Being identified as a lesbian though is a whole different idea than I ever considered, almost the same as becoming androgynous in the public's eye. The L identification also changes my interaction with men again. Which is another topic for another day!
Regardless, of over thinking this whole gender process and being repetitive, I felt truly wonderfully comfortable and at ease in my own skin and clothes on New Years Eve.
My only disappointment was I faded early and could only make it till 2 am!
She out "pizazzed" me with a multi colored silky tunic top which draped over her thighs with leggings. She also started out with a modest pair of heels for the short walks we were under taking but we went back to the hotel and she changed to a pair of metallic flats quickly. I wasn't have anything to do with heels as always!
I went with my 3/4 length patterned black blouse/top, black leggings and slouch boots. We weren't going anywhere too fancy, unlike last year, so comfort trumped "glam" this year. On the other hand, our nails were polished, our makeup was top notch and a great time was had by all!
As I have written here in Cyrsti's Condo in the past, the mirror I worship the most is the public eye. New Year's Eve, the public was very accepting of me. Interestingly, now I have several different scenarios to consider.
I am moving away from "Hey! isn't that a guy in a dress." To a very real possibility the public may think we are two lesbians. So before I get "my freak on" concerning a real or perceived public reaction, I have to understand where it's coming from. Here's an example. Our server where we ate, quite possibly was a lesbian too, gave us excellent service and better yet, spread that Ladies word around liberally. While it's true, the more I transition, the less all of this is important to me at all. Why I care at all just comes from years of negative conditioning.
Being identified as a lesbian though is a whole different idea than I ever considered, almost the same as becoming androgynous in the public's eye. The L identification also changes my interaction with men again. Which is another topic for another day!
Regardless, of over thinking this whole gender process and being repetitive, I felt truly wonderfully comfortable and at ease in my own skin and clothes on New Years Eve.
My only disappointment was I faded early and could only make it till 2 am!
Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Woman of the Day"
Our transgender feature woman today - is Daniella Daniloff from Romania. 
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
"Passing" the Eye Test
Those of you Cyrsti's Condo sports fanatics probably have heard the term "passing the eye test" in a negative connotation. An example is a football player who totally "looks" the part and even has the physical skills to be a star. For what reason though, the player never makes it. Compare it to the beautiful cross dresser you know who never quite captures the essence of being a woman!
I had a chance to check my theory last night on New Years Eve, as my eye test told me an incredible amount of 20 something Cincinnati area women would start 2014 with a cold - or worse. Very "little black dresses" and very high heels were the norm on the very chilly streets of Cincinnati. Obviously, coats were optional! OK, I know I sound like someone's Mom and my intention is not to critique the young women last night. I would have loved to have ever looked like them! Proof was the rule of thumb I experienced when my girlfriend and I were trying to hail a taxi : The longest legs in the shortest skirt with the highest heels, gets the first cab. Guess who got the last cab?
Going back to when we left the hotel, Liz and I tried to define my "style". This was as close as we could come. A "shaggy haired, too much eye makeup, good old girl" partying with my girlfriend on New Years Eve. Take the hair in the blog profile picture with the makeup in the Google+ picture and that's close. In short, I thought I looked great and passed my own mental "eye test". As I have always said "confidence is your greatest fashion accessory." Mine last night led to a thoroughly enjoyable evening. We went to a couple places including one of the newer "brew houses" which overlooks the Ohio between the Red's and Bengal's stadia. If you don't know, Cincinnati has a huge German heritage and it's finally beginning to reclaim it's past as a home to many quality craft brewers.
I'm very much a creature of habit and this was our second year in a row greeting the New Year on the banks of the Ohio in downtown Cincinnati. This year, I was on a confidence roll other than the looks department. For once, I didn't let the "rest room" paranoia creep in and ruin much of my evening. I just figured I would use the women's restroom when I needed to and if anyone bitched, I would pee down their leg- not mine.
Looking back, the most interesting experience of the evening came as we were checking into our hotel under my female name. The clerk was having absolutely no problems with the process until she asked for my drivers license/I.D. The picture on the license shows a very androgynous me - with my very male name. She just paused for a second, didn't say anything except "sign here Mam" on the paperwork. I knew I passed the "eye test" and she thought damn that woman is wearing too much eye makeup and has too much hair for a woman her age.
I'm not exactly sure men my age feel the same way!
I had a chance to check my theory last night on New Years Eve, as my eye test told me an incredible amount of 20 something Cincinnati area women would start 2014 with a cold - or worse. Very "little black dresses" and very high heels were the norm on the very chilly streets of Cincinnati. Obviously, coats were optional! OK, I know I sound like someone's Mom and my intention is not to critique the young women last night. I would have loved to have ever looked like them! Proof was the rule of thumb I experienced when my girlfriend and I were trying to hail a taxi : The longest legs in the shortest skirt with the highest heels, gets the first cab. Guess who got the last cab?
Going back to when we left the hotel, Liz and I tried to define my "style". This was as close as we could come. A "shaggy haired, too much eye makeup, good old girl" partying with my girlfriend on New Years Eve. Take the hair in the blog profile picture with the makeup in the Google+ picture and that's close. In short, I thought I looked great and passed my own mental "eye test". As I have always said "confidence is your greatest fashion accessory." Mine last night led to a thoroughly enjoyable evening. We went to a couple places including one of the newer "brew houses" which overlooks the Ohio between the Red's and Bengal's stadia. If you don't know, Cincinnati has a huge German heritage and it's finally beginning to reclaim it's past as a home to many quality craft brewers.
I'm very much a creature of habit and this was our second year in a row greeting the New Year on the banks of the Ohio in downtown Cincinnati. This year, I was on a confidence roll other than the looks department. For once, I didn't let the "rest room" paranoia creep in and ruin much of my evening. I just figured I would use the women's restroom when I needed to and if anyone bitched, I would pee down their leg- not mine.
Looking back, the most interesting experience of the evening came as we were checking into our hotel under my female name. The clerk was having absolutely no problems with the process until she asked for my drivers license/I.D. The picture on the license shows a very androgynous me - with my very male name. She just paused for a second, didn't say anything except "sign here Mam" on the paperwork. I knew I passed the "eye test" and she thought damn that woman is wearing too much eye makeup and has too much hair for a woman her age.
I'm not exactly sure men my age feel the same way!
Dropping The Ball
Just change the date to protect the innocent! I'm fairly sure you have seen what happens!
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
New Years Eve "Kick Off"!
Merry New Years to all of you who may still be waiting from Cyrsti's Condo!!
Here's a festive drag queen video with all the drag queen colorful language! Oh well, hopefully a queen is as good as a lady!
Here's a festive drag queen video with all the drag queen colorful language! Oh well, hopefully a queen is as good as a lady!
More Sisterhood
I like this comment from Pat:
In large measure men tend to be calculators. "What is in it for them". When they encounter someone the often think of what that person may be looking for. Women, on the other hand, tend to view things at multiple levels at the same time. You as a TG women present an enigma to men. They do not get it, there is nothing that they want from you, they hope that there is nothing that you want from them and you can be a bit of a threat.
Women will not see you as a threat. You are interesting. You can interact with women on a woman to woman basis and you can bring along some of your 'guy' experiences. I think that your analogy of changing teams is going in the right direction but perhaps it is more like changing sports. Sort of like going from playing for the Cincy Bengals and not finding yourself on the roster of the Cleveland Indians.
A good question becomes, "When do women see a transgender woman as a threat?" Over the years, on several discussion sites, I have seen this topic discussed. The most shallow response is always "a genetic woman may be threatened by a beautiful transgender woman's looks." While I agree a woman may feel a bit insecure when a former team player from the other side enters her world and competes "externally", very quickly the "multiple levels" Pat brought up kick in. No matter how "good" a cross dresser or transgender woman may look, another genetic woman will quickly discover how much of a woman they really are. From that point, a woman decides which "category" her new trans acquaintance fits in.
Of course the major threat of all to both genders is sex. Men are wrecked by us. I will add to Pat's observation "what if there is something a man wants from us?" At that point, the "gay" word is brought into the situation and confusion reigns. OMG could I be gay? - is what a man thinks when in fact "gay" is not a term which enters a true transgender woman's mind. I have had very limited sexual contact with men but when I did, I was doing it as a trans woman. I came away from the experiences wondering what the men thought of me as a woman.
At the least, the whole gender mix is a potent and interesting discussion topic. The sad part is seemingly the only non participants are the hardcore femme lesbians these days. It's no surprise though, a certain amount of the population can't grasp the idea of multiple genders and sexuality outside the binaries. It's complex!
In the meantime, as my genetic girlfriend told me last night, she really has very little idea of what makes men tick. She made the comment also "I should be the gender expert." I could only say, I'm amazed how little each gender knows about the other, when they are so transparent. It could be, Pat, calling transgender women and men "interesting" could be an understatement. "Mysterious" may be a better word!
In large measure men tend to be calculators. "What is in it for them". When they encounter someone the often think of what that person may be looking for. Women, on the other hand, tend to view things at multiple levels at the same time. You as a TG women present an enigma to men. They do not get it, there is nothing that they want from you, they hope that there is nothing that you want from them and you can be a bit of a threat.
Women will not see you as a threat. You are interesting. You can interact with women on a woman to woman basis and you can bring along some of your 'guy' experiences. I think that your analogy of changing teams is going in the right direction but perhaps it is more like changing sports. Sort of like going from playing for the Cincy Bengals and not finding yourself on the roster of the Cleveland Indians.
A good question becomes, "When do women see a transgender woman as a threat?" Over the years, on several discussion sites, I have seen this topic discussed. The most shallow response is always "a genetic woman may be threatened by a beautiful transgender woman's looks." While I agree a woman may feel a bit insecure when a former team player from the other side enters her world and competes "externally", very quickly the "multiple levels" Pat brought up kick in. No matter how "good" a cross dresser or transgender woman may look, another genetic woman will quickly discover how much of a woman they really are. From that point, a woman decides which "category" her new trans acquaintance fits in.
Of course the major threat of all to both genders is sex. Men are wrecked by us. I will add to Pat's observation "what if there is something a man wants from us?" At that point, the "gay" word is brought into the situation and confusion reigns. OMG could I be gay? - is what a man thinks when in fact "gay" is not a term which enters a true transgender woman's mind. I have had very limited sexual contact with men but when I did, I was doing it as a trans woman. I came away from the experiences wondering what the men thought of me as a woman.
At the least, the whole gender mix is a potent and interesting discussion topic. The sad part is seemingly the only non participants are the hardcore femme lesbians these days. It's no surprise though, a certain amount of the population can't grasp the idea of multiple genders and sexuality outside the binaries. It's complex!
In the meantime, as my genetic girlfriend told me last night, she really has very little idea of what makes men tick. She made the comment also "I should be the gender expert." I could only say, I'm amazed how little each gender knows about the other, when they are so transparent. It could be, Pat, calling transgender women and men "interesting" could be an understatement. "Mysterious" may be a better word!
Transitioning Over the Years
Another look at the possibilities of transgender transitioning over the years. Take a look on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:
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