For security reasons, I have all my HRT meds sent to my daughter's house. It works for two reasons. The meds go to a secure place and I have a fairly regular excuse to see her. If you stop by Cyrsti's Condo often, you know she is one of my strongest advocates-behind my gender transition all the way.
It turns out my new Estrogen patches showed up recently at her place and I stopped to pick them up. After a bit of small talk about my grandkids and son in law, she got serious and I knew a big discussion was headed my way.
After a bit of side talk, she got right to the point and asked me why did I come in male drag to the recent birthday dinner for my 10 year old grandson. She said how much sense did it make if everyone already knew and expected to see the real me? Well, I thought what the hell, "why did I?" Right or wrong, I knew my excuse - It was his evening and I didn't want to take away from that. That is true but both my daughter and I have been putting off me sitting down with just the three kids for a question and answer. That is scheduled now for next week.
So...here are the three topics of discussion: (8-10-13 year olds)
!.- Is the "new" me any different than the "old" me? No, I am still old and will share all my interests in history with them. I want to keep doing all we have been doing.
2.- What is this "transgender" thing all about anyhow? Fortunately the kids are very cerebral and diverse in their thinking already. My oldest grandson had a very out gay man as a fourth grade teacher who the whole school knew was a very well known drag queen. I am fairly sure I can explain rather plainly and by keeping it PG rated - the difference between being gay or lesbian and a transgender person.
#3.-And-the tough one: What should they call me? I am thinking about making it a contest. I'm thinking about "Granny C"?
I will let you know how the experience works out!
Monday, February 9, 2015
In Hot Water?
OK, of all the responses I figured I possibly may get from my transgender "Bucket List" post about going swimming, I missed the point totally on this one. I thought Connie would zero in on me for my "bucket" being large enough to use as a wading pool- or my bucket is so old it wouldn't hold water anyhow! Here's Connie's comment:
Senior Ladies Water Aerobics class at the community pool? I hear the sharks in Ohio are among the most discriminating; they prefer aged meat. Be careful that your feminine expression does not become just another old expression, considering that "valor is the best part of discretion", that is. :)
**Note-the closest sharks to me are in the Ohio River and they have different names: giant catfish and carp!
Then Paula commented:
Senior Ladies Water Aerobics class at the community pool? I hear the sharks in Ohio are among the most discriminating; they prefer aged meat. Be careful that your feminine expression does not become just another old expression, considering that "valor is the best part of discretion", that is. :)
**Note-the closest sharks to me are in the Ohio River and they have different names: giant catfish and carp!
Then Paula commented:
Paula GoodwinFebruary 9, 2015 at 5:29 AM
In London and Brighton (and quite possibly other places as well) we have special closed swimming sessions at local pools specially for trans and gender diverse people. It is really liberating, and great fun. Having been swimming with the London group and on holiday I am now challenging myself t use my local pool.
Thanks Paula! My prediction is if my swimming idea happens at all, it will happen at a hotel pool when Liz and I travel. And, yes Connie, I will warn them ahead of time about an oil slick if I don't wear the right water proof makeup!!!!
Sunday, February 8, 2015
Who will you be this Spring?
Nice subjective question I saw pop up in one of my email boxes this morning and I paused to see who it was from- I quickly saw the email was coming from one of my "dream" fashion sites "Free People" . It's a boho clothing site featuring clothes I can't possibly wear or afford but I can dream. My part of the dream is simple, even though I may not be able to buy or fit in to "Free People's" clothes-I can learn from them and find less expensive alternatives which will fit me here and there.
So, who will I be this spring? Or, who do I want to be? After looking at Free People's offerings, I knew. I want to fill my bucket list up with water and swim in it. I know how to swim but have never embraced it and felt it was something I could never do as a girl. As you all know, never or ever are words I embrace less than water. However, this summer may be the chance to frolic in my bucket of water. It's big to me too because I view the whole experience as one of the ultimate's in feminine expression-until I get eaten by a shark!
Now though, with my HRT changes in skin, breasts, hips and hair-it may be time.
So, who will I be this spring? Or, who do I want to be? After looking at Free People's offerings, I knew. I want to fill my bucket list up with water and swim in it. I know how to swim but have never embraced it and felt it was something I could never do as a girl. As you all know, never or ever are words I embrace less than water. However, this summer may be the chance to frolic in my bucket of water. It's big to me too because I view the whole experience as one of the ultimate's in feminine expression-until I get eaten by a shark!
Now though, with my HRT changes in skin, breasts, hips and hair-it may be time.
Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition"
Ker Plunk! Heads up! Another Cyrsti's Condo Sunday Edition has hit your virtual front porch. Get your cup o joe and jammies ready!
Page 1.- The Week That Was-or-Wasn't: It was an easy choice this week, the story of Bruce Jenner, who at press time was involved in a fatal accident. Unharmed, Jenner was being chased reportively by the paparazzi. Also riding on Jenner's possible MtF transgender transition was helicopter traffic reporter Zoey Tur. I just can't imagine sitting around the average American dinner table when one of the so called entertainment shows once again features either one of them. Maybe stealth doesn't look so bad after all!
Page 2.- Transgender Seniors: For some reason this week, I fell and couldn't get up on the topic of transgender seniors and nursing homes. An exceedingly tough discussion for anyone but worse of course for trans women and men. Connie commented:
"Having an advocate, like your daughter would be, is probably the most important thing for anybody when confined to a hospital or nursing home. I've had to be that advocate for family members and a friend, and I shudder to think of how much worse it would have been for them had I not made certain demands regarding their care. But, we know of so many transgender women and men who have been abandoned by family and friends. This very thing has led to suicide for too many of our transgender brothers and sisters. We, the survivors, must realize that getting past the pain of what life has handed us is not going to be of much help when we have to give up our own identities in order to receive medical care; care that could save our lives (even though we may feel as though we're dying inside at the same time).
Page 3.- Returning to the "Seen" of the Crime: Many times I think you lose track of your changes under HRT. Last week, for the first time in a while, I went back to one of one the venues I literally transitioned in. Wow, how times have changed! As I said in the post, two of the original bartenders are still there and no the venue itself didn't find itself in a "dangerous" neighborhood over the years. Go here to revisit the post.
Page 4.- The Back Page. Congratulations this week to Stana of Femulate fame celebrating another blog anniversary! She is incredible! And, so are all of you for taking time to visit Cyrsti's Condo time after time! Thanks!
Page 1.- The Week That Was-or-Wasn't: It was an easy choice this week, the story of Bruce Jenner, who at press time was involved in a fatal accident. Unharmed, Jenner was being chased reportively by the paparazzi. Also riding on Jenner's possible MtF transgender transition was helicopter traffic reporter Zoey Tur. I just can't imagine sitting around the average American dinner table when one of the so called entertainment shows once again features either one of them. Maybe stealth doesn't look so bad after all!
Page 2.- Transgender Seniors: For some reason this week, I fell and couldn't get up on the topic of transgender seniors and nursing homes. An exceedingly tough discussion for anyone but worse of course for trans women and men. Connie commented:
"Having an advocate, like your daughter would be, is probably the most important thing for anybody when confined to a hospital or nursing home. I've had to be that advocate for family members and a friend, and I shudder to think of how much worse it would have been for them had I not made certain demands regarding their care. But, we know of so many transgender women and men who have been abandoned by family and friends. This very thing has led to suicide for too many of our transgender brothers and sisters. We, the survivors, must realize that getting past the pain of what life has handed us is not going to be of much help when we have to give up our own identities in order to receive medical care; care that could save our lives (even though we may feel as though we're dying inside at the same time).
Page 3.- Returning to the "Seen" of the Crime: Many times I think you lose track of your changes under HRT. Last week, for the first time in a while, I went back to one of one the venues I literally transitioned in. Wow, how times have changed! As I said in the post, two of the original bartenders are still there and no the venue itself didn't find itself in a "dangerous" neighborhood over the years. Go here to revisit the post.
Page 4.- The Back Page. Congratulations this week to Stana of Femulate fame celebrating another blog anniversary! She is incredible! And, so are all of you for taking time to visit Cyrsti's Condo time after time! Thanks!
Saturday, February 7, 2015
Damn You Are Old!
Recently, here in Cyrsti's Condo we discussed the issue of being a senior transgender person in a nursing home. Being in a nursing home at all is scary I know-but as with everything else in our trans lives, we have extra issues.
Pat was good enough to direct me to Caden Lane's post on the subject which you can read here.
Pat was good enough to direct me to Caden Lane's post on the subject which you can read here.
Cyrsti's Condo "OOOPS?"
Hey Tim, you better get in here! Your friends came early to go to the movies!
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