Danielle Marelli is a 20 something transsexual movie and television actress from Orlando, Florida. Born male on July 16, 1991, Danielle grew up a feminine child and was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder of Children at age 8 years old and began to transition.Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Cyrsti's Condo "Woman of the Day"
Danielle Marelli is a 20 something transsexual movie and television actress from Orlando, Florida. Born male on July 16, 1991, Danielle grew up a feminine child and was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder of Children at age 8 years old and began to transition.
Cyrsti's Condo "S"and "D"
On occasion I still run across the individual who dismisses quickly they could never look like a woman. Truly, I have happened along a few of men who looking feminine at all would be a real process....but-
There are just as many men who won't/can't put the work into an exterior passing presentation. At the least, logic tells us you need to start with the basics. You need to watch your weight and take care of your skin.
Lately, to get ahead of the summer fashion curve, I have been stepping up my game. It's no fun to diet by yourself and don't you just have to have a diet to talk to another woman about? Now I do, and yes it is working. Of course, as my snarky sister in law commented "well, men lose weight faster than women anyhow." I shot back " How bout a man who has been on female hormones for two years?"
So far so good, I have lost a certain amount of poundage which I can talk about in feminine circles and make me look a little better.
As far as my skin goes, facing 65 years of wear and tear in the mirror is tough but the best I can do is take care of what I have. Again I have fallen back on Liz's expertise on moisturizers and skin cleansers etc.
It's quite the project! On the bright side, you guys are now allowed to take better care of your skin and hair. So, being a cross dresser isn't so dramatic. Just forget about the 3 minute grooming process before work in the morning!
There are just as many men who won't/can't put the work into an exterior passing presentation. At the least, logic tells us you need to start with the basics. You need to watch your weight and take care of your skin.
Lately, to get ahead of the summer fashion curve, I have been stepping up my game. It's no fun to diet by yourself and don't you just have to have a diet to talk to another woman about? Now I do, and yes it is working. Of course, as my snarky sister in law commented "well, men lose weight faster than women anyhow." I shot back " How bout a man who has been on female hormones for two years?"
So far so good, I have lost a certain amount of poundage which I can talk about in feminine circles and make me look a little better.
As far as my skin goes, facing 65 years of wear and tear in the mirror is tough but the best I can do is take care of what I have. Again I have fallen back on Liz's expertise on moisturizers and skin cleansers etc.
It's quite the project! On the bright side, you guys are now allowed to take better care of your skin and hair. So, being a cross dresser isn't so dramatic. Just forget about the 3 minute grooming process before work in the morning!
A "Piece of Tail?"
So much going on in my life now, it seems as if I will have to grow a tail to chase it just to try to stay up.
In no particular order (or importance) let's talk about the pure vanity of presenting the absolute best feminine look you can-then living with it and living with it. I began to think about the differences in my exterior life now than back in the day- when I was just starting to make my way in the world. As Seattle Seahawk fan Connie Malone said after the extremely ill fated pass at the goal line which cost them the Super Bowl (I paraphrase) "The Seahawks aren't alone-most of us have made bad choices when we have tried to "pass.". As any of my generic readers such as Liz and Maria would say "it's all in the details!"
Weekend details for me included yet another round of my endless battle against gray hair and Liz colored away. Lately, I have been having fun running around yelling "The Moose is Loose!" I have been trying to master the "science" of hair mousse. If I do it right, after shampooing and conditioning I love the soft curls the mousse gives me when my hair dries.
Interestingly, all of this activity has led to less intense "socializing" and more "just living." I'm turning the corner from being this "entrancing" critter I see in the mirror to damn I'm old! And what's up with people just accepting me as a person?
In no particular order (or importance) let's talk about the pure vanity of presenting the absolute best feminine look you can-then living with it and living with it. I began to think about the differences in my exterior life now than back in the day- when I was just starting to make my way in the world. As Seattle Seahawk fan Connie Malone said after the extremely ill fated pass at the goal line which cost them the Super Bowl (I paraphrase) "The Seahawks aren't alone-most of us have made bad choices when we have tried to "pass.". As any of my generic readers such as Liz and Maria would say "it's all in the details!"
Weekend details for me included yet another round of my endless battle against gray hair and Liz colored away. Lately, I have been having fun running around yelling "The Moose is Loose!" I have been trying to master the "science" of hair mousse. If I do it right, after shampooing and conditioning I love the soft curls the mousse gives me when my hair dries.
Interestingly, all of this activity has led to less intense "socializing" and more "just living." I'm turning the corner from being this "entrancing" critter I see in the mirror to damn I'm old! And what's up with people just accepting me as a person?
Monday, February 2, 2015
Cyrsti's Condo "Really Dear?"
Come on honey, you really didn't know someone was "playing" in your clothes?(Unidentified cross dresser)
Whats In A Name Change?
I can not describe the trauma involved with being seated in a Doctor's waiting room, knowing full well someone is going to scream out my very male name. My recent Cyrsti's Condo post on the sudden military's reversal on changing gender markers on a transgender veteran's DD 214. gives me hope I won't have to much longer. As most of you know, I am a trans vet and under VA health care and suddenly the news leaked out the military had changed genders on a few discharge forms. Truthfully, I don't know for sure the steps I need to take to apply to get my 214 changed to stop the madness but I now know the light at the end of the tunnel is not the train! There is a chance!
My only real problem is that I am lazy, I have a very androgynous picture on my drivers license, all my friends and the greatest majority of the world pronouns me correctly-so gender markers are on one of my burners-somewhere. As I have said though, since I am retired on Social Security, I don't have to worry about finding a job as a transgender woman-a huge deal with the wrong gender markers.
Now, I also received this comment:
My only real problem is that I am lazy, I have a very androgynous picture on my drivers license, all my friends and the greatest majority of the world pronouns me correctly-so gender markers are on one of my burners-somewhere. As I have said though, since I am retired on Social Security, I don't have to worry about finding a job as a transgender woman-a huge deal with the wrong gender markers.
Now, I also received this comment:
Sunday, February 1, 2015
Super Pick
It's true, it seems hell will have to freeze over before another Super Bowl ever comes through Ohio again. Old time misguided Cleveland Browns fans will feed you some sort of BS about some sort of pre historic championships they won before the first Super Bowl. On the other hand (and the other end of the state) the Cincinnati Bengals have been twice only to sustain heartbreaking defeats. Now we are stuck with an "almost" good enough coach and a not good enough "ginger QB".
However, none of my whining stops me from a Super Bowl prediction!
Remember, first of all, I have my biases and emotional attachments to consider. First of all, forget about Brady playing with his balls or any of the other cheating the Patriots do. I look at it this way-if Bellicheat was really playing with Tom's balls-of all teams-the Ravens would have screamed like little girls. (Patriots beat the Ravens before playing the Colts). Why emotionally I would love to see Seattle dismantle Brady is that he played for Michigan. I am not alone. Last season when the Patriots and Bengals played here in Cincinnati, the game was close into the fourth quarter when Brady had the ball and the heavens opened and literally doused him with rain. What's that tell you?
I'm going to blame my pick on HRT- I think New England will win, although I don't want them to. (Sorry Connie)
However, none of my whining stops me from a Super Bowl prediction!
Remember, first of all, I have my biases and emotional attachments to consider. First of all, forget about Brady playing with his balls or any of the other cheating the Patriots do. I look at it this way-if Bellicheat was really playing with Tom's balls-of all teams-the Ravens would have screamed like little girls. (Patriots beat the Ravens before playing the Colts). Why emotionally I would love to see Seattle dismantle Brady is that he played for Michigan. I am not alone. Last season when the Patriots and Bengals played here in Cincinnati, the game was close into the fourth quarter when Brady had the ball and the heavens opened and literally doused him with rain. What's that tell you?
I'm going to blame my pick on HRT- I think New England will win, although I don't want them to. (Sorry Connie)
Don't Look Now-
All of the sudden, transgender veterans are beginning to have their DD 214's changed to reflect their feminine lifestyle:
This week the National LGBT Bar Association announced a historic decision by the United States Navy, which issued new military documents recognizing a transgender veteran’s legal name change and gender identity. The association also hailed similar victories for two veterans of the U.S. Army.
Lieutenant Paula M. Neira, a 1985 Naval Academy graduate who served in Operation Desert Storm, filed her case in March 2014 and received word in the mail on January 23 that her name change had been approved. She is the first Navy veteran to be issued new Department of Defense paperwork known as Form DD-214. This form is used by Navy veterans to prove they served, whenever they apply for work or for benefits and services available only to veterans.
Neira told Daily Kos the decision came as a pleasant surprise. “I was expecting a fight,” she said. Despite serving with distinction and being awarded more than 20 military decorations, Neira told Today Health she felt she had to leave the Navy because of her gender identity.
“I never wanted to leave and hoped to spend my entire life in the Navy,” she said. “I had to leave and be who I am. That decision was the hardest one I have ever made.”
Neira resigned her commission in 1991, and underwent gender confirmation surgery in 1995.
Neira, now a nurse educator in Bowie, Md., learned the importance of the DD-214 document when a job offer was rescinded, after she revealed to a prospective employer what her military records would say about her.
“This is an important step for so many transgender veterans, and we are glad the Navy has made it,” said Brynn Tannehill, a former Navy pilot and Director of Advocacy for Service Members, Partners, Allies for Respect and Tolerance for All (SPART*A).
Of the 22 million veterans of the armed forces, the Williams Institute, a UCLA Law School think tank, estimates 134,000 are transgender. But a spokesman for the Pentagon told Daily Kos these decisions do not reflect a change in official policy.
“At this time, there are no plans to change the DOD policy on the DD-214,” Lt. Cmdr. Nate Christensen said in a statement.
In addition, the Pentagon’s deputy general counsel responded to a request by the LGBT Bar Association to distribute official policy guidance to the boards that govern the DD-214s, with a terse statement explaining why it was “unnecessary.”
Neira told Today Health, “Hopefully, it will become routine for any transgender vet to request a new DD-214. The broader implication is to recognize that transgender people can serve in the military. To make it difficult serves no other purpose than ignorance and bigotry.”
Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition"
KerPlunk! Another version of the Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition" has hit your virtual front porch. Get your hot cup o joe, curl up in your fave jammies and lets get started.
Page One-The Week That Was -or Wasn't. Perhaps you regulars around here noticed I missed posting two days in a row for maybe the first time in a year or so. None of it had to do with personal illness, just other factors.
In the world as a whole, quite by accident, I stumbled across an intense episode of a show truthfully I never have watched called "Love thy Sister". From Autostraddle comes this excerpt:
Transgender representation on TV is slowly but steadily getting better. Last year, Laverne Cox became the first openly transgender actor to snag an Emmy nomination. This year, Transparent, the first show to feature a transgender woman as the lead character, won two Golden Globe Awards. And just a few weeks ago, WEtv premiered a new reality series called Love Thy Sister, which features Londyn Smith de Richelieu, a black transgender woman who is longtime friends with one of the show’s three sisters. This week’s episode focuses heavily on Londyn, her relationship with Ione Rucker and her experiences as a trans woman.
While I know some will automatically want to dismiss the show and Londyn for being too gorgeous-the fact remains the show spoke directly to most of the lives of transgender women and men. First of all Lyndon had a giant problem and discussion with friend Ione who was having a huge problem with using the proper pronouns with her...much like my problems with my sister in law. Then, Londyn was going with her friends to a "woymn" only sex toy party and was asked to leave because she was "still a man"...much like me being denied admission to a lesbian "only" group here in (Loki) Cincinnati. I was surprised the show did such a good job. If you find it to watch, be patient. The real content comes after quite a bit of early fluff!
Page Two: And Then There was Bruce? I have to tell you, I cringe every time I see an update on Bruce Jenner's transition "to a woman". Very simply, I'm afraid of the Kardashian media circus doing just that to a transgender Mtf transistion: making it a circus. So far though, all seems to be pretty calm on all the talk shows and of course Bruce is supposed to be coming up with her own story soon.
Page Three: "D" Says it All? I guess it had to happen soon or later-the much feared diet. So, a week ago Liz and I embarked on one. No need to mention which one, because unless they work for you and are good for you-who cares? Unless I am paid to be a spokesperson (hint!) At any rate, what is a diet with out a goal? My goal is next summer, when I really am looking ahead to the warmer months as a true coming out time. The reason being, my muscle mass should be at an all time low, and my exterior feminine HRT development should be at an all time high. Why not do yet another one of the ultimate in woman life experiences? The diet.
Page Four: The Back Page. Well kids, it's time to put the wraps on another Sunday Edition! I'm going to try to get a special post together including your comments and maybe even a very prejudiced Super Bowl prediction!
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In the world as a whole, quite by accident, I stumbled across an intense episode of a show truthfully I never have watched called "Love thy Sister". From Autostraddle comes this excerpt:
Transgender representation on TV is slowly but steadily getting better. Last year, Laverne Cox became the first openly transgender actor to snag an Emmy nomination. This year, Transparent, the first show to feature a transgender woman as the lead character, won two Golden Globe Awards. And just a few weeks ago, WEtv premiered a new reality series called Love Thy Sister, which features Londyn Smith de Richelieu, a black transgender woman who is longtime friends with one of the show’s three sisters. This week’s episode focuses heavily on Londyn, her relationship with Ione Rucker and her experiences as a trans woman.
While I know some will automatically want to dismiss the show and Londyn for being too gorgeous-the fact remains the show spoke directly to most of the lives of transgender women and men. First of all Lyndon had a giant problem and discussion with friend Ione who was having a huge problem with using the proper pronouns with her...much like my problems with my sister in law. Then, Londyn was going with her friends to a "woymn" only sex toy party and was asked to leave because she was "still a man"...much like me being denied admission to a lesbian "only" group here in (Loki) Cincinnati. I was surprised the show did such a good job. If you find it to watch, be patient. The real content comes after quite a bit of early fluff!
Page Two: And Then There was Bruce? I have to tell you, I cringe every time I see an update on Bruce Jenner's transition "to a woman". Very simply, I'm afraid of the Kardashian media circus doing just that to a transgender Mtf transistion: making it a circus. So far though, all seems to be pretty calm on all the talk shows and of course Bruce is supposed to be coming up with her own story soon.
Page Three: "D" Says it All? I guess it had to happen soon or later-the much feared diet. So, a week ago Liz and I embarked on one. No need to mention which one, because unless they work for you and are good for you-who cares? Unless I am paid to be a spokesperson (hint!) At any rate, what is a diet with out a goal? My goal is next summer, when I really am looking ahead to the warmer months as a true coming out time. The reason being, my muscle mass should be at an all time low, and my exterior feminine HRT development should be at an all time high. Why not do yet another one of the ultimate in woman life experiences? The diet.
Page Four: The Back Page. Well kids, it's time to put the wraps on another Sunday Edition! I'm going to try to get a special post together including your comments and maybe even a very prejudiced Super Bowl prediction!
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Thanks to you Maria! Yes, gender markers are almost as big as deal as the physical transition itself. It's a daunting task to go back and attempt to erase all vestiges of one's former gender life. I have read stories of one trans woman who ran into problems (of all places) at her dog's veterinarian. After all, one bigot in a system seeking to make some sort of statement is all you need to jam a wrench in your life.
But all is getting better-in some places. My friend Racquel just celebrated her legal name change this week as did my friend Draco years ago. Here in Ohio though-we are stuck with our birth gender on our birth certificates as I write this. Getting a passport and a new social security card is not impossible either. My problems come with playing with Social Security at all and risk my retirement check.
I am sure all of you who have journeyed down the gender marker route at all probably have different stories depending on where you live. One fact remains-transitioning is not for sissies!