The Most Dangerous Visitor to the "Girls' Sandbox!"

My candidate would be one of the most feminine trans women I have ever known who went through SRS. She was absolutely smart and nice and beautiful. I just can't imagine how a bitchy genetic could not be sliced and diced by this so called passive aggressive trans woman who experienced the male on male side of aggression for 30+ years of her life.  She would have never had an idea of what hit her!

But as a I think about it, another good bet would be a savvy trans girl who has played the gender game for a time. The genetic who picked the fight thought she knew what she was going up against but in the end (and she gets cornered) she knows she only has one real defense. She was born with a vagina. Now though, even that defense is going away with better SRS and even functional uterus transplants in Sweden. Could birthing as the ultimate domain of the genetics be disappearing too?

Rarely have I been ever verbally attacked in the sandbox, but it has happened and it was not pretty. I wore the scratch marks as learning experiences forever it seemed.  Certainly, there will always be a few girls in the sandbox who want to try to make sure we aren't allowed to play.  Sure, we may be a little different but maybe not as different as they want to think!

In a future post, if I'm feeling bitchy, we will take a look at the trans girls' side of the women s sandbox. Where often the real battle is!

Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day"

RockaBilly Fashions

I admit I am not the most fashion savvy girl in the world but every once in a while a certain style makes sense to me as something I would wear and all of a sudden I have a place to wear it to.

I had sort of heard of or seen a touch of the "Rockabilly" fashion style and it did/does appeal to me in many ways.  More importantly, I think I can wear various designs and will need an upgrade to my wardrobe beginning a week from Friday when Liz and I go to the huge "Rainbow" Dance near Cincinnati and into the Holiday season.

What really sparked my attention this morning was a request for a Twitter follow from "Blueberry Hill Fashions."  With this bio:
BlueBerry Hill Fashions is a Modern Rockabilly Boutique. I started doodling a few dresses here and there and one day, poof..I decided to have them made :)

So, I followed the link and found several designs I felt would flatter me and I could afford.

Then of course I had to look for anything in my size and did find a few options too! (I know too that all of you girls aren't plus size!)

The link above provides quite the selection of styles and ideas!

If You Live Close!

Cyrsti's Condo "Halloween Ideas"

Seriously (as you will tell kids) I'm not real good at finding or suggesting Halloween costume ideas. But I do have a couple possibilities to pass along which could be inexpensive, fun and even keep the "hey are you a cross dresser?" naysayers off your back if desired.

The first is a "Zombie Prom Queen"

 Just "haunt" your local thrift stores for an old inexpensive formal dress-check out all the other closeted CD ers looking for a costume and add the cheap accessories.

It's a "killer costume!"



Just as scary is this idea:

Come as a version of "Flo", the Progressive Insurance spokes person.  Start with a cheap dark wig, old tennis shoes and "fill in with white. Just be abrasive the rest of the night and asks if anyone wants an insurance quote - and you got it!

Cyrsti's Condo "OOOOPS!"

Tom did you know it was this dance recital your parents and grand parents were coming to?  They are in the front row, looking for your name in the program!

Cyrsti's Condo "Star Gazing"

Another week has flown by kids and it's time to take a look at what the astrological signs have to say about our week!

First, we Libra's:   (September 23-October 22): Hold onto your knickers, because this week’s whirlwind energy is going to blow hard and fast. Be extra guarded with what you hold dear, as sadistic strikes come at you in a slow and steady stream from the usual suspect of your distress. Resist the psychological cat and mouse game, though, because getting bit in the ass won’t be your cup of tea.

Wow! I will have to hold on to my knickers because I have always enjoyed a psychological game (even more so in the girl's sandbox!) but I do have a low threshold for pain and would hate to get bit in the ass-again!

This week we are going "slumming" with our Gemini sisters as our featured guests:  

(May 21-June 20): The allure of the rougher types will turn your head. Ogres, misanthropes and all round beasts will hit a certain chord, as you see how people are living out the way you often feel inside. Seems you’re going to be finding your groove in the sketchier side of town, which will be a refreshing break from what you now know as civilization.

If we missed your sign this week, here is the simple solution! Go to theFrisky here.

Short Term Planning?

Of course most of you in Cyrsti's Condo know I just turned 65 this weekend.  I was happy to know I am now some sort of "Icon of Age" for many of you 60 somethings to look up to.(Michelle)

Sunday night one of my girlfriends and I were out watching our NFL Bengals do their usual prime time TV crash and burn, we did have a chance to chat when we weren't bitching.

My friends know I'm not shy about saying we are going to have a great time at Pride or a Rainbow Dance-if I live that long.  It's not that I don't think I won't-but know from experience how paper thin life is.  Also "me thinks" I have less time on this world at 65 than when I was 25.

But I do wonder what the gender driven world will be like say 10 or 20 years from now? Pat recently commented :  I tend to adopt the practice of simply not caring what people call me. For the sake of simplicity, however, I can be referred to as a "T" or as a CD.  Certainly Pat and I agree. Plus, over the years I have developed a relatively thick skin to what peeps have called me as either gender. But your comment led me to wonder what labels indeed could be gone in a decade or so?

Hand Beaded Hair- Trans Pride Gift

In my not so distant past, I have seen transgender arise, transvestite become obsolete and tra--y become a slur. Just by looking at the gender terminology the younger generation is using these days, I almost think cross dresser is almost obsolete now.  Like you Pat, they just don't care!  

Whatever happens, I hope I'm around (and coherent) to experience it.  I was amazed the other day to read of a right wing pundit referring to the powerful trans lobby bringing us closer to a certain meeting with Satan.  Wow! I thought! Finally we have a powerful lobby?  Cool!

Pat, I guess "stealth" can be defined too by admitting you don't care who is sticking what label on you. If I take last night as an example, I got nary the glance from anyone. But, just in case they did, I was wearing my pewter trans necklace and a rainbow ring.

I was seasoning  my "stealth" with a back up dose of pride!

"Trans" is the New What?

Before all the trans nazi's and trans terfs start to tear this show apart too, allow me to be a bit euphoric.  It's getting good reviews and I think it is important to realize that not all of us are fortunate enough to go through a dramatic MtF gender transition without the basic body structure to easily do it.

Plus, of course I will be ready for the usual comments about transitioning so much later in life!  

Here's the "scoop":from Amazon.com.

An LA family with serious boundary issues have their past and future unravel when a dramatic admission causes everyone's secrets to spill out. Starring Jeffrey Tambor, Judith Light, Amy Landecker, Jay Duplass, and Gaby Hoffmann.