Comentators

Recently I mentioned the difficulty you all are having getting comments into Cyrsti's Condo.  I twerked (er) tweaked several things. Well, at least one seemed to be working because I was flattered when I received this comment from Ginger Burr:

"Thanks so much, Cyrsti, for this wonderful message (and for enjoying my blog posts!). You hit the nail on the head. You are so right about having to "jump" age brackets. It makes the process more challenging for those who are in their 40's when they fully embrace their feminine selves (I hear this from my trans clients all the time, but they are also so thankful to be expressing themselves authentically that the experience is wonderful even with the jump). The world is changing for the better (I have seen such forward movement over the past 30 years) and I hope the 20 something generation will read your comments and take the plunge with no looking back! Thank you for sharing your wealth of knowledge and thoughtfulness.""

Thanks to you Ginger! Years ago, someone I admired very deeply tried to tell me simply putting on a dress and heels made me a princess - not a woman-and I was clueless. (She was right.) It's the reason I always try to be in tune with the multi layered worlds "generic" woman grew up and live in day to day.

If you missed the post, briefly, we discussed three subjects from Ginger which deeply spoke to all transgender women. Here is a link again to her site .

Eat More Chicken?

Today was appointment day at one of my medical team. Sounds impressive-right??

Well, it is and keep in mind the only way I can afford it is my Veterans Administration co-payment health care along with my yet to be tested Medicare.

At the VA I am assigned to a "primary care provider" - not unlike your family doc, if you still have one of those. Then, I have my endocrinologist and finally the person I call my "pusher."  She actually is a psychiatrist who monitors/prescribes my moods because I am bi-polar. If you didn't know, mixing an estrogen "supplement" with a mood stabilizer can cause problems.  I of course have been dealing with this for years and am ready every time a well meaning person on my medical team and raises the red flag. They are right and I don't want to sound as if I take any of this lightly. Fortunately, it is easier to explain these days to professionals being transgender is not a choice.

I always seem to have the most fun after the "work" part of my appointments. The example today was when Kelly asked me what I thought about Leelah Alcorn, Bruce Jenner AND...did I think all the hormones in processed foods were dropping the testosterone levels as a whole in men. Well, as most of you long term Cyrsti's Condo readers know-I do think that.  Having said that, I'm not saying society as a whole will be experiencing a complete boom in the numbers of cross dressers and transgender women, but the stereotypical John Wayne virile guys are not as numerous.

Try having that conversation with the person who essentially is my therapist. So I guess I could cut back on my regular HRT estrogen dosage if I gave up my boycott on a certain chicken chain which is well known for it's bigotry?

Cyrsti's Condo "Library"

Recently I found this site which may be of interest to many of you from Transgress Press.


So far though, I did not see any of their publications directed towards senior transgender or the "baby booming"  transitioning folk. However, this one caught my eye! Transgender partners (be they male or female) get no love either!

Follow the link above for a closer look!

Comments?

I understand from a couple of you that you are having difficulties publishing comments to Cyrsti's Condo. Rest assured I don't think I did anything to cause that to happen. I don't block anyone, but I do have the option to not publish an inappropriate or spamish comment.

I am going to continue to work on the problem. In the meantime, you can always e mail me at cyrstih@yahoo.com or comment on my Google+ account.

Thanks! 

Humor-Nobility-Connie and Bruce

For some unknown reason a couple nights ago, I did see the humor in all of this MtF gender transition and remembered that Connie had commented some time ago on the same subject and her buddy Bruce Jenner. 

"One of the most important things Bruce said was at the outset of the interview, asking that we keep a sense of humor about all of this. Humor can go a long way in easing the suffering of slings and arrows, as well as in keeping our own nobility."

For sure humor does go a long way when you are transgender. At least with me, every so often I have to stop-crawl down off my pedestal and think damn I have been taking myself all too seriously AND have a sense of humor.

During these times I wished I did live closer to Connie and be heckled or be the heckler at one of her performances. The problem being (other than distance) - what she could say to me would be totally different than the rest of the world. I know we share the same pathway and humor is good!

Personally, I have never been good enough to ease my public suffering with humor. Deep down I know how well I'm able to navigate the world as a trans woman in the present and future- I will still have to suffer the idiots who nearly fall out of their chairs when I walk by. Or worse yet, glare after I use the rest room. Then again, I feel the same way when I see all the slobs walking down the street close to where I live.

Nobility? Only when Connie does't see me fall off my pedestal.

Cyrsti's Condo "Drag Star?"

Jared Leto in drag. (Love the belt!)

Good Questions

One of the few Image/Beauty sites I subscribe to is Ginger Burr's Total Image Consultants.  I have always enjoyed her site because it speaks to me in so many ways.

Example? How about these:

1. What would you say to your 20 year old self?
2. The key's to feeling "Authentically Beautiful"
3. And- Who taught you how to dress?

Of course Ginger Burr most likely will never know how close this information comes to the hearts of me and transgender women and cross dressers everywhere. Even, maybe more so than the average "generic woman." Here is why.

Number one.-I would say to me to "get it over with" jump off the gender cliff and transition. Build my life and never look back. 

Number two is HUGE if any of us are going to obtain the most "passing privilege" we can find. After all, we have to work so much harder to earn our place in the feminine world. Primarily by looking like we aren't trying. I have always said in my case, when my hair grew long enough I could shed my wigs, my authenticity went up too.

Number three ties in nicely with two. Our problem is WE taught ourselves how to dress. We didn't have the benefit of having a gaggle of girlfriends to talk clothes with or a Mom to critique us. Plus, in many cases, we have to "jump" age brackets. Meaning, not dressing like a teen girl when we are in our 40's or not blending into society by wearing 4" heels to shop in the produce section at my supermarket. Finally, years ago, the problem I had with women in my life was they wanted to "create me in their image." Sure I made mistakes but finally ended up with my own personal style.

Ginger Burr's site is but one of many many places available on line now where we can all go for ideas on working with our best features. Most certainly trans women and cross dressers occupy a unique spot between the binary genders. You know though, if we pay attention and don't get discouraged, the "hot" seat becomes much "cooler."

Cyrsti's Condo - Date Night????

Unidentified cross dresser Pinterest

Jim!!! If you really want to be a girl, come on, you are going out to the clubs with my girlfriends tonight!!!! You may want to smile, your blind date is coming too!

I am Just a Blank Page

Several times here in Cyrsti's Condo recently I have mentioned my upcoming workshop at this years Trans Ohio Symposium. Surprising, I remember my pledge to myself and Liz last year to be less of a "talking transgender head" jabbering away in front of a group of mixed people. By mixed I mean a predominance of "more mature" questioning transgender or "exploring" cross dressers mixed with spouses searching for a little look at what could be one of the biggest decisions of their lives. Changing gender.

The process is especially difficult as we know for many of us seniors who have spent a life with (what I just heard it called) testosterone poisoning. Precious passing privilege is tough to come by. All of those factors combine to make me an unlikely or maybe highly likely trans woman to talk about all of this.

First of all, the Trans Ohio Symposium percentage wise has fewer "older" attendee's and even fewer of those who identify as a woman. The weekend conference is heavily balanced towards a younger group and many of them transgender men. But that's all good. I don't need an auditorium full of people to fulfill some sort of an ego trip. Just a few connections would be fulfilling. Realistically I know we senior transgender women could be the largest segment of the entire trans spectrum still heavily closeted.

So, this year, instead of the convoluted agenda I submitted for approval; I am going to pass out a blank piece of paper and pencil to everyone. On the paper of course they need to write down what they want to learn from the hour.  (My last two workshops have been the quickest hours of my life.)  Plus, I am going the extra distance to offer my partner Liz as an extra contact to spouses and significant other generics. What else is she going to do? (Kidding) Also, I am going to print a "before" picture of me from the blog-so attendee's can see how far (or not) I have come.

I look at it this way. I have no problem of jabbering for an hour on the whys and hows of my Mtf transition and still miss someone's most important question. HRT alone can fill an hour!

At the least-we will see how many of the attendees ask for my crayons!