Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day"

Top 6 Reasons to Be Careful in the T-Girl Sandbox

It's fairly bad when I encounter others who know just a little about the transgender community but then ask why there are so many mean peeps who love to eat their young.

On one hand I think I know and on the other I'm just as clueless as they are.  I do know way back in the day, I experienced a form of it in the earliest transvestite "mixers" I attended. Those times of course were in the "social media dark ages." Now of course, anyone with the basic knowledge and the equipment can "spread their gospel" or "grind their axes" or just comment on others.  Including me of course.

Fortunately, I am mellowing in my old age and take most of what I see and read from the so called self anointed "experts" in our community with a grain of salt.  Then again, I do have a few old wounds which still haven't healed.

It's a pretty simple deal with me.  If someone lodges a personal attack "just another old guy on hormones" rather than "Cyrsti, I hate your stupid ideas", I react differently.  .Certainly the first person needs to just go away- but the second- sure, they could be right! I always have to be careful though that I attribute the ideas I just pass along and if you and I were chatting over an adult beverage in person, I may say some things I don't totally embrace just to see your reaction and a discussion.  Can't do that with the written word easily!

 "Cyrsti's Condo" may have started life as a rather one dimensional look at many of the crazy things I did as I searched for my identity.  But quickly though, it grew to opinion and news.  More so even, than my trials and errors with style, fashion, make up and hair.

Finally, after all these years, I'm pretty fearless when I do wade into the T-girls sandbox.  The only real reason is I am increasingly secure in my own body and skin. I attempt to constantly remind all of you I write about it as a process- not bragging and if you have read my "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" book, you know why I don't put myself on any pedestals. For most of my 65 years, the ice was damn thin!

But! For "kicks and giggles" here are some of my negative thoughts of why a trans terf (or Nazi) may not like you: 

1. You haven't lived as long as a transgender person as they have.
2. You don't have as many operations as they have, or have taken as many HRT meds.
3. You don't look as good as them.
4. You haven't carried your male ego with you transitioning like they have
5. You made the right decision and they didn't.
6. Finally, NEVER act like you are enjoying your life-they will be jealous.

The Most Dangerous Visitor to the "Girls' Sandbox!"

My candidate would be one of the most feminine trans women I have ever known who went through SRS. She was absolutely smart and nice and beautiful. I just can't imagine how a bitchy genetic could not be sliced and diced by this so called passive aggressive trans woman who experienced the male on male side of aggression for 30+ years of her life.  She would have never had an idea of what hit her!

But as a I think about it, another good bet would be a savvy trans girl who has played the gender game for a time. The genetic who picked the fight thought she knew what she was going up against but in the end (and she gets cornered) she knows she only has one real defense. She was born with a vagina. Now though, even that defense is going away with better SRS and even functional uterus transplants in Sweden. Could birthing as the ultimate domain of the genetics be disappearing too?

Rarely have I been ever verbally attacked in the sandbox, but it has happened and it was not pretty. I wore the scratch marks as learning experiences forever it seemed.  Certainly, there will always be a few girls in the sandbox who want to try to make sure we aren't allowed to play.  Sure, we may be a little different but maybe not as different as they want to think!

In a future post, if I'm feeling bitchy, we will take a look at the trans girls' side of the women s sandbox. Where often the real battle is!

Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day"

RockaBilly Fashions

I admit I am not the most fashion savvy girl in the world but every once in a while a certain style makes sense to me as something I would wear and all of a sudden I have a place to wear it to.

I had sort of heard of or seen a touch of the "Rockabilly" fashion style and it did/does appeal to me in many ways.  More importantly, I think I can wear various designs and will need an upgrade to my wardrobe beginning a week from Friday when Liz and I go to the huge "Rainbow" Dance near Cincinnati and into the Holiday season.

What really sparked my attention this morning was a request for a Twitter follow from "Blueberry Hill Fashions."  With this bio:
BlueBerry Hill Fashions is a Modern Rockabilly Boutique. I started doodling a few dresses here and there and one day, poof..I decided to have them made :)

So, I followed the link and found several designs I felt would flatter me and I could afford.

Then of course I had to look for anything in my size and did find a few options too! (I know too that all of you girls aren't plus size!)

The link above provides quite the selection of styles and ideas!

If You Live Close!

Cyrsti's Condo "Halloween Ideas"

Seriously (as you will tell kids) I'm not real good at finding or suggesting Halloween costume ideas. But I do have a couple possibilities to pass along which could be inexpensive, fun and even keep the "hey are you a cross dresser?" naysayers off your back if desired.

The first is a "Zombie Prom Queen"

 Just "haunt" your local thrift stores for an old inexpensive formal dress-check out all the other closeted CD ers looking for a costume and add the cheap accessories.

It's a "killer costume!"



Just as scary is this idea:

Come as a version of "Flo", the Progressive Insurance spokes person.  Start with a cheap dark wig, old tennis shoes and "fill in with white. Just be abrasive the rest of the night and asks if anyone wants an insurance quote - and you got it!

Cyrsti's Condo "OOOOPS!"

Tom did you know it was this dance recital your parents and grand parents were coming to?  They are in the front row, looking for your name in the program!

Cyrsti's Condo "Star Gazing"

Another week has flown by kids and it's time to take a look at what the astrological signs have to say about our week!

First, we Libra's:   (September 23-October 22): Hold onto your knickers, because this week’s whirlwind energy is going to blow hard and fast. Be extra guarded with what you hold dear, as sadistic strikes come at you in a slow and steady stream from the usual suspect of your distress. Resist the psychological cat and mouse game, though, because getting bit in the ass won’t be your cup of tea.

Wow! I will have to hold on to my knickers because I have always enjoyed a psychological game (even more so in the girl's sandbox!) but I do have a low threshold for pain and would hate to get bit in the ass-again!

This week we are going "slumming" with our Gemini sisters as our featured guests:  

(May 21-June 20): The allure of the rougher types will turn your head. Ogres, misanthropes and all round beasts will hit a certain chord, as you see how people are living out the way you often feel inside. Seems you’re going to be finding your groove in the sketchier side of town, which will be a refreshing break from what you now know as civilization.

If we missed your sign this week, here is the simple solution! Go to theFrisky here.