Showing posts with label t-girls. Show all posts
Showing posts with label t-girls. Show all posts
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Wednesday, October 8, 2014
Top 6 Reasons to Be Careful in the T-Girl Sandbox
It's fairly bad when I encounter others who know just a little about the transgender community but then ask why there are so many mean peeps who love to eat their young.
On one hand I think I know and on the other I'm just as clueless as they are. I do know way back in the day, I experienced a form of it in the earliest transvestite "mixers" I attended. Those times of course were in the "social media dark ages." Now of course, anyone with the basic knowledge and the equipment can "spread their gospel" or "grind their axes" or just comment on others. Including me of course.
Fortunately, I am mellowing in my old age and take most of what I see and read from the so called self anointed "experts" in our community with a grain of salt. Then again, I do have a few old wounds which still haven't healed.
It's a pretty simple deal with me. If someone lodges a personal attack "just another old guy on hormones" rather than "Cyrsti, I hate your stupid ideas", I react differently. .Certainly the first person needs to just go away- but the second- sure, they could be right! I always have to be careful though that I attribute the ideas I just pass along and if you and I were chatting over an adult beverage in person, I may say some things I don't totally embrace just to see your reaction and a discussion. Can't do that with the written word easily!
"Cyrsti's Condo" may have started life as a rather one dimensional look at many of the crazy things I did as I searched for my identity. But quickly though, it grew to opinion and news. More so even, than my trials and errors with style, fashion, make up and hair.
Finally, after all these years, I'm pretty fearless when I do wade into the T-girls sandbox. The only real reason is I am increasingly secure in my own body and skin. I attempt to constantly remind all of you I write about it as a process- not bragging and if you have read my "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" book, you know why I don't put myself on any pedestals. For most of my 65 years, the ice was damn thin!
But! For "kicks and giggles" here are some of my negative thoughts of why a trans terf (or Nazi) may not like you:
On one hand I think I know and on the other I'm just as clueless as they are. I do know way back in the day, I experienced a form of it in the earliest transvestite "mixers" I attended. Those times of course were in the "social media dark ages." Now of course, anyone with the basic knowledge and the equipment can "spread their gospel" or "grind their axes" or just comment on others. Including me of course.
Fortunately, I am mellowing in my old age and take most of what I see and read from the so called self anointed "experts" in our community with a grain of salt. Then again, I do have a few old wounds which still haven't healed.
It's a pretty simple deal with me. If someone lodges a personal attack "just another old guy on hormones" rather than "Cyrsti, I hate your stupid ideas", I react differently. .Certainly the first person needs to just go away- but the second- sure, they could be right! I always have to be careful though that I attribute the ideas I just pass along and if you and I were chatting over an adult beverage in person, I may say some things I don't totally embrace just to see your reaction and a discussion. Can't do that with the written word easily!
"Cyrsti's Condo" may have started life as a rather one dimensional look at many of the crazy things I did as I searched for my identity. But quickly though, it grew to opinion and news. More so even, than my trials and errors with style, fashion, make up and hair.Finally, after all these years, I'm pretty fearless when I do wade into the T-girls sandbox. The only real reason is I am increasingly secure in my own body and skin. I attempt to constantly remind all of you I write about it as a process- not bragging and if you have read my "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" book, you know why I don't put myself on any pedestals. For most of my 65 years, the ice was damn thin!
But! For "kicks and giggles" here are some of my negative thoughts of why a trans terf (or Nazi) may not like you:
- You haven't lived as long as a transgender person as they have.
- You don't have as many operations as they have, or have taken as many HRT meds.
- You don't look as good as them.
- You haven't carried your male ego with you transitioning like they have
- You made the right decision and they didn't.
- Finally, NEVER act like you are enjoying your life-they will be jealous.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Transgender Bridal Shower
I've really never liked the comment set up in this particular blog platform. I never know if your comments receive the proper coverage they deserve such as this one on Transgender Brides from Eric:
"As far as getting married is concerned, there are so few men who have made an honest effort to become educated on transsexuals and transsexualism in order to prepare themselves for the possibility that the woman of his dreams was born a boy. I have read everything I can get my hands on to prepare myself for the possibility that my dream girl would tell me she had been through transition and surgery to become the woman she is now. As a result of my efforts, I've been able to gain some dating experience with mainly pre-op male-to-female transsexuals, but I've also dated a post-op TS. New wedding gowns can start at under U$200, but some of the most elaborate ones can run into thousands of dollars. Many transgender women have made use of the Web, thrift stores and even large bridal chains (such as David's Bridal) to find a low price on a bridal gown. Bridal photo shoots for T-Girls also requires some travel; some of the places that offer such shoots include Fairplay Imaging in New York on Transgender Brides"
Thanks Eric, always nice to hear from any man who has an "educated" idea of trans women!
Also, there is more from Jamiegottagun who always "spices" things up:
"Wedding dresses can actually be found quite inexpensively - Goodwill or the like. There's usually several there, for less than 100 bucks, especially older, out of fashion ones like the one in the video, which with the Sweetheart neckline and puffy sleeves is obviously from the late 1980's or early 90's. Women tend to only keep them for a few years, especially if they get too fat to fit into them anymore, and almost always get rid of them when they get divorced."
Just think Jamie, if the women were larger before they got rid of their wedding dresses, bigger sizes would be easier to find at thrift and consignment shops.
As always, thanks for commenting and reading! Just make sure we all don't forget the "bridesmaids" in the crowd!
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"As far as getting married is concerned, there are so few men who have made an honest effort to become educated on transsexuals and transsexualism in order to prepare themselves for the possibility that the woman of his dreams was born a boy. I have read everything I can get my hands on to prepare myself for the possibility that my dream girl would tell me she had been through transition and surgery to become the woman she is now. As a result of my efforts, I've been able to gain some dating experience with mainly pre-op male-to-female transsexuals, but I've also dated a post-op TS. New wedding gowns can start at under U$200, but some of the most elaborate ones can run into thousands of dollars. Many transgender women have made use of the Web, thrift stores and even large bridal chains (such as David's Bridal) to find a low price on a bridal gown. Bridal photo shoots for T-Girls also requires some travel; some of the places that offer such shoots include Fairplay Imaging in New York on Transgender Brides"
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Also, there is more from Jamiegottagun who always "spices" things up:
"Wedding dresses can actually be found quite inexpensively - Goodwill or the like. There's usually several there, for less than 100 bucks, especially older, out of fashion ones like the one in the video, which with the Sweetheart neckline and puffy sleeves is obviously from the late 1980's or early 90's. Women tend to only keep them for a few years, especially if they get too fat to fit into them anymore, and almost always get rid of them when they get divorced."
Just think Jamie, if the women were larger before they got rid of their wedding dresses, bigger sizes would be easier to find at thrift and consignment shops.
As always, thanks for commenting and reading! Just make sure we all don't forget the "bridesmaids" in the crowd!
Friday, January 20, 2012
Where's My Chocolate Mocha Ice Cream?
I have find myself entranced again by the women in chick flix Months ago I caught myself following intently the interaction between women and men in a certain movie I was watching-totally from a female perspective.
Now, all of a sudden again I'm watching and learning more on a whole different level.
By the luck of the draw recently, several movies came along showing female leads being hurt deeply by the men in their lives. At one point of time I would have looked at the emotions from a male point of view. Sure the men were wrong, but what were they going to do to get themselves "out" of the predicament.I really only considering the woman's perspective from an anger viewpoint. After all they were only being irrational females.
My, how times have changed..
Now I feel the joy, the uncertainty and the pain of the women I watch on the screen. When I watch a close up of Katherine Hepburn staring into the eyes of Spencer Tracy, I feel her emotion.
I didn't set out to do this on purpose. I grew into it over the last year or so.
I have compared the process to one of a young girl growing up. The process of course I missed in my life.
Many times I have been asked or have wondered was I just covering up my real female self. The obvious answer is yes I probably was or maybe I was just clueless. Really. none of it matters now because the process now is now so real.
So yes I am learning and feeling and growing from the "chic flix" I watch.
The obvious benefits are the natural ones as I grow in my new world.
Please excuse me, the next movie is starting!
Now, all of a sudden again I'm watching and learning more on a whole different level.
By the luck of the draw recently, several movies came along showing female leads being hurt deeply by the men in their lives. At one point of time I would have looked at the emotions from a male point of view. Sure the men were wrong, but what were they going to do to get themselves "out" of the predicament.I really only considering the woman's perspective from an anger viewpoint. After all they were only being irrational females.
My, how times have changed..
Now I feel the joy, the uncertainty and the pain of the women I watch on the screen. When I watch a close up of Katherine Hepburn staring into the eyes of Spencer Tracy, I feel her emotion.
I didn't set out to do this on purpose. I grew into it over the last year or so.
I have compared the process to one of a young girl growing up. The process of course I missed in my life.
Many times I have been asked or have wondered was I just covering up my real female self. The obvious answer is yes I probably was or maybe I was just clueless. Really. none of it matters now because the process now is now so real.
So yes I am learning and feeling and growing from the "chic flix" I watch.
The obvious benefits are the natural ones as I grow in my new world.
Please excuse me, the next movie is starting!
Thursday, January 19, 2012
A Fantastic Transgendered Photo Site!
I'm going to post a couple here and a couple on my "Pictures and Video" page!
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I wish for you peace in your heart...and love all around you...always.
~J
All I was merely trying to say we ALL need to consider the mirror may give us "alternative facts on occasion. Especially me.
Jessie