"Trans-Dar" versus "Trans-Nazi?"

Sounds like one of the old "Godzilla" flicks brought back in 3-D right?

My Cyrsti's Condo post "Why Straight Men Love Transgender Women" did bring response through my Google+ account, e-mail and here of course. I didn't get the response I didn't feel like I deserved though from my comment on "Suzi's" picture.  Pat commented:

The points you raise and those from Ms Suzi have merit. As a rule any person who spends time on their hygeine, attire, presentation etc will come across as more appealling than someone who does not. With respect to many CDs they devote a lot of time and effort into being as feminine as possible in their style, demeanor, deportment and presentation. It should surprise not one that men will respond favorably to overtly feminine presentations.

My point is (looking back), I probably sounded like some sort "I'm more trans than you" trans nazi with my comment-which would make me one of the most hypocritical peeps I know.  On the other hand, I write what I feel and if a person's picture looks like it was taken in a gay venue, enjoying a drag show with the queens-that's fine. Plus yes, you can find the occasional male "admirer" in a few gay venues. For the longest time though I was too dense to realize cis gay men really don't want much to do with most of us. I did see the queens getting attention and tried it myself with my big wigs, high heels, heavy makeup and short skirts. Used to call it "running with the queens" although I couldn't go very fast in my heels!  On more than a couple evenings I had a great time and have even considered doing drag again.

So, I apologize for even intimating I was any better than anyone else in our culture...cross dresser or what ever.  I'm not.  

More response coming up!

Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our feature "cover" today is "Miami Housewife's" drag queen James Davis / Elaine Lancaster.  

His character on the show proves once again how well cis gay males can mimic women while cross dressed - and - how well many genetic women can mimic drag queens on the shows.

The "E" Word?

I figured when I sat down to write this post, there was no way I wouldn't get in trouble with someone after I wrote it, so I changed the focus slightly and decided to try anyway.

What got me started is, I have this guy on one of the instant messaging services who won't leave me alone. He is not crass though and totally not intimidated by the fact I have a genetic woman partner plus he isn't dissuaded because I won't Skype or exchange dirty pictures. So, he is entertaining at the least and I keep asking him "why me?" (and don't block him.)  You and I both know he is not interested in my casual life's passions. He "keeps in touch" because I am transgender.

Is he in love with me because of my pictures? Not a chance - without a doubt, my only socially redeeming factor to him is because I am transgender.  I am similar to a dressed down Marilyn Monroe who was still sexy no matter how you cut it.  I'm not sexy but I am exotic to many men!(and some women) simply if I am presentable and trans.

Truly, I look at the whole process with more than a bit of humor and/or sarcasm.  Because, in my view, if a man (or woman) is so inclined to have any sort of an attraction to me, it immediately levels the playing field with other genetic women.

It has to be getting tougher for the genetically born females.  Take Jennifer Lopez and the former Playboy bunny whose men had affairs with beautiful trans women.  Then, poor Wendy Williams and Joseline Herandez, (left) vigorously refuting rumors they are transgender.  Herandez, to the point of posting a nude photo...like what does that mean? Hasn't she heard about the work accomplished SRS surgeons are doing now? Before we know it, uterine transplants will enable trans women to have babies.

I am sure some of you are like me. Your "trans-dar" is on all the time and every once in a while, I will lock eyes with a person I just might think is transgender.  As of yet though, I haven't had anyone come up to me and say, "Wow! Are you trans too?"

In the meantime, I will be like any woman and want to believe any compliments I get because a few do make me feel better.  A couple of weeks ago I saw a woman I hadn't run into in a while and she complimented on how incredible my changes were becoming.  I think I walked on "Cloud Nine" for the next couple of days.

My reality is though,  the MTF transitional changes I'm going through from HRT are earned and I respect any compliments from them as real. On the other hand,  just being exotic because I am trans is a trait I inherited - like my Mom's temperament and means very little - except it sounds cool to say!

Cyrsti's Condo "Guidance From the Stars!

This is approximately my third good Friskyscope in a row!  "Flaky Friends", interesting new friends or hot play things all are very true, or very intriguing!

Libra-(September 23-October 22): Stay positive and don’t accept friends being flaky. They are available to you now and they’ll have good hookups that can get your foot in the door to a new level of cool — but you’ll have to push the point. Whether it’s a job contact, hot play thing, or just interesting new friends, you will get closer to the dream now — but as a plus 1+. However, don’t settle into that role — shine.


Get your own "scope" here from the Frisky!

Cyrsti's Condo - "Do You Remember?"

Our feature cover girl today goes back a way. To the year 2000, when Davina Willis won the UK "Tra--y of the Year" Award in the UK.

I remember reading a little about what happened to her a couple years ago and I imagine some of our "Condo Ites" from the UK like Paula or Vicki maybe able to fill in what ever missing info there may be.

Why Straight Men Love Transgender Women

For some reason, we have been more interested in the sexuality aspect of the transgender experience. So, in essence, this post actually written in February of 2013 by a Miss Suzi ( Shown below.)  continues in the same vein.  I thought I would pass it along-with the picture which I think is a wonderful cross dresser pic-not so sure about a trans woman.




"We LOVE being women more than most genetic women.

And much more important than that… We do not ever take our femininity for granted the way so many genetic women do. Many of us have sacrificed home, family, friends, careers, fortunes, and hours and hours of hard work each day to be the women we have become.

That is what I believe turns men on the most, the "Hey, Look at me; I'm sexy!" attitude that their wives and girlfriends have either lost or never have gotten quite right. He is probably afraid of the whole homo-thing of course... but quite needlessly so. I have found that the men who date me are more courageous and more masculine and more loving of sexy women than anyone who would not or could not love a special lady.

Sometimes a gentleman just wants to be with a woman who really loves being a woman. He longs for a woman who appreciates his desires and his need to look at, to talk with, to touch, to kiss, and to love a woman in high heels, nylons, lipstick, lace, and perfume with soft smooth shiny skin. He desires a woman who gives her undivided attention just to him. He wants a woman who does not make him feel stupid, queer, or unmasculine when he expresses his love of her femininity and his deepest longings to her.

There may be some fetishistic components to the desire of straight men for all women who do the girlie girl thing including transgendered women. Men do love women who wear nylons, high heels, and lipstick. Their overall perception of women and femininity was conditioned by years and years of reinforcement (mostly masturbatory and orgasmic) by the ultra feminine stereotype of womanhood... by so-called "real" women."

Personally, I agree with parts of this manifesto (no pun intended) and disagree with others.  It was presented on a site called The Examiner  and you can read the rest of it by following the link. I will let you make your own judgment on the article by following the link.

**Please note the material between the quotation marks comes from the post!!!

Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our feature cover today is the gorgeous Lia Eduarda, a MtF transgender woman from Brazil:

Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition"

"Ker Plunk!" welcome back to another Sunday Edition! It's quite and even a bit coolish for a mid-July morning here in southern Ohio/ USA, so a hot "Cup of Joe" (coffee) un iced  tastes pretty good!!!

Page 1.-  The Week in Review:  Last week, we weren't shy (per norm) around here in the "Condo" addressing topics like transgender sexuality and overall life in the "girl's sandbox."  To be sure, tough topics. The reason the subject came up at all was when I recently came out to my family member who really didn't have a problem with understanding the transgender aspect of me. She did however have a difficult time wrapping her noggin around the fact I was not gay in the sense my sexual nature was not attracted to men. She said "So you are gay." I really confused her when I said, yes and no.  Mentally, I have always felt sexually I always wanted to be with a woman but as a woman.  So mentally, I was always gay but physically functioned as a straight guy for the same reason.  I don't blame her for being confused, so we moved on to more important day to day life problems...Like cremating her Mom.

Page 2.- Life in the "Sandbox":  For years, I have called my socialization into the feminine world as "playing in the girl's sandbox."  The reasons were, I found out quickly, if I was to ease my transgender transition the most, interacting and being accepted by other women was the best way.  Of course, stopping my life at the age of 60 and redirecting my gender path was intensely difficult because of ignorance and misconceptions. I don't use the "ignorance" word lightly-only as a reference to not knowing what I was doing.  Genetic females face the same process as little girls.  Misconception is a "mellower" term.  From the outside looking in, almost any situation looks different.  From my years of working with women, I knew completely they weren't the "sugar and spice and everything nice" stereotyped gender.  what I didn't know was how the checks and balances worked in their world.

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Cyrsti's Condo "Cover Girl" of the Day

Our cover feature here in the "Condo" today is the Italian transsexual beauty Maria Roman rocking her LBD! "Mama Mia!"