Tootsie Revisited

I ran across this very enlightening Tootsie video to present on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen.  No it doesn't even have any pictures from the movie-only Dustin Hoffman speaking on his feelings.  He is speaking to the choir here, but does it so well.

"P.O.ing" One Million Moms!

Wow, I thought I may be in trouble when I was in trouble with just one Mom. My own!

Super Hero SheZow has did the impossible and aggravated One Million Moms at once! ShaZam!!!!!!!!!

Here's the story from Advocate.com:

"One Million Moms called Hub Network's decision to air SheZow an "attempt by the gay, lesbian and transgender community to indoctrinate our children into accepting their lifestyles." The so-called million moms (whose Facebook friends actually number fewer than 60,000) went on to declare, "The media is determined to pollute the minds of our children and there is no better way to desensitize them than through a cartoon program. Everyone knows children are drawn to animated shows; both boys and girls love superheroes.

This character especially will appeal to both boys and girls since the superhero represents both genders by cross-dressing and being transgendered."

 That's pretty loaded language for an otherwise innocuous show that doesn't actually star a character who identifies as trans."

Being the moral "God fearing" group they are- God forbid if they would have to sit down with their children and explain how a diverse culture is good for them!

Carol Marra

From Frank: 

"Twenty-five-year-old Carol Marra (left) worked in fashion production for a long time before a co-worker asked her to pose for a few photos. Perhaps this photographer had the foresight to see Marra on the cover of Trip magazine, Brazil’s sexiest publication, but Marra herself couldn’t imagine becoming one of the most in-demand models in the world.

 With a degree in journalism and an intelligence that goes far beyond her beautiful and elegant persona, Marra aims to gain respect from those who undermine transsexual status in society, and ultimately find a man who will help empower her to be a good wife and mother. For now Marra is working hard, embracing a fashion trend that started in 2010, when Riccardo Tisci handpicked Brazilian transsexual model Lea T to feature in a Givenchy ad campaign. This event opened up innumerous runways to a more diverse group of models."


Go here for more!

Every Girl's Dream?

Well every is a big term but make search the bride's registery for a gift -  your invitation has been sent for this video on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Cross Dressing and the He Pronoun

I found this post to be interesting on so many levels. It's from Now Toronto.com and Michael Gilbert/Miqqi Alicia Gilbert York University professor of philosophy, activist, director of Provincetown’s Fantasia Fair. Heterosexual male, cross-dresser. He uses the he pronoun...Cool...here's more:

"I (Miqqi) cross-dress when I start to feel the longing, but I have to say at my age the mood happens less often. Sometimes I’ve made a commitment to go to a class at York or somewhere else en femme and I think, “Shit, I have to go to all that trouble.” Trust me, I’m a guy who knows it’s a lot harder to look like a girl than a guy. The truth is, I’m an old hippie, and if I were a woman I would not be wearing much makeup. Heels? I haven’t worn them in 20 years. I do like skirts. I’m thinking of doing a workshop called Not Trans Enough. So many trans people look upon me as a dilettante. Worse yet, cross-dressers are considered annoying little sisters: “They wear too much makeup, they don’t know how to dress properly, they get in the way.”

My visualization of the workshop "Not Trans Enough" would be a big room of peeps from all through our culture who are brave enough to step out from behind their computers, photo shopped pictures and into the light of day and then before a moderator with a timer and a bull horn. How much fun would that be?

Fun yes, but productive?  Probably not so much unfortunately.  Too much ego floating around in a room full of males desperately trying to act as if they got rid of it.

Ironically, as HRT takes it's good old sweet time on me, I'm not the "guy who knows it's a lot harder to look like a girl" so much anymore.  The challenge is to stay with the challenge of building a day to day wardrobe I feel comfortable in.  I'm the same as Miqqi in that it's been years since I worn heels and I rarely wear a dress or skirt but that does not mean I never do not do my best to work my style.

I guess that's my primary reason I don't care how you identify. Cross dresser, transgender, transsexual or Martian- if you are doing your thing and respecting others-who cares?

I will say the pronoun deal is a little tricky with the public in that in many cases they are confused anyhow.

As always there is so much more to a topic such as this and for more on Miqqi, go here.

The Shattered Trans Glass Ceiling

Really? A transgender woman playing a trans woman in an acting role? according to Buzzfeed LGBT, Lavern Cox (left) has done it:


"Cox, a former reality star (I Want to Work for Diddy), has a breakout role in the new original Nexflix dramedy Orange Is the New Black, from Weeds creator Jenji Kohan. The highly anticipated show, based on Piper Kerman’s memoir, is set in a women’s prison and was renewed for a second season before it even premiered.
Cox, who shares an acting coach with Nicole Kidman, plays Sophia, a trans woman who, pre-transition, was a firefighter. In the third episode, guest-directed by Jodie Foster, we learn about her complicated relationship with her wife and son. “I don’t know of a trans character on television played by a trans person that has as much humanity as this character,” Cox says."

Who knows, maybe soon a "humanized" transgender woman or man will become a regular character on a mainstream network television show!!!!

God Save the Queens!

Here it is kids...another drag queen fix for you on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

The Documentary of Drag

This is an interesting factual look at many of the good and "not so good" questions a "civilian" would ask a drag queen on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

A New "A" Word?

Well maybe this term is a little newer to me. In some senses it works into the post I wrote about being patronized as a transgender woman.
The word is Ally.  To split hairs, to be a transgender ally is great- if you do it right.  I can almost compare the idea to the much maligned trans admirers- without the sexual content.

However, since I did bring it up and I feel somewhat conflicted about handing someone a rule book on how to like me- I'm passing along a post from "The Thang Blog" called "How To Be a Better Ally to Trans Folks in Four Steps". Actually it's very well written and contains four very basic easy to understand ideas- including knowledge, becoming an activist, being an apostle for our trans culture and more.  (The apostle is my term not theirs and  I use it to describe a person who speaks up and carries a positive message to others.)

As I read the blog, even I quickly came to the realization "the four steps" do and don't apply to the patronizers I have encountered. For the most part these peeps are casual acquaintances who I wouldn't expect to care that much one way or another. I would however not hesitate to use the basic" four steps" at any meeting I went to with a majority of gay/lesbian members and "sympathizers".

I know deep down all these written rules and regulations are good in theory but I am of the opinion the main factor in building Ally's is my personal behavior.  Maybe I should  add a list of trans do's and don'ts similar to "Quotations from Chairman Mao"  to the contents of my purse everywhere I go. But then again, I have a hard enough time finding my keys in the "bottomless pits" anyhow. (I added a link for all you youngsters to Chairman Mao.)

Perhaps if I'm really good, I could actually add in a chapter or two on how admirers should admire. Explaining concepts such as the true meaning of what it means when a cross dresser says no men!!!  We could call the chapter "Cyrsti gets snarky. 

Seriously I do feel all of this discussion is good because it represents dedicated folk determined to spread the trans word in a constructive and positive nature. No matter how you cut it- a wonderful alternative to all of those who went into their stealth closets and did nothing.