Cyrsti's Condo

Well maybe this term is a little newer to me. In some senses it works into the post I wrote about being patronized as a transgender woman. The word is Ally.   To split hairs , to be a transgender ally is great- if you do it right.  I can almost compare the idea to the much maligned trans admirers-  without the sexual content. However, since I did bring it up and I feel somewhat conflicted about handing someone a rule book on how to like me- I'm passing along a post from " The Thang Blog " called "How To Be a Better Ally to Trans Folks in Four Steps". Actually it's very well written and contains four very basic easy to understand ideas- including knowledge, becoming an activist, being an apostle for our trans culture and more.  (The  apostle is my  term not theirs and  I use it to describe a person who speaks up and carries a positive message to others.) As I read the blog, even I quickly came to the realization "the four steps" do and don'

I'm biased but it's hard to imagine many tougher journeys through life than changing ones gender. If you are lucky enough to know for sure you were born into the wrong body and you are fortunate to be born into a loving accepting family- then you have society to face. If you aren't, at the least- you have the genders ripping and tearing you apart internally. At the worst you become a tragic suicide statistic. A few alternatives of course are therapy or due diligence . My definition of transgender due diligence is exploring the world the best you can.  In other words you are stuck patching together bits and pieces of a life in your planned gender.  I liken it to to playing golf, the more you play the better you are. In my own case I normally averaged perhaps one day a week to get out in the public and test the feminine waters it was tough to learn the girl basics. Plus, like many of you I understand completely the dynamics of tearing loved ones, friends and jobs and po