I Exercised My Right!

I exercised my right as a girl, went blond again and had a wonderful time.

I truly believe that "blonde's don't have more fun" but they certainly do get more attention.
My attention last night was all good from what I could determine. Of course other women provide the best feedback. 
I was dressed rather professionally with black jacket, skirt, white cami and flats. I passed several groups of middle aged to younger women who paid me no attention what so ever. I did get one eye eye "bitch" look from a 20 something blond later but that was it.
Surprisingly, yet another very strong "girl thing" has crept into my existence.
Since I wear a lot of jeans, crossing my legs has never really been a priority with me.
Until now.
Wearing a short skirt and leaning back and reading or texting really helps me feel woman.  I know what you are thinking..."DUH".
As I carried on a fashion conversation last night with a woman sitting next to me and later when I caught a man looking at my legs I wondered how I missed this.
Maybe it's like the blond hair...it all comes back to help!

I Can't Resist!

I felt as little evil as I read this story from France.

Stephanie Nicot, 59, wed 27-year-old partner Elise in a town hall ceremony in Nancy in eastern France in what is said to be the first marriage of its kind in the country. "Stephanie" transitioned from "Stephane" and has gone through sex reassignment surgery.  She did not get her gender changed on the public records which allowed her to marry another woman as a man.
All of that is wonderful but I immediately thought of the age difference and the "smirk" on her face." Take that all you ex friends and wives! I went through a lot to marry a much younger woman!"
Sorry...just had to go there.

New Hobby Anyone?

By far the UK has the best stories about transgender women.
This one comes from The "Sunday Sun". "Coreena Ford" tells the story of David Payne's transition to Natasha Gray...with an interesting hobby.

"On the pole with Natasha"

"SWINGING her long legs around the pole, Natasha Gray moves to the music with expert precision and everyone in her class follows her with ease.
She’s a popular pole-dance teacher, but she’d love to be a fashion model and TV presenter, and loves making outfits for pole dancing competitions.
Yet the dance classes and clothes – and 36D boobs – are a world away from her former life . . . as David Payne, a Royal Navy officer and a gentleman, who has two ex-wives."
Natasha "transitioned" from burlesque classes to pole dancing  and has even placed second in dancing competitions. Sure beats the boring old days on a ship!

Beautiful Courage!

"Janet Mock"

Out steps another trans woman. She's obviously beautiful, intelligent and brave enough to step out of the shadows to help others.
Mock is an associate editor for "People.com". Her message to transgender youth is simple. She is living proof that in fact life will get better for transgender them.
Follow this link for the video and more!

Speaking of "People .com", the site also featured "Lea T" and a "smokin" shot of her bikini layout.

Something Different?

I receive questions about my sexuality. Big surprise? Certainly not.
Without going into gory detail most of you know I was married for years to a woman (deceased) who knew of my trans disposition . You may also know of my developing interest in men over the past year or so.
All of this brings up the "straight" question. Are the men interested in me straight? Am I? Who cares?
A great look into attractions between men comes from "The Edge" in Boston.
The "Boys who like boys who look like girls" article deals with the subject basically from the views of drag queens. Many do admit that looking like a woman is a great way to pick up men. In a gay club. My relatively limited experience hasn't show me that. Then again, I've never been a performer and do not live in a major metropolitan area. Actually, I've been approached by more women.
What's the attraction? Women for the most part are just curious. Why do you want to play in their world? Somehow you become more than a gay guy in a dress in their eyes. So very correct!
Men are stereotyped too.Is it simply that some men just really want to have sex with a man... One who happens to look female makes it all right. Sure all of that is true but enter the third gender.
Most of the men I have encountered would have answered no to the "gay" question. For whatever reason they identify with the female in me.
From drag queens to straight guys to all of us in the middle, all of this makes for an interesting life. For the life of me I will never understand those who find it all so evil and even resort to violence.
What's the old line? "Whatever gets you through the night?"

Style versus Fashion

I'm found of discussing of how I admire a woman with a unique sense of style.
Her style doesn't have to necessarily be in fashion, off some runway in New York or even expensive. She just seems to have the skill to put certain clothes or accessories together for a look she owns.
"Erin Loechner" wrote an excellent article on "BlogHer" about the subject.
She starts by writing about clothing versus fashion."I am so incredibly intrigued by clothing. Please note that I didn't say that I am intrigued by fashion -- the truth is that I actually couldn't care a whit about fashion. In fact, it has been years since I've even flipped through a fashion magazine. As much as I do love clothing, fashion and shopping in general often holds little interest for me."
She goes on to interview and talk about women she knows who have a unique style and where it comes from.
Of course we trans girls can't follow all her recommendations. We do have plenty of figure flaws to cover and we very simply have to be better than most women with fashion and style.  That big mean world out there can be very unforgiving to us!
Once we arrive at the point when our style is more successful than our fashion...the mean old world becomes much nicer and even fun!

Lea T!

"Lea T" the Brazilian transgender model has landed a swimsuit photo session.
She is a daughter of a Brazilian soccer player.
Wonder if the team has a calendar?

From Name Calling... To Prom Queen.

From "The Advocate.Com" comes a story that reinforces the idea we are advancing as transgendered humans in this world. "Steve Rothaus" wrote:
"They’ve bullied and taunted her, calling her names and writing on her locker.
And now, the seniors at McFatter Technical High School have elected Andrew Viveros their 2011 prom queen.
“They called my name and I was in total shock,’’ said Andrew, a 17-year-old who was born male but has publicly presented herself as female for the last two years.
With her long wavy brown hair, Andrew wore a royal blue dress and got a fresh manicure for the Friday night dance.
Andrew, also known as Andii, plans to someday change her name to Andrea. She wanted to run for prom queen in order to show other transgender teens “it gets better.”
She ran against 14 others."
Andii's story certainly doesn't make up for all the ones with violence directed towards transgendered individuals, Brave young woman such as Andii and others who are fighting for transgendered rights deserve all the press they can get.

One day we will all wake up to a kinder, gentler world. In the meantime we all have to take a look in the mirror and consider how we can help. Any action (no matter how small) can help us all!

Read more: http://miamiherald.typepad.com/gaysouthflorida/2011/05/transgender-mcfatter-senior-crowned-prom-queen.html#ixzz1O2f1CfON

Epiphany?

Is 'epiphany" a big word? Do we even understand what it means? I had to look up the spelling.
I always thought it meant an "awakening".
Whatever the definition, I had a "epiphany" tonight.
To begin  with, I wasn't going to go out. The evening was far along by the time I even started to get ready.
I kept telling myself I would take too long to get ready and why bother. Famous last words as I left the house in a half hour.
I went to two very crowded straight venues and never got so much as a side glance.
I caught myself on the way home thinking...What should I do to make the evening more exciting? Stop somewhere else?
Then the "Big E" hit me
Why have I always made this so tough on myself? From the first day I put on a borrowed mini skirt as a teenager and paraded in front of my friends I've always tried to take my "girlness" to another level.
Don't get me wrong. Another level is not always bad. Levels are how we advance.
Years ago I decided to take my life to this level of living as a female. To me that meant going places I would enjoy more. I had never really enjoyed the gay clubs and was trying to merge my male interests into my female self. That meant sports bars were in my future.
Obviously I was very apprehensive. This level was very difficult. I wanted to look my best and at the same time "blend" in my jeans. None of this was destructive. I was living a life I wanted to live.
Now that life has become relatively matter of fact. Believe me, I never would have thought I would have arrived here.
Now, back to the "epiphany". My personality is "what's next"!  Go ahead girl and push that envelope a little farther... but the push is often as painful as it is exciting. My thoughts turned to maybe I should just relax with the look I have and how I use it and where I go with it.
The best example I can share with all of you was Monday. I went to one of my sports bars and literally felt so good sliding into my seat and crossing my legs. I was already having a delightful conversation with a man that day, so the romantic texts I was getting didn't hurt.
Maybe, just maybe this time I will listen to the "epiphany" and stay put in my life right now. I can have more fun looking for new outfits than seeking out new frontiers.