I had an OMG moment this morning when I read a comment on Stana's Femulate blog.
Here's an excerpt:
I am a life-long TV, so I feel able to comment.
My advice to nearly all those who contribute to your blog is simple:
Throw away the cameras and look long and hard in the mirror. Look at the
women around you; you should blush with embarrassment. Cover your shoulders and
knees and get rid of those “long luscious locks.” Very few women over 40 look
good with long hair. None of you (and me) really look anything like women and
that is a tragedy.
Stop being delusional. A mirror does not lie except at a fairground.
I think this comment is tragically misdirected on one hand but does have some socially redeeming value on the other.First the value-no you can't live in the mirror and expect to navigate the feminine world. No you can't squeeze into the short skirt and 4" heels and shop at the grocery but if you do look around at the women around you-chances are you can make it happen. I would question the writer about the generics who don't fit his "ideal of a woman?" Some of the most delightful women I know wouldn't make his cut.
I feel sorry for him that he has seemed to miss the whole point of this trip we are on. I know of course paths are somewhat different for cross dressers and transgender women
but in my life, every "GSB" (Gender slur Bitch) I have encountered has been countered with five or ten wonderful people.
Sounds like he has let the mirror ruin his life. He may be surprised at what the world has to offer for him!
But!!! I have to draw the line at my "long luscious locks". I have waited 60+ years for them, so come hell or high water, they are mine to enjoy!
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Cyrsti's Condo "OOOPPS!"
Brittany! You didn't tell me my blind date was with one of my golfing buddies!
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| Unidentified cross dresser |
Tuesday, November 18, 2014
Cyrsti's Condo "Honey, You Won't Beleive This!"
Well honey, since cleaning out the attic was on my "Honey-Do" list, I found this old bottle up there. I started to rub it and clean it - and this genie jumped out and made me part of his harem! (Or, you came home early!)
Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day"
I found this quote on Twitter from "My Daughter's Army"
Charles Manson granted marriage license to wed his 26yr girlfriend.17 States still ban same-sex marriage. Can we agree this is f***ked up?
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!! And "Karma Speaks!"
In 2013 an Oregon based bakery ‘Sweet Cakes’ made news headlines when owners Aaron and Melissa Klein refused to make a wedding cake for a customer because they were a lesbian, siting ‘religious reason’ for doing so. The couple have since closed their bakery and now operate exclusively online from their home.
This week, however, they face a court hearing on October 7th, and could face fines as high as $150,00 that could leave them bankrupt. State investigators found that the case was a gross violation of the lesbian couples civil rights as Oregon state law bans discrimination against LGBT people in businesses.
**From "Planet Transgender"
Charles Manson granted marriage license to wed his 26yr girlfriend.17 States still ban same-sex marriage. Can we agree this is f***ked up?
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!! And "Karma Speaks!"
In 2013 an Oregon based bakery ‘Sweet Cakes’ made news headlines when owners Aaron and Melissa Klein refused to make a wedding cake for a customer because they were a lesbian, siting ‘religious reason’ for doing so. The couple have since closed their bakery and now operate exclusively online from their home.
This week, however, they face a court hearing on October 7th, and could face fines as high as $150,00 that could leave them bankrupt. State investigators found that the case was a gross violation of the lesbian couples civil rights as Oregon state law bans discrimination against LGBT people in businesses.
**From "Planet Transgender"
I Painted my Nails for This?
Cincinnati, Ohio is an old Ohio River town built on hill after hill. Much of it is scenic in good weather and hell in snow.
So, last night, Liz and I braved the snowy cold elements to go to the Cincinnati Women's Political Caucus meeting. When we drove a half hour and were within sight of the church where the meeting was to be held-you guessed it- it was cancelled.
I'm disappointed I have no news to pass along from a trip into what I think could have been similar to walking into the "Lioness' Den." Sorry.
Pam commented:
So, last night, Liz and I braved the snowy cold elements to go to the Cincinnati Women's Political Caucus meeting. When we drove a half hour and were within sight of the church where the meeting was to be held-you guessed it- it was cancelled.
I'm disappointed I have no news to pass along from a trip into what I think could have been similar to walking into the "Lioness' Den." Sorry.
Pam commented:
Monday, November 17, 2014
Trans Feminist?
Tonight as I wrote in a previous "Cyrsti's Condo" post today, I'm going with Liz to a "Cincinnati Women's Political Caucus" meeting.
Right now, I'm interested in exactly what it will mean to me as a transgender woman?
Number one, I know damn well, some of the attendees will question my right to be there at all?
Just between you and I, I know I do have a right to be there because like it or not for some of the more radical feminist generics, I bring a whole different view to the proceedings.
What's in it for me? My future as a participant in a feminine world! If generics are being increasingly violently abused, my chances of the same are even more so. If generics go increasing underemployed and underpaid, then my trans sisters will be even more so.
What's in it for them? Just an ally who may have more insight than they want to believe?
I will let you know.
Right now, I'm interested in exactly what it will mean to me as a transgender woman?
Number one, I know damn well, some of the attendees will question my right to be there at all?
Just between you and I, I know I do have a right to be there because like it or not for some of the more radical feminist generics, I bring a whole different view to the proceedings.
What's in it for me? My future as a participant in a feminine world! If generics are being increasingly violently abused, my chances of the same are even more so. If generics go increasing underemployed and underpaid, then my trans sisters will be even more so.
What's in it for them? Just an ally who may have more insight than they want to believe?
I will let you know.
Day to Day
I just read a post from Janie Black 's blog called "Just Living Life." Essentially, what I got from her post was, just because she isn't writing-that doesn't mean something is wrong. Plus, (regardless of what some want to think) life goes on, for the most part unremarkable.
Good for Janie, a great thoughtful idea to pass along to the blogosphere. I totally agree, then again I don't.
Like her, my day is very mundane, even though in a very different sense from my past. I put on a pot o joe and am munching a piece of toast in my sweats, bundled in a soft blanket. It's 4 am in Cincinnati, Ohio and it's snowing heavily. Tuesday and Wednesday our wind chills are expected down around zero degrees. My life is not so mundane though because, I'm freezing and it's not even really cold yet. Mundane for me is knowing and expecting my reaction to the cold-primarily because of my HRT changes. (SO different.)
Then, however I don't want to sugar coat it, looking ahead at today, presenting my girl self to the world is a much bigger deal than my guy self ever was. Years ago, my partner Liz asked me what kind of a girl did I think I would end up as? Would I be a full makeup, perfect hair woman or a light foundation, lip gloss and eye make up woman? Or more or less? I did find out, and I am very mundane low maintenance girl.
Janie is right in this sense, my life is more mundane. I know what I will wear today and approximately how I will make myself up to do it. I heard a generic say once, "It's just how she lives her life." My mundane now just takes a little more time, expense and planning.
Being retired (kind of) also puts a different "spin" on my mundane. If you read Femulate, Stana recently wrote about a new boss and a transgender coming out session with her. (Successful!) I'm guessing when she does it, Stana's "mundane" will be work/professional while mine today is running errands mundane. I will do my writing, work on my on-line shops, head to the post office and grocery. The only "excitement" will be tonight, when we are going to a woman's political "rally" of sorts tonight
So, my mundane today is boots, jeans, jacket scarf etc.
Finally, I totally agree Janie's idea that if you all don't hear from us, the quick and easy assumption is something is wrong. Ironically, I feel the same about many of you. Through out the years, I have literally seen thousands "burst" upon the scene as cross dressers, transgender women or whatever and just as quickly disappear. (My Facebook account has to be the best example of this.)
Even more so, I love Janie when she comes up with a great idea I can write about, so I don't have to figure one out myself!
Good for Janie, a great thoughtful idea to pass along to the blogosphere. I totally agree, then again I don't.
Like her, my day is very mundane, even though in a very different sense from my past. I put on a pot o joe and am munching a piece of toast in my sweats, bundled in a soft blanket. It's 4 am in Cincinnati, Ohio and it's snowing heavily. Tuesday and Wednesday our wind chills are expected down around zero degrees. My life is not so mundane though because, I'm freezing and it's not even really cold yet. Mundane for me is knowing and expecting my reaction to the cold-primarily because of my HRT changes. (SO different.)
Then, however I don't want to sugar coat it, looking ahead at today, presenting my girl self to the world is a much bigger deal than my guy self ever was. Years ago, my partner Liz asked me what kind of a girl did I think I would end up as? Would I be a full makeup, perfect hair woman or a light foundation, lip gloss and eye make up woman? Or more or less? I did find out, and I am very mundane low maintenance girl.
Janie is right in this sense, my life is more mundane. I know what I will wear today and approximately how I will make myself up to do it. I heard a generic say once, "It's just how she lives her life." My mundane now just takes a little more time, expense and planning.
Being retired (kind of) also puts a different "spin" on my mundane. If you read Femulate, Stana recently wrote about a new boss and a transgender coming out session with her. (Successful!) I'm guessing when she does it, Stana's "mundane" will be work/professional while mine today is running errands mundane. I will do my writing, work on my on-line shops, head to the post office and grocery. The only "excitement" will be tonight, when we are going to a woman's political "rally" of sorts tonight
So, my mundane today is boots, jeans, jacket scarf etc.
Finally, I totally agree Janie's idea that if you all don't hear from us, the quick and easy assumption is something is wrong. Ironically, I feel the same about many of you. Through out the years, I have literally seen thousands "burst" upon the scene as cross dressers, transgender women or whatever and just as quickly disappear. (My Facebook account has to be the best example of this.)
Even more so, I love Janie when she comes up with a great idea I can write about, so I don't have to figure one out myself!
Sunday, November 16, 2014
Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition"
"Ker Plunk!" Another virtual Sunday Edition has just hit your front porch! Let's get started!
Page 1.- The Week That Was-or Wasn't. We had a very quiet week. Overall, we took another look at how some of us have transitioned so far. Alexis Michelle commented it was all or nothing for her plan to transition in front of her family. Others weren't so sure. Of course it's a highly personal decision and totally different for each person involved. Some families are simply better set up to handle such a momentous decision. I believe another factor is how subconsciously a person has been projecting their true gender for years. Over the years, I have heard stories from those who said the main reaction was, "What took you so long?" Unfortunately though, most of us have buried ourselves so deep in the closet, none of that was possible.
Page 2.- Transparents. If you haven't heard yet Transparent is an American internet television series produced by Amazon. The story revolves around a Los Angeles family and their lives following the discovery that father Mort (Jeffrey Tambor) is transgender. I truthfully haven't seen much of it. Just reactions to it, here and there which have been positive. I also truthfully cringe when I know a critique of it is coming up as it was in another show I watch. The show is called the "People's Couch" which is exactly what is called: different groups of people sitting on their couches watching various television shows and comment. (Including gay/straight and black/white peeps.) Actually the reaction was good, even to the point of compassion.
Page 3.- We Got Mail. I am not totally sure why I was sent this comment from a self described "American Man-Boycotting American Women". Simply, he is done with American women and among other things calls them fat lazy, gold diggers. He is a proponent of the ideals of a "foreign woman." I certainly don't buy into either stereotype but thought immediately of where a transgender woman would stand in his stereotypical broad strokes (no pun intended.) In years past, I have written my own lists of why trans women could and do appeal to American men. The problem is, none of his - or my input can ever really fully discuss the sexual aspect. Truthfully, it's too highly personal for me to even want to consider.
All I can say is, in response to him is: I think in some ways he is right. Somewhere a generation of women in this country (can't speak for others) have lost the ability to teach daughters how to be functional women. BUT! Men are no different and per norm, men are slower at understanding the nuances of a changing society.
Finally, over my lifetime I have known a few "foreign women" who, regardless of relationship, have been able to assimilate into American society. Also, a couple who couldn't.
Page 4.-The Back Page. Well, it didn't take long for winter to hit hard around here and we have our first winter storm warning tonight. We have a new term this winter replacing the "Polar Vortex", the "Polar Plunge!" Where ever you are, thanks for visiting Cyrsti's Condo!
Page 1.- The Week That Was-or Wasn't. We had a very quiet week. Overall, we took another look at how some of us have transitioned so far. Alexis Michelle commented it was all or nothing for her plan to transition in front of her family. Others weren't so sure. Of course it's a highly personal decision and totally different for each person involved. Some families are simply better set up to handle such a momentous decision. I believe another factor is how subconsciously a person has been projecting their true gender for years. Over the years, I have heard stories from those who said the main reaction was, "What took you so long?" Unfortunately though, most of us have buried ourselves so deep in the closet, none of that was possible.
Page 2.- Transparents. If you haven't heard yet Transparent is an American internet television series produced by Amazon. The story revolves around a Los Angeles family and their lives following the discovery that father Mort (Jeffrey Tambor) is transgender. I truthfully haven't seen much of it. Just reactions to it, here and there which have been positive. I also truthfully cringe when I know a critique of it is coming up as it was in another show I watch. The show is called the "People's Couch" which is exactly what is called: different groups of people sitting on their couches watching various television shows and comment. (Including gay/straight and black/white peeps.) Actually the reaction was good, even to the point of compassion.
Page 3.- We Got Mail. I am not totally sure why I was sent this comment from a self described "American Man-Boycotting American Women". Simply, he is done with American women and among other things calls them fat lazy, gold diggers. He is a proponent of the ideals of a "foreign woman." I certainly don't buy into either stereotype but thought immediately of where a transgender woman would stand in his stereotypical broad strokes (no pun intended.) In years past, I have written my own lists of why trans women could and do appeal to American men. The problem is, none of his - or my input can ever really fully discuss the sexual aspect. Truthfully, it's too highly personal for me to even want to consider.
All I can say is, in response to him is: I think in some ways he is right. Somewhere a generation of women in this country (can't speak for others) have lost the ability to teach daughters how to be functional women. BUT! Men are no different and per norm, men are slower at understanding the nuances of a changing society.
Finally, over my lifetime I have known a few "foreign women" who, regardless of relationship, have been able to assimilate into American society. Also, a couple who couldn't.
Page 4.-The Back Page. Well, it didn't take long for winter to hit hard around here and we have our first winter storm warning tonight. We have a new term this winter replacing the "Polar Vortex", the "Polar Plunge!" Where ever you are, thanks for visiting Cyrsti's Condo!
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