Showing posts with label Bowling Green Ohio. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bowling Green Ohio. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 10, 2025

Change was Coming

 

JJ Hart

As I grew into myself, I learned the truth. Change was coming if I liked it or not.

Change was one of the reasons I loved the fall season so much. As the weather cooled off and football came on, I could go through my feminine wardrobe and see what I could keep and what had to be discarded. Plus, I can’t forget Halloween which of course is the cross dressers’ national holiday in October.

Sadly, as the leaves began to change and fall from the trees, the whole time was bittersweet for me. The worst fall I could remember was when I was on a six-month delay to join the Army and I was working at a small radio station in Bowling Green, Ohio. If you are not familiar with that part of northwest Ohio, it is very flat to the point that any hills are manmade. One night, I was just driving around feeling sorry for myself as I looked ahead to Army basic training and I was so sad as the leaves blew in front of me. If I could have cried, I would have, but tears were nearly impossible for me in my male pre-HRT days. Similar to everything else in those days, I internalized my feelings and tried to move on as deep down I knew change had to happen.

During that time, I almost outed myself to my roommates in the apartment I was staying in until I left for basic. On one trip home, I brought back one of my favorite outfits along with a wig and makeup to Bowling Green. One day when I left, I assumed I had hidden my belongings well enough to not be discovered but I was wrong, and one night when I was preparing to surprise a male visitor to the apartment, after I went to work of shaving my legs and face, I checked for my clothes, and they were gone. I certainly thought, for a while change was coming then it was not. No one said a word to me and very soon, I was off to play soldier anyway so nothing else mattered.

Back in those Vietnam War days, basic training was an intense team building experience when a few drill sergeants needed to try to get a bunch of raw recruits ready for possible combat. During this time, the only way I could keep my girl self-alive was to bury her deeply in my subconscious mind, So, when we were on long forced marches around Ft. Knox, I made sure I thought about the well-being of my girl and the changes we would go through after my military service was finished.

Looking back at the three years I served; the time now seems like a blur and when I was discharged, I came really close to making a big change then by picking my future wife up at the airport cross dressed as my transfeminine self. I even went as far as hinting as such when I wrote her a letter. (Remember those?) Again, my male self-won out and I decided not to, and my big change had to go back to coming again. I did not have the courage yet to face my gender truth and took the easy way out and went back to accepting all the male privileges I had earned.

It was not until I became a parent and had reached my thirties did change to me become a real priority. I will always remember my thirtieth birthday being my hardest because I still hadn’t decided what I was going to do with my life. Sure, I had employment and financial issues to be aware of but again the underlying big elephant in the room was what changes would have to happen with my gender. I knew it was never going to be easy to present well as a woman, and I needed to work extra hard to earn whatever passing grades I could achieve in the public’s eye. Once I made the mental changes to proceed, much of my work became cosmetic in nature.

I was able to move the elephant aside and set about learning what it would take me to really live life as a transgender woman and not just be the “Pretty, pretty princess” my second wife called me. As change set in, I learned very few trans women or women at all live the life of a princess and I had a lot of work to do to put my male life behind me.

The last major change I put myself through was the hormonal one when I started gender affirming hormones. The HRT allowed me to sync up my external and internal selves and live a more productive life as a transfeminine person.

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Cyrsti's Condo Quote of the Day

"If it doesn't kill you, it should at least make you smarter!"

Who knows I may have read this true statement somewhere.  Perhaps on a bathroom wall?  It seems the bathroom philosophy is going the way of the dinosaurs. From my lengthy days in the bar business, from an operators stand point- it's a good thing. As I have said here many times, my belief in the "pristine" women's room was shattered early and often as a manager.
Un named graffiti proof women's room.

As I started to transition and began to visit more women's restrooms, I did read with interest the difference in each gender's bathroom graffiti.  I noticed the sexual content was comparable.  Women got the nod for "marking" their guys by name on the wall positively.  If you are a woman and get mentioned on a men's restroom wall 99% of the time it's probably not a positive-unless you want to be sexually active with strangers.

Finally, I do have to give the genetic women the edge in creativity.  I can not say the quote above didn't come from a women's rest room visit.  My "best of" male wall quote comes years ago 1971, from a college bar called Howard's in Bowling Green, Ohio and evokes the unholy alliance between hockey and religion: Someone wrote "Jesus Saves" and someone added "And Esposito (hockey player) slaps it in"! Nice!

All in all, this lost art form did speak volumes on the difference between the genders on a whole different stage!

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