After watching the last video on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen on "passing" , I'm sure I share an initial thought with many of you, "sure it's easy to say all that if you are a natural and essentially don't have to worry about "passing".
With the naivety of youth and the blessing of appearance, she had a tough time "talking" around the points of no we shouldn't have to resort to thousands of dollars worth of pain and countless hours of suffering to have a chance to live as the gender we choose. But the fact remains we have to.
She was also right that if you can get your gender presentation to a point which could be described as "entry level" then your attitude should take over and life should become noticeably easier. Or to put the idea in the format we are writing about, if you are driving a five speed transmission car, when you shift down into fourth gear to pass, fifth gear is when all the fun starts.
Her discussion was a good one though and we all have the problem of "over thinking" this transgender life we are in. She was simply seeing the bright side without having to experience part of the dark. Good for her, at least she is thinking the right way. She just happens to be driving a new Porsche and I have an old Kia. Our gears are different!
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Attitude and the Passing Lane
This is one of videos Julian sent me to show on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen. This young transgender woman has excellent ideas! :Thanks Julian for sharing!
Sunny Sunday Morning
Around the beaches and the mountains here in the Cyrsti's Condo metropolitan area, it's time to hit the keyboard and converse with all of you. As always I'm trying to catch up with comments and the world as I try to shake off the cobwebs of enjoying my Buckeyes beat down the Nittany Lions last night.
First of all, I would love to pass along a positive post about the UK for Paula and you other British girls for a change who stop by the Condo. This story is even from a more reputable source (I hope) the BBC.
"The annual Pink List named Paris Lees as the most influential lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender figure in the UK. But her rise from being a "silly teenage boy in a prison cell" has been far from simple.
With the organisation All About Trans she is determinedly changing media representation of transgender people like herself. And as the first transgender presenter for Radio 1 and Channel 4, she is making a mainstream audience aware of trans issues."
Follow this link to read more of Paris's story which like so many of us was not simple!
While you are there, one of the side stories on the site is a subject we discussed, how we transgender women and transgender men choose our name.
So there you go, Paula and Vicki and the rest of you over the pond. Believe me we have our fair share of ignorance going on over here. For once it seems the desire to publicize it all is not as strong.
On my email, which you are more than welcome to send a message on, Julian sent along a YouTube video for all of us to take a look at. Which I will, to tease you a bit, the person begins by commenting how hard it was for him to appear male. We all need some of that problem, right? Thanks Julian for also mentioning the time aspect of maintaining a blog such as this. As I told him,the more a blog takes on a life of it's own, the more it takes of your life. I'm sure Stana, over at Femulate would agree!
Finally, for this post, a quick comment on Aerosmith's music. Pat picked up on my comment about one of their old songs. I think it was "Walk this Way". Indeed, I spent many hours abusing Robin Hood Big 16 Ale's and rocking with Aerosmith. But, the number of times people who used "Dude Looks Like a Lady" to abuse and mock me over the years, have soured me to the group. I don't think though, I have ruined their career!
Aww right kids, the dog doesn't care about my hangover and is pushing me for her walk and since the temp is getting back into the 50's, she is right!
As always, I appreciate your input!
First of all, I would love to pass along a positive post about the UK for Paula and you other British girls for a change who stop by the Condo. This story is even from a more reputable source (I hope) the BBC.
"The annual Pink List named Paris Lees as the most influential lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender figure in the UK. But her rise from being a "silly teenage boy in a prison cell" has been far from simple.
With the organisation All About Trans she is determinedly changing media representation of transgender people like herself. And as the first transgender presenter for Radio 1 and Channel 4, she is making a mainstream audience aware of trans issues."
Follow this link to read more of Paris's story which like so many of us was not simple!
While you are there, one of the side stories on the site is a subject we discussed, how we transgender women and transgender men choose our name.
So there you go, Paula and Vicki and the rest of you over the pond. Believe me we have our fair share of ignorance going on over here. For once it seems the desire to publicize it all is not as strong.
On my email, which you are more than welcome to send a message on, Julian sent along a YouTube video for all of us to take a look at. Which I will, to tease you a bit, the person begins by commenting how hard it was for him to appear male. We all need some of that problem, right? Thanks Julian for also mentioning the time aspect of maintaining a blog such as this. As I told him,the more a blog takes on a life of it's own, the more it takes of your life. I'm sure Stana, over at Femulate would agree!
Finally, for this post, a quick comment on Aerosmith's music. Pat picked up on my comment about one of their old songs. I think it was "Walk this Way". Indeed, I spent many hours abusing Robin Hood Big 16 Ale's and rocking with Aerosmith. But, the number of times people who used "Dude Looks Like a Lady" to abuse and mock me over the years, have soured me to the group. I don't think though, I have ruined their career!
Aww right kids, the dog doesn't care about my hangover and is pushing me for her walk and since the temp is getting back into the 50's, she is right!
As always, I appreciate your input!
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Just a Cross Dresser in the City
On the Cyrsti's Condo big screen, a quick cross dressing upload to give everyone around here a quick fix on a football Saturday and it was not good, here is a better one!
Friday, October 25, 2013
Cross Dressing on Spanish TV
Angelina, good question! The make up peeps in this show did a good job with this guy.
Laura Jane Grace
Legendary Floridian punk rock outfit Against Me! have finally set a release date for their long anticipated sixth full-length studio album, Transgender Dysphoria Blues, the follow-up to 2010′s White Crosses, as well as revealing the tracklisting and cover artwork.
The 10-track record will be out next January and will offer a highly autobiographical insight into frontwoman Laura Jane Grace‘s journey through gender identity, self discovery and ultimately love and acceptance, as well as her trademark dominant vocals and no-holds-barred songwriting.
I'm adding a couple pictures showing the HRT progress in Laura's pictures, specifically with her hair (which I LOVE!) and the joy in her face!
For more go here.
Check out the titles of four of the cuts:
01. Transgender Dysphoria Blues
02. True Trans Soul Rebel
03. Unconditional Love
04. Drinking With The Jocks
I'm adding a couple pictures showing the HRT progress in Laura's pictures, specifically with her hair (which I LOVE!) and the joy in her face!
For more go here.
Check out the titles of four of the cuts:
01. Transgender Dysphoria Blues
02. True Trans Soul Rebel
03. Unconditional Love
04. Drinking With The Jocks
Ari South
For more, go here.
Don't Hate me Because I'm....
You all have probably caught me up on my Cyrsti's Condo Soapbox whining and crying about pet peeves such as being roundly rejected by certain elements of the transgender society. On one hand I'm too much girl for the cross dressers and on the other I'm not enough girl for the transsexuals. Blah, blah, blah...as Pat said in a comment here labels are just labels and how you interact with a person one on one is reality. As Vicki said if I was in the UK, I may have a whole different idea of being called a tranny and if I was black I may have a whole different reaction to being called "girl".
Today though, on another site I'm active on, I was told, "I should be happy I was able to transition at all." Well, DUH, I am of course. I responded to the person, "I'm happy to be here at all", when you consider three years ago I was coming out of what I call the dark years of my life. Back then, I didn't care if I lived or died and none of it had to do with gender. In the three years previous, I lost my wife of 25 years, three of the closet friends to death I had ever known and my business. Oh, and did I mention I'm also bi-polar?
What few people know is I was and am a very independent, guarded person. So picking up the pieces on my own was tough and I almost didn't make it. Now I find the irony in those I meet who think the pleasure I find in life right now has always been a part of me. It took me years to quit being a "victim" and I happened upon an idea to pay forward and get out of the rut I was in. You are reading it.
When I started Cyrsti's Condo back in the day, I barely knew what a blog was. Connie in Seattle was reading my posts on another site and suggested I begin writing my experiences on my own blog and here we are. My goals were and are as simple as I am...maybe I can help others with the crazy experiences I have managed to live through in 64 years.
As I said, hell yes I'm happy to be here and my heart literally sings when the world becomes mine for the taking as a woman but damn it was tough to get here. As unfair as it is to discriminate against me for not being a cross dresser or transsexual, it is as bad for resenting me for simply seizing an opportunity in my life and writing about it.
So don't hate me because I'm transitioning. I know many of you just can't and I respect that but I'm fairly sure you don't want to take the route I did to get here. If you do, I'm behind you all the way!
Today though, on another site I'm active on, I was told, "I should be happy I was able to transition at all." Well, DUH, I am of course. I responded to the person, "I'm happy to be here at all", when you consider three years ago I was coming out of what I call the dark years of my life. Back then, I didn't care if I lived or died and none of it had to do with gender. In the three years previous, I lost my wife of 25 years, three of the closet friends to death I had ever known and my business. Oh, and did I mention I'm also bi-polar?
What few people know is I was and am a very independent, guarded person. So picking up the pieces on my own was tough and I almost didn't make it. Now I find the irony in those I meet who think the pleasure I find in life right now has always been a part of me. It took me years to quit being a "victim" and I happened upon an idea to pay forward and get out of the rut I was in. You are reading it.
When I started Cyrsti's Condo back in the day, I barely knew what a blog was. Connie in Seattle was reading my posts on another site and suggested I begin writing my experiences on my own blog and here we are. My goals were and are as simple as I am...maybe I can help others with the crazy experiences I have managed to live through in 64 years.
As I said, hell yes I'm happy to be here and my heart literally sings when the world becomes mine for the taking as a woman but damn it was tough to get here. As unfair as it is to discriminate against me for not being a cross dresser or transsexual, it is as bad for resenting me for simply seizing an opportunity in my life and writing about it.
So don't hate me because I'm transitioning. I know many of you just can't and I respect that but I'm fairly sure you don't want to take the route I did to get here. If you do, I'm behind you all the way!
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