Is Worrying Hormonal?

Looking back at the genetic women who were close to me in my life, they were all worriers to some extent.
As I approach the first three months of my hormonal change, I seem to be worrying more than I have ever in my entire life.
I have wondered recently if my increased level of worrying may be a product of the hormones as much as my sore breasts?
With the vast experience of all of you, I'm sure more than a few of you can lend some expertise.
Along the same subject of experience, perhaps you have heard of the transsexual woman who was denied drink specials on "Ladies' Night" at a  Florida bar. Here's the story from the "Tampa Bay Times".
"Alex Borrego walked into Bishop Tavern and Lounge with friends Thursday night looking for an evening of fun.
At the door, a bouncer invited Borrego and one of her friends — a drag queen — to partake in free drinks as part of the Tavern's weekly "ladies night." But later, as the pair sipped vodka and cranberry juice from their pink cups, another bouncer approached.
"You guys don't get to participate," they were told. "Because you're dudes."
Borrego, whose driver's license lists her gender as female, showed her ID, but the bouncer was unrelenting.
A heated dispute ensued. Words were exchanged. And the group left the bar.
Afterward, a few in Borrego's group, which included three female-to-male transgender people, launched a Facebook campaign to boycott Bishop Tavern and Lounge, 260 First Ave. N.
The group understood the bar's denial of her friend's participation in "ladies night," Borrego said. But as a legal woman, her treatment was nothing short of discrimination, she said.
Borrego was born male, but went through two years' worth of hormone adjustment and gender-change measures to become female.
"Legally, I'm a woman," Borrego said. "And to deny me to participate in ladies night — that's very disrespectful."
By midday Friday, the Facebook group had attracted more than 250 fans, who issued messages of support for the boycott.
The controversy quickly caught the attention of Dean Marshlack, owner of Bishop Tavern and Lounge, who got in touch with Borrego and her friends Friday and apologized profusely.
"Our staff, in my opinion, didn't do anything with the intent to harm somebody," Marshlack said. "I don't think the bouncer's statement came from a place that was meant to be harmful. I think it came from a place of being misinformed."
Marshlack said he plans to speak with his staff about the incident and ensure that from now on, transgender people will be treated with respect. The Tavern also wants to work with the community to raise awareness of transgender issues.
Late Friday, a public apology was also posted on the Facebook and Twitter pages for Bishop Tavern and Lounge."

Has this ever happened to you? Personally, I have only been in the situation once and was served the discount beverages without a comment. This not a statement of how I may have presented. It is a statement that it happened.  
So for once I have no interesting story. I'm sure many of you do! 

Transsexual Bride

Ms Jessie Chung, a transsexual, married Mr Joshua Beh in a ceremony in Sarawak, Malaysia.

AND

Andrej Pejic (of course) and you thought he couldn't look any better? 

And 

On "Trannsnation.com" watch an equally amazing "Miss Tiffany Thailand" Transsexual Beauty Contest

"Ya Think?"

I am the first to admit I post my "horrorscope" just when it is amazingly correct or is amusing or both.
I just loved this one!
Libra (September 23- October 22)
"You’ve got a freak inside of you and this week, it’ll be screaming to get out and try new things. So, drop the good girl routine and let that naughty side of you come out to play. Sure, this might only be a temporary phase, but whatever adventures you partake in now will last you a lifetime."  "Ya Think?"
I'm on the "Frisky.com" email list and the site has a lot of other neat "girl stuff" too!

Fun At College!

Have you ever heard of tiny "Oberlin College" in Ohio?  Well, you have now!
Check out this blog post from 2009!


Question: Is Drag Ball...
a. Oberlin's answer to prom.
b. Four hours of dancing with ambiguously-gendered folks.
c. As much fun to prepare for as to attend.
d. All of the above!

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Drag Ball, formerly the Lesbutante Ball, used to be a really small affair, as much about LBGTQ education as a party. Now, over 1000 people attend Drag Ball, which hosts 3 rooms playing different styles of dance music, and a giant runway and performance stage. The whole student union is transformed to reflect the year's theme (Wizard of Oz), with huge, colorful lights, giant amplifiers, streamers and craziness.

Someone Had to Do It!

The last video I posted in the "Home Entertainment Center" was a special on super model "Andrej Pejic".
Pejic of course is a hard act to follow but I believe I found a quality person in "Heidiphox100" check it out!

Is J.C. Penny's Transphobic?

Probably not but after you read this isolated story, you should at least wonder if they have policies similar to "Macy's".

Discrimation at Florence, SC JC Penney (Magnola Mall)

                                                                                                                        March 3, 2012
To Whom It May Concern,
Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Markielynn Rundell. I am a transgendered female. I have been patronizing your stores since I was a young child. I have always visited your stores dressed as a transgendered female. Each time I visited, I enjoyed my shopping experience. Selecting clothing that I wanted to buy, and of course trying on the outfits before buying them was always a must. Of course being a transgendered female, I have always used the woman’s dressing room. Up until today I did so with no problems at all.
Today, Saturday March 3, 2012, my wife Lori, girlfriend Lana, and I visited your Florence, SC Magnolia Mall store for some fun filled shopping. Tonight at approximately 7:00 pm, I picked out 2 dresses that I had planned to purchase from your store. Of course I had to try them on, so I entered the woman’s fitting room. There were 3 stalls located within the dressing room. The first stall was occupied; the second stall was full of clothing, so I used the third stall. I tried on the first dress. When I exited the dressing stall to go show Lori and Lana what the dress looked like on me, one of your employees, a female African-American, who was standing in the second stall, said to me “Sir, you cannot use this dressing room”. I immediately told her politely that I was a woman. When I left the dressing room, I asked Lori to please tell her that I am a woman. Lori told her that I was her girlfriend. I went back into the dressing room and decided not to try on the second dress because I realized it would be too small. When I was redressing, I heard my wife Lori ask me if I was almost done because we are leaving and we are not buying anything from this store. Unbeknown to me, your employee went and got her supervisor, also an African-American woman. We decided to leave your store immediately to avoid any farther confrontation. I did not get the names of either employee. I just want you to know that I was not only embarrassed, I was also hurt by the rude way I was treated by one of your employees. I thought your store was supposed to be LGBT friendly. You portray that image now that you have Ellen DeGeneres as your official spokesperson. I have never felt so discriminated against in my entire life. If this is how your employees are going to treat a member of the LGBT community, I will be sure to tell my entire LGBT friends not to shop at your stores because they will be discriminated against.
On a personal note: I cannot use the men’s fitting room because I have been undergoing transformation to become a fully functioning female. Because I have been on Hormone Replacement Therapy, I have developed breasts. Because I have breasts and am a transgendered female, I would not feel safe or comfortable knowing that I could be seen by a man using the men’s dressing room. Please tell me what dressing room I am supposed to use if your policy to discriminate against transgendered females who are minding their own business and simply using the woman’s fitting room to try on clothing? This also goes for the bathroom in the event a transgendered individual has to relieve themselves.
Sincerely,
Markielynn Rundell

To be VERY clear, I am NOT taking the entire JC Penny's company to task over this incident. I AM taking them to task for not having a company policy; if indeed they don't.
If indeed Penny's doesn't have a policy (one way or another) then shame on them!
If indeed they want to exclude transgendered women and men from using their dressing rooms then say so and we can shop elsewhere. On the other hand it is no secret many other women's clothing chains have learned to welcome the patronage (money) of the transgendered public.
Two more points. I picked up this story from the "TG Forum" and I really admire the courage of Markielynn for taking it public!

"Trannsnation.com" Update.

I managed to find the time and ambition to begin again the process of transferring and categorizing the 800 plus posts here on "Cyrsti's Condo".  I'm pleased to report I was able to post three or four new categories over on my sister website "Trannsnation.com". Here's an "easy" link to one of the posts.
I was also happy to discover the site finally came up on it's own on a "Yahoo" and "Google" search!

New Post From Sherri Lynn!

I can not say how much I anticipate a new post from this woman!
To start with, she is a transgendered woman and a psychotherapist in Virginia too. I don't believe there are many transgender or transsexual women or men who have not sought or went through counseling. Imagine the benefit of having someone with Sherri Lynn's experience.
We have the second best thing, access to her posts.  Here is part of her latest:

"I'm beginning to get a sense of the new normal. What has been changed is irrevocable. Something has been lost and much has been gained. It's still all such a shock how this came about that I feel stressed, tired and have really not quite integrated the whole experience of my parent's accidental discovery, though I could not have expected a better outcome.

Partly this has to do also with ongoing work stresses that are mounting as the drive for Obama Care pushes the system of medical economics towards its intended collapse so that the new order of health care can be established. (Please note this is not a political rant, just the experience of a front line health care provider. No political responses please). We are being told to see more patients because reimbursement from the government is being cut and that translates into the need to see more patients to keep operating.

 It slows my bouncing back from the highly emotionally charged experience of coming out to my parents in an unintended manner as the numbers of patients I am expected to see increases dramatically. This week I saw 46 patients in a 40 hour week. I owe this miracle of services rendered to my wonderful relapse prevention group that I look forward to running each week. There is no time for a break in a schedule such as this.
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Self care is the most important way to get back into balance. When one is under stress, good sleep hygiene is important, even crucial. If you can't get your sleep right, nothing else will follow. There are a lot of things one can do besides taking medications; one can listen to soothing music, practice meditation and progressive relaxation techniques. It is helpful to turn off the TV, not read, stay away from video games or anything that is stimulating for at least a half hour before bedtime."


For more, go here!
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We've Got Mail!

I just had to pass along this message which was sent to my email by "D".
It's a reply to the post "When Do You Stop Being Transgendered?".

" As a man, you have seen War, that most men will not see and other experiences males will never go through.

 Now you have been out as a woman and enjoyed your new feelings.  You like

 your new look, you like what you see in the world, the feel of the wind in

your new hair and the days to came.

 The future-you is what you experienced, learned in the past mixed with the present to make you one.

You're smart and gifted with the art of writing and I think your are teaching too. You have thought me to open my mind.. So that's four good  things, intelligence, writer,teacher and good with kids, after all you raised one.

 I don't know how much of a people person you are?

Obviously you have watched men and their wives. The wives doing female

things and then joining in with the men in things such as talking about cars, bikes and

so on.

 If you are good at these, you would be on on your way to being Third

Gender. ( If you followed any of my "Two Spirit and Third Gender" ideas last week)
 Enjoy your female side. Don't feel guilty of identifying as a male

or a female. You are neither,you are both. You are You, You are One!"

 First "D" thanks for your comments, I'm deeply flattered and yes I have always been a "people person".

My only final comment is as far as "guy" stuff goes, I know more about things such as cars and things because I had to. Sports I know more about because it's a passion with both of me. So yes, I can converse about these matters with perhaps a little more depth.

The truly wonderful part of it all is having any opportunity to experience it all without society's prejudices.
 I think most of transgendered woman or men experience a certain mistrust of our place in life and society.

Some think we trying to pull off some sort of devious deception for "dark/evil" reasons. If by chance I talk to a man about classic cars or a woman about shopping for jeans, I'm not evading their gender. It's not "the jokes on you". I just have a little knowledge of where you have been. Just please don't mistrust or mistreat me for it!

Thanks again "D".