JJ's Sunday Edition

Ker Plunk! Listen closely, another Sunday Edition is hitting your virtual front porch! First, the weather. It's sunny and chilly here in Southwestern Ohio with highs barely getting into the 60's today. Excellent day for a hot cup o joe (coffee) or Chai Tea. Let's get started.

Page One: the Week that Was or Wasn't: On the entertainment scene, transgender woman Laverne Cox just made trans history again with her new series Doubt.  Cox will play a series regular character in the upcoming CBS legal drama Doubt, making her the first transgender actor to portray a transgender main character on a broadcast series.
Of course on the national scene, the sweeping revisions and backing by the Federal Government has led to a firestorm of protest-and support. There are lawyers everywhere sharpening their pencils waiting to make a great paycheck on upcoming litigation-thanks to the morons in North Carolina and Mississippi. Although approximately 28 other states have similar bills proposed by legislators opposed to tackling real problems.
Page Two: Yesterday's Coffee - Opinion. Perhaps you have noticed several "archived" posts from 2013. I personally think they had more interest than my current efforts for a couple of reasons. First of all, the world was "bright,shiny and new" as I was basically really feeling the results of HRT for the first time. Plus, I was just beginning to feel the warmth from a new circle of friends Liz and I were part of. As I found out later, a couple of them have transgender family. Being around them has made life so much richer and I have become so much closer to stealth than anytime in my life. In fact, I believe my next mini series of posts will be about stealth and the misconceptions surrounding it, from my angle.
 Page Three: Oh No She Did-unt!: As it turned out, the stories of Caillyn Jenner de-transitioning were fake according to her friend Jennifer Finney Boylan: "There it was, big as hell, CBS News reporting that Caitlyn Jenner was de-transtioning.  And there was I, as I often am while poised at my computer, clutching at my forehead muttering, “Jesus H. Christ in a chicken basket.” And: "The source for the story, 

interestingly, was a fellow writing an unauthorized biography of the Kardashians. He had not spoken to Jenner personally.  And yet CBS — the House of Murrow! — figured, what the hey.  No one from the network called Jenner for a comment.  By mid day, after a statement from her publicist, CBS changed its online headline to “Caitlyn Jenner’s Rep Responds to De-Transitioning Report.”  The whole sad baloney sandwich was tossed on the internet compost heap by day’s end, and with it, I suppose, my interest should have waned.
You can go here to the "Advocate"for more.
Page Four: The Back Page: Time to head out and walk the dogs kids! You and yours have a wonderful week!
Luv ya!!!!
JJ

Transgender Politician!

From the TransGriot Blog:  "I've (Monica Roberts) has been saying that we need to have trans people writing the laws instead of begging to be included in them or working to kill unjust ones, and looks like in this election cycle people are stepping up to do precisely that.

.One of those people is Kim Coco Iwamoto, a commissioner on the Hawaii Civil Rights Commission.  She's been even since her appointment by Gov. Neil Abercrombie in 2012 serving her term due to expire this year.

 Kim Coco Iwamoto has announced she is going to run for public office again in her native Hawaii."

Follow the link above for more and I couldn't agree more!!!!

It's Mine-I Bought It!

I have been bringing back old archived posts from 2013 when my Mtf transition was really taking shape. This one has to do with hair:

As recently as my last post here in Cyrsti's Condo, I am never shy about mentioning my hair.  I am a believer in nature giving and taking away. In my case, nature was in a giving mood with my big bones and torso but just happened to slip in potentially wild big hair. The take away though is the idea of older women not looking stylish in longer hair. Among other things it's called the 16/60 and is used to describe a woman who looks 16 from behind and 60 from in front.  Yikes!!!! I don't look a day over 59!

As luck would have it though, as in everything there are exceptions to every rule. In my case I read the exception in the Fabulous after 40 site:


"If you have thick hair with a natural looking color, and you are not too thin in the face, then you can wear your hair pretty long. How long? The best hairstyles for long hair over 40 are ones that fall no further than mid-back, or your hair will look unkempt. (but I think this is true no matter what your age.) The reason I think you need a little fullness to your face to pull off this look successfully is because long hair will draw the eye down, making your face look longer and thinner.

Although you might think that looking thinner is more desirable, as we age it really isn’t. A long and thin aging face will just look tired and haggard, and length will also draw attention to fine lines and wrinkles. My advice to women over 40 with long hair and a thin face is to a) switch to short hair or b) try a shoulder length style with layers and softness around your face. These two styles will be much more flattering. And remember, showing a little bit of your ear will draw the eye up, lifting everything up and showing off great cheekbones. It’s kind of like having a face lift."

It turns out, I can say yes to all three plus it would break my heart to say "no" after all these years. I guess karma cut me a break for sentencing me to the wait for my own hair. (Have to blame someone)

Plus certainly this information is also good for flattering wig styles we all can wear."

If we all do this right, we can look as good as Courtney Cox in this picture?

You're Such a Boob!

Since summer time is almost here, it's time to take a look at my bra situation again and judge what HRT has or hasn't done. To explain it, I thought I would pass along an old archive post:

"Finally it's becoming evident the hormones are beginning to gain more and more ground in my quest for bigger breasts.
Over the years my bras have been more of a "hit and miss" effort. much was determined by the size "d" breast forms I've owned for years.  Anyway you cut it, I'm a big girl and bigger breasts should come with the package to fill out my figure.
Now though it is time to actually measure my body and find what cup size I have developed to over the last 16 months or so on HRT. Here's a chart I used:

After I used a cloth tape measure and measured around my chest below my breasts and then around the fullest part of them and took the difference, it turned out to be just under 2 inches.

On the chart, the difference in My Standard Cup Size was:


AA.- 0" to 1/2" (1.3cm)
A.- 1/2"- 1" (2.6 cm)
B.- 2" (5.1 cm)
C.- 3"  (7.6 cm)
D.-  4" (10.2 cm)

Naturally (no pun intended) I was happy with the results. I felt I was filling out a full "A" cup but never a "B" yet. As I have mentioned, supposedly my mother's genetics have a lot to do with this process. She was well endowed so I hope I can eventually develop to a full "C" on the hormones alone."

Ironically, I hate to wear a bra, but have to now since I am passing the "perky" stage. It's also becoming evident I am becoming more and more in tune with my hormones. For example last night I began to feel the beginnings of a fairly rare hot flash coming on-on one of the days I change out my estrogen patches. Plus, I am beginning to predict how I will feel afterwards.

I still have a dream of affording a breast job some day, but the way life is going, I may have a much better use for 4,500 dollars!

Can You Spare a Buck?

Would you donate a dolla to this guy? Looks like he needs it, right?
Actually he doesn't. He is Phil Robertson, one of the "stars?" of the reality? television show "Duck Dynasty".

Of course by now you know what side of the ledger good ol' Phil weighed in on in the transgender rest room debate-along with his buddy Ted Cruz.

The problem with  their little noggins is where to place transgender women and men in their neat little system. We are not men in the women's room.

Times change guys and you dinosaurs should wake up to the fact the asteroid has already hit. The new world includes equal rights for ALL of the LGBT community,

By the way, slip Phil a dalla from me-looks like he needs it.

Spousal Consent?

With all the wonderful backing we (as a transgender group)received from the Federal Government yesterday, I picked up this blinding face of reality from one of my social sites almost at the same time.

The problem this person was having was, she was nearly and figuratively at the end of her rope with her gender issues. She really didn't know how to identify as a cross dresser or a transgender woman and worse yet had a very reticent wife (although I know every story has two sides.) In fact there are blogs dedicated by wives hating on former hubbies who took the 401 and ran to Thailand...and not for a vacation. So I understand to an extent.

When a person though, is reaching out to end it all, I just can't stand it. After all, in the transgender community we know almost half of us will try to commit suicide as I did.

It's tough, of course I recommended therapy for both of them. After all, how reticent is the wife? Many women withstand the so called shock of hubby wanting his own feminine finery-if it is just that. Or, if wifey has a picture of Ted Cruz on the mantle, then there is a real problem.

I have always thought too that how you present (or presented) the fact you were/are a crossdresser has more to do with acceptance than the act itself. You can be the most attractive male acting cross dresser in the world and blow it at home if you come storming in the door some night with a beautiful dress which happens to be yours.

I also believe one of the biggest and overlooked point about cis women is they have ego's too. They married you for a purpose, and it's up to them to decide if they want to explain to their Mom's and girlfriends what foundation looks best on you.

My point here? Save your self the turmoil by covering up what nearly never goes away. If you can get Ted Cruz's picture tossed in the trash-maybe you can open some spousal consent channels.

A Rebel Tour of North Carolina

From the The Guardian in the UK: How to use a urinal like a lady: a trans woman's rebel tour of North Carolina.  

In defiance of North Carolinas ‘absurd’ new bathroom law, trans actress Shakina Nayfack is staging a piece of renegade performance art in men’s In defiance of North Carolina’toilets.  Nayfack is happily and successfully living her womanly life in New York but her birth certificate says “male”, so according to the new laws in North Carolina she is effectively banned from female public restrooms in that state.

She’s so peeved, she’s mounting a rebel tour. And from the Capitol in Raleigh to the gas stations of Greensboro and cafes of Charlotte, she plans to tinkle in men’s toilets galore, tweeting and taking selfies as she goes.

“Hovering over a urinal is actually very tricky. I’m going to need a lot of Purell,” she said.

Politico's

Just to catch up on a few political stories, North Carolina and the Feds are in the courts suing each other in a non problem which was made into one...transgender bathroom rights. North Carolina must be a rich state with plenty of money to lose!

Now, in case you didn't hear, one of the most positive role models (who has come out recently) Kristin Beck, lost her election bid to win a seat in the US Congress over one of the strongest Democratic long term incumbents. If you don't know her story, Kristin is a former Navy Seal and a trans person I hope we hear a lot from in the future!

Finally, in the Philippines, Geraldine Roman on Tuesday celebrated overcoming "bigotry, hatred and discrimination" as results showed she had become the first transgender politician to win a congressional seat in the predominantly Catholic Philippines.

After her victory in Monday's election, Roman, 49, is being seen by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community as a source of hope in a country where Church influence means divorce, abortion and same-sex marriage are banned.

See more here.  To coin a term, the more the world tries to keep us in, the more out we have become!

The Principality of Bitchdom (From the Archives)

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

The Principality of "Bitchdom"

Maybe I should have spelled this little "queendom" queendumb. 

No kids, I'm not doing my usual "throwing rocks in glass houses", yes I have been to "Bitchdom".

"Don't make me pull this wig off and bitch slap you with it!"

Where is this place? Well,  I define the location as synthetic. Brought on by synthetic PMS brought on by synthetic hormones.

Allow me to pick up a big rock and heave it here in Cyrsti's Condo/Bitchdom tonight. Very simply I have found recently I'm being patronized on occasion.

I know you have probably seen the "look behind the fake smile" people think they have perfected. It's like they are thinking, first I had to like black people, then gay people and now you?  

No, they really don' t have to like me because I am transgender and worse yet- they think I'm so cool. Has nothing to do with me, it's because they have met a trans woman. They think they are special being  one of the 10% of the population who has met a me or saw a me on television.

Through the years I saw a similar version happen in the restaurants I worked in. All of a sudden it became  so cool to go to a gay dance club for my female crew members.

Truth is I'm not so cool and this doesn't happen to me frequently. Then again anymore,  I'm fortunate to have a nice circle of friends and the same places I go so it shouldn't.   As I have written though, I am starting to expand out into a few "active" organizations, so we will see what the future holds.

Maybe tonight, I just needed something to bitch about and maybe I am cool dammit!