If you are active at all on line and/or from Canada, you probably know Jenna Talackova, a Vancouver native was disqualified from Miss Universe Canada. Denis Davila, the national director of Miss Universe Canada, told the Toronto Star that
the rules state that each contestant must be a "naturally born female."
He suspected that Jenna Talackova, a Vancouver native, was not born
female, which she later confirmed.
“She feels like a real girl
and she is a real girl. She didn’t expect people to question it,” Davila
said. “She was hoping we could put her back in the competition, but the
rules are very clear and there’s no way we can go back on it.”
Here's a little more on the story from "Xtra" in Canada:
(When) "The 23-year-old's pictures and profile have been erased from the Miss Universe website. Jenna has told CTV that
she won't be speaking about her disqualification until she has
conferred with a lawyer, but went to her Twitter to say she had been
kicked out of the competition over "discrimination" and that she is "not
giving up".
A real Miss Universe has nothing to do with who
someone was when they were born, and everything to do with who they've
grown up to be. A real Miss Universe is someone who has worked hard to
overcome adversity and achieve her dreams. It's a shame the competition
doesn't recognize that, and insists on putting so much emphasis on
physicality, instead of focusing on what's on the inside -- which is
what makes a "real" woman, and which one would hope, is what makes a
woman worthy of being called Miss Universe."
I have posted a couple pictures of "Jenna" here on the blog and she is worthy of the pageant.
My opinion is this pageant is just another line in the sand drawn by society against transgender or transsexual women or men. Not unlike the restroom issue!
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Saturday, March 24, 2012
So! How's that Workin' for ya Trans Girl?
I received a question the other day about the changes in gender perception I have experienced in the world.
First off my cynic bitch self said what the hell kind of question is that? DUH! Everything changes when you cross the gender line!
After I sent the bitch to her room without her "android" I started to think the question was a good one.
Certainly the stimuli men and women encounter in the world as they go about their everyday lives is as different as night and day. I am not going to sit here and bore both of us with the age old stories about losing "IQ" and losing male priviledge. True but not worth beating into the ground again.
My situation may be different than some in that my new circle of friends never knew the old ( male) me. Their decisions to embrace me as a friend came from knowing me as a trans woman.
Early in the process this caused me great stress. I was trying all so hard to be a woman.
As time passed and I relaxed, the most amazing thing happened. I became me. The girl inside just appeared and took over. The hair, clothes and makeup just became part of the total person.
So, a very simple answer to the perception question is sure, there are huge changes but mine were all inside.
I just felt so natural. The new perceptions were like coming home.
The public may still not view me as a genetic woman but they are more and more viewing me more than a "man in a dress".
As it turned out, the question was a good one. The answer leads me to believe (in my case at least) it was destiny or some long hidden DNA that took me to this point in my life!
What a ride!!!!
First off my cynic bitch self said what the hell kind of question is that? DUH! Everything changes when you cross the gender line!
After I sent the bitch to her room without her "android" I started to think the question was a good one.
Certainly the stimuli men and women encounter in the world as they go about their everyday lives is as different as night and day. I am not going to sit here and bore both of us with the age old stories about losing "IQ" and losing male priviledge. True but not worth beating into the ground again.
My situation may be different than some in that my new circle of friends never knew the old ( male) me. Their decisions to embrace me as a friend came from knowing me as a trans woman.
Early in the process this caused me great stress. I was trying all so hard to be a woman.
As time passed and I relaxed, the most amazing thing happened. I became me. The girl inside just appeared and took over. The hair, clothes and makeup just became part of the total person.
So, a very simple answer to the perception question is sure, there are huge changes but mine were all inside.
I just felt so natural. The new perceptions were like coming home.
The public may still not view me as a genetic woman but they are more and more viewing me more than a "man in a dress".
As it turned out, the question was a good one. The answer leads me to believe (in my case at least) it was destiny or some long hidden DNA that took me to this point in my life!
What a ride!!!!
Friday, March 23, 2012
Transgendered Questions with No Answers
This is just a bit of an addition to my recent "Mirror" post.
The trans woman I quoted and I had also been chatting back and forth about the difficulty in locating a true trans girlfriend. I feel her ideas are relevant enough to pass along.
For clarification I'm talking about a friend to share life experiences with. A person to hang out with and do girl things with. As it turns out, the person who fills that void in my life now is a genetic woman but I certainly wasn't always that lucky
I am not talking about the huge group who want sex or for me to "dress them up". That's not being a friend.
Here is her question:
"I would love to have a trans woman girlfriend to do things with together. Women click together, the gay community clicks together like mad (however loosely), gender queers click together, but in my experience the trans community does not click with anyone (gay, straight, bi, or trans). It really pisses me off. I don’t get it. The only place we can really bond with people is online."
As our "chat" continued, I essentially told her how weary I was of endless discussion and no progress. Except for my theory that many in the transsexual culture went to the "promised land" of no return and the grass wasn't so green. They simply missed the feminine essence except for appearance.
Her reply:
"(I) agree that the feminine essence is neglected. To me a lot of what feminine means is thinking and caring about others. It is totally missing in my experience. I find trans women seem so isolated and disconnected. I don't get it. That is why I have been going to a gender queer group instead. I am getting more of what I am looking for and I guess a little less of other things.
I can understand your disappointment. It would be so nice to have a real life common girlie bond with a like minded trans woman."
I'm weary of the whole deal but still would love to hear from those of you who have had success establishing a girl friend with transgendered experience.
Obviously, I'm just one voice in the wilderness. My experience is just one.
I just don't have any quick answers to any of these questions and I hope my experience does not reflect the attitude of the overall transgender community!
Unfortunately I'm judging our culture guilty until proven innocent.
The trans woman I quoted and I had also been chatting back and forth about the difficulty in locating a true trans girlfriend. I feel her ideas are relevant enough to pass along.
For clarification I'm talking about a friend to share life experiences with. A person to hang out with and do girl things with. As it turns out, the person who fills that void in my life now is a genetic woman but I certainly wasn't always that lucky
I am not talking about the huge group who want sex or for me to "dress them up". That's not being a friend.
Here is her question:
"I would love to have a trans woman girlfriend to do things with together. Women click together, the gay community clicks together like mad (however loosely), gender queers click together, but in my experience the trans community does not click with anyone (gay, straight, bi, or trans). It really pisses me off. I don’t get it. The only place we can really bond with people is online."
As our "chat" continued, I essentially told her how weary I was of endless discussion and no progress. Except for my theory that many in the transsexual culture went to the "promised land" of no return and the grass wasn't so green. They simply missed the feminine essence except for appearance.
Her reply:
"(I) agree that the feminine essence is neglected. To me a lot of what feminine means is thinking and caring about others. It is totally missing in my experience. I find trans women seem so isolated and disconnected. I don't get it. That is why I have been going to a gender queer group instead. I am getting more of what I am looking for and I guess a little less of other things.
I can understand your disappointment. It would be so nice to have a real life common girlie bond with a like minded trans woman."
I'm weary of the whole deal but still would love to hear from those of you who have had success establishing a girl friend with transgendered experience.
Obviously, I'm just one voice in the wilderness. My experience is just one.
I just don't have any quick answers to any of these questions and I hope my experience does not reflect the attitude of the overall transgender community!
Unfortunately I'm judging our culture guilty until proven innocent.
Transgendered Mirror
A friend of mine on anther blog sent me this reply to a conversation we were having about acceptance of trans women and trans men in society.
It's incredible!( She is a trans woman.)
"I agree with you on trans women being shunned by some genetic women because of ego and fear. Women can be very competitive along with all the ugliness and back stabbing that fosters. To me I feel it is simply an attitude where they rank the status of people and place us at the bottom. I am more concerned with the fear aspect. Trans women can be like a mirror that reflects back a genetic woman’s basic sexuality and make them feel uncomfortable. I think people tend to see trans people, maybe unconsciously or not, as the genetic rather than the target gender (a man in a dress in my experience). Men are aggressive and that is uncomfortable, even if it is just a stare or whatever the case may be. We also represent feminine on the other hand and lesbianism can be uncomfortable as well. Maybe they see us as what was an attractive man and maybe that carries over into an attractive femininity that makes genetic women uncomfortable. "
Interestingly, my friend came up with much of this insight in a conversation she had with a younger genetic woman.
Where ever it came from it is wonderful insight!
It's incredible!( She is a trans woman.)
"I agree with you on trans women being shunned by some genetic women because of ego and fear. Women can be very competitive along with all the ugliness and back stabbing that fosters. To me I feel it is simply an attitude where they rank the status of people and place us at the bottom. I am more concerned with the fear aspect. Trans women can be like a mirror that reflects back a genetic woman’s basic sexuality and make them feel uncomfortable. I think people tend to see trans people, maybe unconsciously or not, as the genetic rather than the target gender (a man in a dress in my experience). Men are aggressive and that is uncomfortable, even if it is just a stare or whatever the case may be. We also represent feminine on the other hand and lesbianism can be uncomfortable as well. Maybe they see us as what was an attractive man and maybe that carries over into an attractive femininity that makes genetic women uncomfortable. "
Interestingly, my friend came up with much of this insight in a conversation she had with a younger genetic woman.
Where ever it came from it is wonderful insight!
Thursday, March 22, 2012
New Jersey Brownies Support Transgendered Scout
This is from the "Montclair Patch" and needs to be as widely viewed as the transphobic young girl scout who called for a boycott of cookie sales.
"Maplewood mom Laura Booker was skeptical when her daughter wanted to join the Girl Scouts organization: As a kid, being a girl scout was the last thing I had ever wanted mostly because I couldn’t fathom wearing the dress, and as an adult, I want to raise a kid who is progressive and feminist and not stuck in the 1950s (which was the assumption I made about the Girl Scouts). But Booker found the Girl Scouts to be a broader-thinking organization than she had anticipated: I couldn’t have foreseen that joining the Brownies would be such a rich opportunity for Emma and a couple of her friends from the troop to show support for a transgender girl named Bobby Montoya who is a Girl Scout in Colorado. This was a story that Emma could relate to – a little girl who wanted to be a Girl Scout – and therefore was the perfect example to teach her about being an ally and accepting people for who they are and who they say they are. Watch the video that Booker's daughter and friends made to support Montoya attached. Read Booker's full accounting of this story on her blog, Queering the Mind, here.
Watch the video that Booker's daughter and friends made to support Montoya attached. Read Booker's full accounting of this story on her blog, Queering the Mind, here."
We've Got Stat's!
Relax, didn't have to go to the "Doc" to get rid of them!
These came from "Match" and may surprise or influence you before you get all dolled to go out next time!
". Men say that having gorgeous hair trumps a curvy figure. Trying to decide between a pre-date trip to the salon or Victoria’s Secret, ladies? Go for the fab hair option. According to a recent survey conducted by Pantene, 60% of men surveyed would rather date a woman with great hair than noticeable curves — and 74% of them said they notice a woman because of her hair. In fact, a full 44% of male respondents said that hair was the first thing they notice about a woman… even before her clothes (26%), legs (25%) and makeup (4%). Most of the men who took Pantene’s poll also said they’d be more likely to approach a woman at a bar with great hair than one who was wearing a low-cut shirt. This is great news, since monthly hair upkeep is more of a necessity than sexy lingerie if you’re a woman who’s on a budget. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t wear sassy underwear if you’ve got it — but when change is tight (like in this tanked economy), it’s good to know that a well-timed mane flip can still make you a main attraction."
(Wait a minute...does it matter that "Pantene" sponsored this?)
There is more:
"Guys find pink or red lips more alluring than the sexiest pair of stilettos. Should you invest in a pair of high heels, or that new Chanel red lipstick? If you’re forced to choose just one of these items, research shows that rouged lips are a better bet. In a recent Match.com survey of over 24,000 men and women, 88% of respondents said their date’s laugh made a bigger impression on a first date; only 12% picked shoes (there goes that perfect excuse for buying a new pair of Manolo Blahniks, right?).
Add a pop of red to that smiling and laughing mouth, and your attractiveness spikes even more, according to a study from the University of Manchester published in the UK’s Daily Mail. Researchers tracked the eye movements of 50 men and discovered that that in the 10 seconds after meeting a woman for the first time, the average guy will spend more than half of his time gazing at her mouth. If she’s applied lipstick, he’ll find it even more difficult to look away: a dash of pink can hold his attention for 6.7 seconds, while red keeps him fixated for 7.3 seconds. According to the study, fuller pouts were the overall preference, though the appeal of thin-lipped women increased by 40% when lipstick was applied — but when the ladies went completely bare, men tired of looking at their mouths after only 2.2 seconds. So regardless of your lip type, it pays to paint your pucker on date night."
Easier said than done for me. I have been a total failure in finding and wearing a red lipstick. My excuse is the lighting in the store where I buy it causes a color change!
These came from "Match" and may surprise or influence you before you get all dolled to go out next time!
". Men say that having gorgeous hair trumps a curvy figure. Trying to decide between a pre-date trip to the salon or Victoria’s Secret, ladies? Go for the fab hair option. According to a recent survey conducted by Pantene, 60% of men surveyed would rather date a woman with great hair than noticeable curves — and 74% of them said they notice a woman because of her hair. In fact, a full 44% of male respondents said that hair was the first thing they notice about a woman… even before her clothes (26%), legs (25%) and makeup (4%). Most of the men who took Pantene’s poll also said they’d be more likely to approach a woman at a bar with great hair than one who was wearing a low-cut shirt. This is great news, since monthly hair upkeep is more of a necessity than sexy lingerie if you’re a woman who’s on a budget. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t wear sassy underwear if you’ve got it — but when change is tight (like in this tanked economy), it’s good to know that a well-timed mane flip can still make you a main attraction."
(Wait a minute...does it matter that "Pantene" sponsored this?)
There is more:
"Guys find pink or red lips more alluring than the sexiest pair of stilettos. Should you invest in a pair of high heels, or that new Chanel red lipstick? If you’re forced to choose just one of these items, research shows that rouged lips are a better bet. In a recent Match.com survey of over 24,000 men and women, 88% of respondents said their date’s laugh made a bigger impression on a first date; only 12% picked shoes (there goes that perfect excuse for buying a new pair of Manolo Blahniks, right?).
Add a pop of red to that smiling and laughing mouth, and your attractiveness spikes even more, according to a study from the University of Manchester published in the UK’s Daily Mail. Researchers tracked the eye movements of 50 men and discovered that that in the 10 seconds after meeting a woman for the first time, the average guy will spend more than half of his time gazing at her mouth. If she’s applied lipstick, he’ll find it even more difficult to look away: a dash of pink can hold his attention for 6.7 seconds, while red keeps him fixated for 7.3 seconds. According to the study, fuller pouts were the overall preference, though the appeal of thin-lipped women increased by 40% when lipstick was applied — but when the ladies went completely bare, men tired of looking at their mouths after only 2.2 seconds. So regardless of your lip type, it pays to paint your pucker on date night."
Easier said than done for me. I have been a total failure in finding and wearing a red lipstick. My excuse is the lighting in the store where I buy it causes a color change!
Cyrsti's Quote of the Day
"Understanding a man is rocket science. Understanding a woman is an art form."
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