Checking the Fluids

"Gender Fluid" is yet another one of those pesky labels. Just don't need another label but it sort of makes a lot of sense.

It seems these days, more and more of us who occupy the gender "middle ground" are expressing it.  Take me for example. I'm a gender fluid "picker" which means I sell collectibles on various sites like Ebay and I use my male and/or my female name on occasions.  My "fluidity" though depends on the item. Yesterday, I sold an old 1930's popcorn machine and had to lend a helping hand as my guy self to muscle it out of here. All the time being careful of any contact with my breast area which was very tender.

I'm always intrigued by the posts I read here and there by transgender peeps who say they can't wait to start HRT to "Feel like a woman". I guess I did too when I got slapped by Momma Karma with a hot flash which made me feel as if I was self combusting, my first big irrational cry I couldn't stop, or the physical changes I was experiencing.

Of course before I started to set back and enjoy the changes, I tried to over think the process.  If I increased my dosages or ran off to a surgeon, would I feel "more like a woman?" In my case, no.  I'm pretty much set in the idea that after 60+ years around here, my inner gender is set and it does bounce on occasion. What I choose to show to the rest of the world varies too. The most rewarding part to all of this is knowing I can socialize as a woman after all. For better or worse, the world treats me different of course.  Women do give up a lot to so called male privilege but gain back in a sort of a sub culture which is foreign to most men.

So, do I feel like a woman? Can't tell you or claim to know. I can only vouch for me.  The only thing is know is, this gender fluid idea is not so bad.

For other examples go
here to check out the stories of individuals like Toni (left) who is changing the world.

The Miracle of Hormones

A few male to female transition videos I find showcase amazing changes and I wonder about dosages etc. Not to mention the slim female ready body most of us would die for. As a matter of fact if I ever became as thin as this transgender woman... I would be dead!   Here's she is on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

KayHar

One of most haunting beautiful video's to date on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Transgender Reality in a Small Town

All too often I think we have a tendency to focus too much on the transgender women and men who have the benefit of looks and/or location to ease their transition.

Here's a look at a different side of life on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Classic Boot Weather

From Fabulous after 40, one of my favorite "Go to" fashion sites here in Cyrsti's Condo, a look at "Tall Boots" for fall and winter:


After 40, 50 and beyond you want to look classy, you want to look chic, and you also want a look a little bit sexy. After all, you are still a vibrant woman, you’ve still got it! But how do you communicate that in a tasteful, grown-up-gal way? Plunging necklines that dive desperately deep, or thigh high skirts designed for teenagers are not the answer. One of the best ways to look sexy and not silly is to buy yourself a pair of fabulous tall boots. Here’s a look at what’s out there this fall to make you look alluring and Age-Amazing!™.

For more, go here.

Boycott Barilla

In a move reminiscent of a certain fast food chicken chain in the United States, Guido Barilla, whose firm has almost half the Italian pasta market and a quarter of that in the US, told Italy’s La Zanzara radio show last night: “I would never do an advert with a homosexual family…if the gays don’t like it they can go an eat another brand. “For us the concept of the sacred family remains one of the fundamental values of the company.” He added: “Everyone has the right to do what they want without disturbing those around them”. But then the pasta magnate upped the ante by attacking gay adoption. “I have no respect for adoption by gay families because this concerns a person who is not able to choose," he said.

 It is up to us to make sure "Bigot Barilla" knows we will go eat another brand!

New Transgender Star?

Yes kids, it could be you!:

"The casting company behind hit television series such as "RuPaul's Drag Race," "The A-List," and "Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys" is seeking transgender women to participate in a new reality series, tentatively titled "TransAmerica."

 According to a press release sent to the Huffington Post, Doron Ofir Casting is seeking "beautiful," "dynamic" and "fashionable" transgender women to take part in a new reality series that will explore the personal and public lives of modern day women who self-identify as trans. "TransAmerica" hopes to redefine stereotypes by exploring the complex world of dating and careers for transgender women, in an effort to both entertain and educate audiences.

 Casting Director Doron Ofir states in the press release, “I hope to revolutionize the perceptions of gender and sexuality by finding and casting the most spectacularly interesting women with fabulous personalities, who are proudly unapologetic, living a life of beauty in every way.”

 The casting call is open to all individuals identifying as transgender women, regardless of their position within the transitioning spectrum.

Follow the link above for more and when you become famous just remember the "good ol Midwestern trans girl" still pecking away on her blog!

We Got Mail!

If this keeps up you all are going to force me into a new Cyrsti's Condo mailbox investment!

Historian Pat passed along "Your parenthetical that "If I knew I would this long I would have taken better care of myself" was a comment from my (her) boyhood idol, Mickey Mantle."

I of course,  disliked anything in pinstripes such as the suit my Mom made me wear to church and especially the pinstripes worn by the Yankee's! Although the "Mickster" got some redemption in the form of his transgender niece Kelly as seen on the left.
To be fair, the 1961 World Series between my Cincinnati Reds and the Yankee's pretty much sealed my idea of the Bronx Bums.  True story, when I lived very close to NYC for almost two years, I watched plenty of Mets games at Shea Stadium but refused to set foot in Yankee Stadium.  No grudges, right?

Then there was the comment agreeing with my praise of the Ernest Hemingway quote "Write Drunk, edit Sober" from bashashhazbaz.. Thanks also for the comment on my picture! Interestingly Liz had a whole different take on the quote, preferring to looking at it as an opportunity to go back in life and rethink decisions at a more rational time. I never got past the drunk/sober dynamic which shows you where my mind was at!

And finally, from across the pond, Paula commented on the Top Ten Restroom post:

"It seems we area bit more liberal about all this in the UK, I now find when I am out and about in drab and am forced to use the "Gents" they are generally pretty nasty"  They generally are here too Paula in comparison to the women's rooms but I'm always fascinated by those want to attach the "pristine" tag to women's rooms.  I always remind everyone of my managerial 30+ years in the restaurant business.  I had tons of experience with women's rooms before I ever used one as a girl!

You may want to follow this link to Paula's blog and read her post "Under the Wing of the Eagle". She covers more of the potty/pub topic from a transgender woman's viewpoint there.

All of you are great for sending in your comments and as I have always said, I wish this blog platform had a better way to work with them. Then again I would have to be smart enough to use it!

Enjoy!

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