Hey! There's More!

I watched a totally wonderful talk show this morning which hit all the right transsexual "buttons". The first couple had stayed together through SRS and wife even has a job now counseling other transgender couples and kids. The second group was a family of four who raised a transgender son the correct way...with respect and support. The third person was the famous SRS surgeon Dr. Marci Bowers (right) who is a trans woman herself. Don't get me wrong, the show left me with all the proper "warm and fuzzies". The more mainstream shows who present the transgender story in a positive light...the better off we are.

But wait! I read this post from the Bilerico Project and realized show I watched this morning had nearly become routine to me and so much was missing. Here's an excerpt from the article by Drew Cordes:


"Don't get me wrong: Part of me is thrilled that trans* people are becoming more visible and gaining social acceptance. But the picture cis people and cis media paint of us is simplistic to say the least, and my concern is that it should not be only those trans people that our empathy, and thus, our resources, are going toward. We don't want to hear about the messy cases. We're not as familiar with the stories of inner-city trans* women of color who grow up disadvantaged, below the poverty line, poorly educated, disowned by family, and turn to sex work or living on the streets to survive. We don't hear those stories over and over, but they happen over and over. And usually those stories do not conclude on a hopeful note. Anyone who's ever attended a Trans* Day of Remembrance ceremony and heard the stories of all those murdered in the past year will solemnly corroborate this fact. We don't hear about the huge chunk of the trans* population that rebels against going from one sex all the way to the other, against our notions of what male and female are in the first place. We don't hear about those for whom gender is expressed in myriad incarnations besides just the familiar two. Where are the mainstream narratives for the femme faggy trans* men, masculine stone butch trans* dykes, intersex people who don't identify as male or female, genderqueer folks who favor a slinky cocktail dress Friday night and a three-piece suit on Saturday? Many of my friends are somewhere in that short list. I'm in that list. We're out there in sizable numbers, but culturally, we are not yet allowed to exist. It would be too confusing or off-putting to readers, viewers, listeners, students, employees, audiences, etc."

None of this is ever easy for sure. I just had one of many strange ideas buzz through my noggin...are these mainstream transgender shows  the new stealth in our community?
Yeah, we know your story already and have a great life but what about all the other of us?

Read all of Drew's post here.
Also here is a link to the Jeff Probst Show I saw.

Rated "R"

This video from You Tube is rated "R" so get the kids away from the computer here in Cyrsti's Condo:


 

"Horror Scope"

The stars have a weird one for we Libran's this week! At least for me:

 (September 23-October 22): There will be all sorts of triggers that will set you off this week. This will mean feeling the strongest love and the deepest hate for your boo. Yes, their shortcoming and their gifts will be on full display, and by the end of the week, you will see which outweighs what. While you are a forgiving type, you aren’t a miracle worker. So, stay strong with whatever you see.

 The "Horror Scope" term is my own here in Cyrsti's Condo you can get your own from theFrisky.

The Toughest Night

Recently I was asked to submit a few answers and experiences from my transgender past to an aquaintance of mine who is writing a book.
The toughest question to answer was the experience of mine which was the most difficult. As with most transgender folks I had plenty of those to sort through in my mind. Finally here is the one which really stood out:


" I thought back to the first time I went out as me to a Fridays approx 15 years ago. I had quite a bit of experience in gay venues but my time in them just never felt right. As it turned out my wife was working that night until midnight so out I went. My "hair" of choice then was a long honey blond wig and I went with a very respectable pair of flats, slacks and a nice blouse. The Friday's was in an upscale mall area and I wanted to blend in well with the professional women who came in by themselves after work. The old picture above is very close to my look that night.

Before I went in, I sat in my car for what seemed like an eternity but in reality was probably 5 min or so. Finally I hitched up my big girl panties, checked my make up in the mirror and thought I had come too far to go back and went in. The hostess stand was an easier process than I imagined. I side stepped a family waiting for a table and headed for a seat at the bar while the hostess was seating someone else. The bar actually had two posts on the front two corners and one even had an open seat beside it. (I remember quite clearly wanting to become one with that post and essentially disappear.) Surprisingly though I had come this far and could still breathe plus no one had pointed, laughed or ridiculed me...Wow maybe I could do this woman thing!

Then, a very friendly bartender arrived and in my softest frightened voice I ordered a draft beer. At that point I was trying to breathe normally and enjoy the moment. I played with my hair, checked my blouse and curiously felt my panty hosed feet in my flats. I quickly drank two beers and left with a huge sense of accomplishment but little or no enjoyment. As it turned out the bartender who waited on me that night ended up at that Friday's for a decade. I went back many times and always appreciated the smile and a name greeting which normally always paved the way for a smoother reception at the bar.

As we all know most all of this process has really difficult moments but that night was a real life changer for me! Believe me, I have had my share of downright embarrassing moments which hopefully someday will totally just fade away!

Three Year HRT Story

From YouTube (of course)comes a transgender transition video on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

 

A Trans Blog of Interest

I stumbled upon a blog called Post Op Living by Christina (right) which has quite a few interesting insights into living the post op life.

Check it out here.

Silvia Burgio

Beatiful transsexual celebrity Silvia Burgio:

And a video on the Crysti's Condo big screen:

Huge Battle Brewing

Recently I mentioned the challenges to transgender discrimination which is inherent in most major health plans as ObamaCare takes effect.
This story comes from the "Pink News":


"In a July letter to trans groups, Leon Rodriguez, the director of HHS’s Office for Civil Rights, said that HHS considers discrimination based on “gender identity or failure to conform to stereotypical notions of masculinity or femininity” in federal health programmes or activities receiving funding under Affordable Care Act-covered programs to be illegal. The news was first reported by BuzzFeed. Maya Rupert of the National Center for Lesbian Rights said in a statement:”Transgender people face severe discrimination in healthcare settings and are often denied care completely. “This announcement affirms that all patients in federally funded health care settings must be treated equally and may not be denied care simply because of who they are. “We are grateful to HHS for clarifying this important policy and providing transgender people with the security of knowing they are included in the administration’s commitment to the health and well-being of all Americans.”

Certainly this directive seems very direct and positive to me...almost too good to be true. But when the radical social right gets tired of restricting our right to pee I just see another ugly storm brewing . Not a difficult prediction, right?

I also wonder if any of this will filter over to the Veterans Administration will presently covers care up to any surgery for transgender veterans.

Jahna Steele

"Older" girls like me certainly remember a little of the groundbreaking work of the late "Jahna Erica Steele"

She was one of the first transgender women who made the talk show circuit in my day.
From Wickopedia:

"(born John Matheny, 29 September 1958 — 24 January 2008[1]) was an American transgender entertainer and Las Vegas showgirl who was voted Las Vegas' "Sexiest Showgirl on The Strip" in 1991,[2] "Las Vegas Entertainer of the Year, 1992," and "Most Beautiful Showgirl, 1993."[3] She was fired after being outed as a trans woman by a tabloid television show. Steele made numerous film and television appearances, including hosting a transgender beauty pageant featured in the film Trantasia."


On the Cyrsti's Condo big screen, here's another video look at the beautiful Jahna: