This weekend, three of my friends and I are attending the TGLBQ Pride march and party in Columbus, Ohio.
As I continue to mention, Columbus is a very diverse city and the event promises to be well attended. True to form, for the past month or more I have spent a considerable amount of "noggin" time, trying to come up with where I wanted to fit it.
It's not easy.
The gay and lesbian communities have much to be proud of. Both were instrumental in breaking down discrimination barriers and more they faced. Plus the drag queens can look back with pride at their huge role in the Stonewall riots in 1969. All of the history is great but the fact remains- we transgender woman and men are not understood and left out.
Are the "Bi's" left out too? Then again, who exactly are the "Bi's"? The only potential peeps in this category I have ever met are the fetish cross dressers who will only have sex with another man if he is dressed as a she? And, if I still considered myself a cross dresser-fetish or not, would I feel any sort of pride if I went to Pride? I'm pretty sure I would from the simple fact for a whole day I could express my gender as I saw fit. Plus, as a matter of fact, Pride events are much more cost effective for those who can not afford an event such as "Provincetown".(Fantasia Fair-below)
And, how about those lesbians? The three friends I'm going with are all lesbians and two are pretty much clueless when I complain of transgender discrimination. I just know I feel comfortable with them and the lesbian venues we will be going too. I have always found their company to be the most natural for me to fit into to. If I had to guess though, I'm thinking the three are going to party first and then be proud!
Where does all of that leave me as a transgender woman in the crowd? I feel guilty. I want the world to know I am trans and proud-as I am but, if I can blend in with the lesbians and party-I want to be there too. The fun part about the day is I will be able to dress down appropriately for a hot, humid Ohio summer day and enjoy being transgender.
For one of the first times in my life, I don't have to fit into yet another set of molds...this time from the gay/lesbian community.