Are You?

The other day when I was setting up my mammogram appointment, the receptionist finally asked the magic question...are you male or female?

Until I improve my phone voice, I have pretty much resigned myself to getting at least one "sir" before I correct them. This time, after I told the woman I was transgender, she was very respectful and said would "Ms. Hart" be OK?

After I said it would, her final question was, did I have any breast implants to work around.

Another person educated!

When the World Fades Away

This morning I tagged along with Liz to her karate class.

The class is split into two groups, one for teens through adults and one for kids. So, I get to encounter all sorts of age groups. Again this morning I encountered very little (if any) reaction to a transgender woman in their midst. I guess the ultimate test for going stealth.

As I write about here in Cyrsti's Condo, I always thought I would be the last person to write about going stealth in any kind of a positive manner.

These days, I see the stealth process as a natural progression into yet another stage of a Mtf transgender transition. Buoyed by positive comments from my friends and acquaintances (un-solicited), I have gained the confidence to move forward in the world.
Now it seems, the world is repaying me the favor, by getting out of my way and just fading away.

As Connie has written: "A trans girl's best accessory is her smile." I would add, once you get to the point of not caring what the other person thinks, your smile becomes even more important!

At that point, stealth becomes you.

Spring Can't be that Far Away!

I just received the word that the Trans Ohio Symposium has opened it's call for workshop presenters in April.

I have written here in Cyrsti's Condo in the past concerning my desire to be a presenter again this year at the Symposium in Columbus, Ohio. I have done it a couple times in the past.

My topic is going to revolve around three basic points:

1.- Surviving a half century in a transgender closet.
2.- No one is more trans than another.
3,- The different levels within a transgender transition.

Plus, if I have any time left, I would also like to discuss cross dressing as a transgender survival tool.

With only 50 minutes of time, I think I will have plenty of material.

If you are in the area, the Symposium will be held April 27th-29th in The Ohio State University Student Union and this year is the Tenth Annual. Friday is for professionals (therapists etc.) Saturday and Sunday, the general workshops are held. A very informative weekend!

Follow the link above for more!

We Got Mail

As you all probably already know, I am a fan of sarcasm and I found some in the Cyrsti's Condo comment box:

The first concerns my Mammogram post from Connie of course:

FABULOUSCONNIEDEEJanuary 4, 2018 at 9:17 PM

"Does this have anything to do with the old saying, "cold as a witch's tit?"

I just caught the advance forcast for next week when the "Mammy" is scheduled and the temperature is supposed to be near 50 degrees (f), so maybe we can leave the witch out of it! I hope :)

The most comments came from my recent "Thought of the Day":

Cyrsti's Condo "Thought of the Day"

"Just because you didn't see it, or hear it, does not mean it's not happening."

Jessiie(Cyrsti)

Transgender Congress Woman?

From Newsweek:

"In 2017, the U.S. elected its first ever openly transgender woman to the Virginia State House. In 2018, it might elect its first out transgender woman to Congress—Alexandra Chandler.

“I recognize that I would be a first, and I will say it is a humbling responsibility that I take very seriously both as a candidate and if elected that I would be a first,” Chandler, who's running for office in Massachusetts, told Newsweek.

Chandler was one of the military’s top intelligence analysts. She spent the past five years leading a team of analysts charged with combating arms smuggling and the proliferation of weapons of mass destruction. She’s the mother of two children, and a wife.

She also was born biologically male and raised by her family as a boy. She transitioned from living as a man to living as a woman while she was working at the Defense Department."

Wouldn't her election be great!

For more, go here.

No Trip for India

It didn't take long for Paula Goodwin (from the UK) to comment on the Cyrsti's Condo post concerning India Willoughby appearing on the UK version of "Celebrity Big Brother". Here is the comment:

Paula GoodwinJanuary 3, 2018 at 1:50 PM

"Thanks, but no thanks. This is a terrible show, playing to the lowest common denominator with the participants only being out for a bit of self promotion. India is our Caitlyn Jenner, a high profile Trans Woman who by her very presence helps to normalise the concept, but actually is not that popular amongst the community for some of her thoughtless comments."

Plus:

Transgender model Talulah-Eve Brown was rumored to be part of the Celebrity Big Brother line up, but dropped out after hearing her transgender rival India Willoughby was also set to take part.

And all this time, I thought we (the U.S.) had the corner on all the transgender drama!

Thanks Paula!

Home from the Doctor

I needed to take Liz's son to the doctor this morning, so I had to get up a bit early and make myself presentable. Fortunately anymore, the process doesn't take too long. Most times, just around 15 min to a half hour.

It's still really cold around here, so I had to bundle up in boots, jeans, sweater and heavy knitted scarf.

Not that I had much doubt, everything went as planned and Junior's visit did too.

Now, I have to schedule another mammogram. Since my maternal grand mother passed away from breast cancer, the VA is rather fanatical about scheduling me one every year. The good thing is, every year I seem to have more "mass" to scan. The bad thing is, where I go, is for some reason chilly in the place. It would seem like, the center would try to keep it warmer.

Overall though, I view a mammogram as a necessary hassle of my transgender transition. If I had my choice, I wouldn't do it, but I sure wouldn't want the alternative. 

Cyrsti's Condo "Thought of the Day"

"Just because you didn't see it, or hear it, does not mean it's not happening."

Jessie

There is Hope

After I received this Cyrsti's Condo comment from Paula Goodwin I got to thinking (scary):

Paula GoodwinJanuary 3, 2018 at 8:49 AM

"To miss quote Shakespeare it often appears from this side of the pond that "all in the house of the States is rotten. It is really good to hear that there are still positive things going on in the land that elects gun touting thugs se pests and bigots on purely partisan grounds. I will try to renew faith in "The Land of the Free"

To be truthful Paula, it is sometimes difficult to maintain the faith around here. Usually though, about that time, something comes along to restore my faith.

Even though IQ-45 (t-rump) is quickly trying to infiltrate the court system with anti-LGBT judges, the pro transgender forces now have a financed and experienced legal force of our own. Not to mention the political gains we mentioned in a recent Cyrsti's Condo post.

Most importantly though, are the pro LGBT leanings of the younger generation. If you put all the bullying news behind us, the future should be bright. If left unattended, the younger generation doesn't seem to see gender as specifically as we did.

As far as Congress and issues such as gun control go, I agree, the system is rotten to the core. Hopefully, those of us screaming in the vacuum will prevail.

The "Land of the Free" has been sliding for quite awhile now, with the proper care and people working within the system, it can again.