God Save the Queens!

Here it is kids...another drag queen fix for you on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

The Documentary of Drag

This is an interesting factual look at many of the good and "not so good" questions a "civilian" would ask a drag queen on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

A New "A" Word?

Well maybe this term is a little newer to me. In some senses it works into the post I wrote about being patronized as a transgender woman.
The word is Ally.  To split hairs, to be a transgender ally is great- if you do it right.  I can almost compare the idea to the much maligned trans admirers- without the sexual content.

However, since I did bring it up and I feel somewhat conflicted about handing someone a rule book on how to like me- I'm passing along a post from "The Thang Blog" called "How To Be a Better Ally to Trans Folks in Four Steps". Actually it's very well written and contains four very basic easy to understand ideas- including knowledge, becoming an activist, being an apostle for our trans culture and more.  (The apostle is my term not theirs and  I use it to describe a person who speaks up and carries a positive message to others.)

As I read the blog, even I quickly came to the realization "the four steps" do and don't apply to the patronizers I have encountered. For the most part these peeps are casual acquaintances who I wouldn't expect to care that much one way or another. I would however not hesitate to use the basic" four steps" at any meeting I went to with a majority of gay/lesbian members and "sympathizers".

I know deep down all these written rules and regulations are good in theory but I am of the opinion the main factor in building Ally's is my personal behavior.  Maybe I should  add a list of trans do's and don'ts similar to "Quotations from Chairman Mao"  to the contents of my purse everywhere I go. But then again, I have a hard enough time finding my keys in the "bottomless pits" anyhow. (I added a link for all you youngsters to Chairman Mao.)

Perhaps if I'm really good, I could actually add in a chapter or two on how admirers should admire. Explaining concepts such as the true meaning of what it means when a cross dresser says no men!!!  We could call the chapter "Cyrsti gets snarky. 

Seriously I do feel all of this discussion is good because it represents dedicated folk determined to spread the trans word in a constructive and positive nature. No matter how you cut it- a wonderful alternative to all of those who went into their stealth closets and did nothing.

What Would Woody Say?

Woody Hayes was an old school legendary football coach at The Ohio State University.  I would suspect he would not have supported this event...Go Bux!!!! and thanks Lynne!

From the Cyrsti's Condo Library

Who is Renee James?  Renee James is the pen name of a Chicago-area writer who lives in two genders. - and has written a book called "Coming Out Can Be Murder"

"Renee's book is the by-product of a fictional journal James wrote on business trips during her magazine editing years. The journal was a reflection on what her life might have been like if she had chosen to become a transsexual woman rather than marry and raise a family as a bi-gendered male. -"

Her effort has been highly praised and you can follow the link above for more information including purchasing.

The Writing is on the Wall- in the UK

In response to my Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day" post which touched on graffiti in men and woman's restrooms, Paula Gee came up with a few "classics" from the UK:



" I am something of a fan of graffiti , our UK version of the "Jesus saves" one is "and St John scores of the rebound" Ian St John being the Liverpool striker of the day, I have fond recollections of "My Mother made me Homosexual" then added later "If I gave her the wool would she make me one as well" and of course the classic during the Irish "troubles" "Free the Heinz 57" My all time favourite involved the old roller towel manufacture Advance who used to make a product called Towelmaster, so the graffiti read ADVANCE TOWEL MASTER "and be recognized""

Love it! Thanks Paula!

On the Cyrsti's Condo Big Screen

I grew more and more transfixed by the ups and downs of Emma in this YouTube video. Quite the in depth no holds barred look at her transition:

Happy Fourth of July!!!!

Justin Vivian Bond

Unbelievable! Here we are at the 4th of July already.

To paraphrase John Lennon, the country is another year older and what have we done?

Actually from his Happy Christmas: "So this is Christmas And what have you done Another year over And a new one just begun" I'm sure you get the point.

 I have decided to not pull  my soapbox out and going political on this occasion. Except to say even though our system does have it flaws, we still are maybe the world's best chance to lead by example.

On this 4th of July, let's raise a toast  and look at the strides our country could be on the verge of making if we keep up the fight!  When we do, our trans cup will indeed be half full. - A tasty enjoyable adult beverage for you on our nation's birthday.

Finally,  be careful not to burn a hole in your new summer blouse with a stray firecracker!!!

Here's hoping you have a safe and enjoyable fourth!

Welcome!

On occasion my ADD brain slows down enough to look around  here in Cyrsti's Condo and notice the number of followers we are adding, a couple of link requests and the number of comments I receive here and through my email.

As always I am flattered and humbled when you think enough to stop in!

Speaking of comments, I have a couple to pass along...the first comes from Angel who made me feel a little better concerning my "liquid" eyeliner paranoia from the Three Years of Work post


"Liquid eyeliner? I can hardly blame you! The first time I ever tried using eyeliner, it was liquid, and the result was so horrible that I was scared of it for a long time. Luckily, a girlfriend showed me the error of my ways and introduced me to the crayon type of eyeliner, which is so much more forgiving. I do use liquid eyeliner these days, but only occasionally, like when I want a more dramatic look... and have extra time, in case I make a mistake. Oh, I guess I should also say something about Elladonna. Hubby watched the video with me and we both agree... very nice."

Thanks Angel! After watching Elladonna's  video in what looks like her room- I wonder if she has ever been out?

The next comment comes from my "Bitchdom" post from Pat:
"It seems that more and more of us are getting out and about and mixing with the civilian population on a more and more regular basis. Nevertheless there is still a large level of lack of understanding when civilians encounter someone presenting in their non-natal gender.

There are many folks who think that they are liberal and open minded but their level of pandering and patronizing is just below the surface. My advise is to always work to be comfortable with yourself and let the pretenders wallow in their own thoughts. Keep a smile on your face and perhaps those you meet may learn a thing or two."

A little background on Pat's comment. She is one by her own admission may not present as the most attractive woman in the world but still loves to go out and enjoy herself and engage others. Her words are another very effective way to network your feminine self and open the door to a new circle of friends!!!!

Once again my appreciation to all of you!!!!