Happy Holidays!

 

Ralphie!

Happy Holidays to you and yours!

I hope those of you who have experienced close family losses because you came out to them as transgender are able to rebuild close ties with other non-blood more accepting people. They are out there and it sometimes takes a while to rebuild trust with other people with your feelings I know. Sometimes, you can find connections within your local LGBTQ organizations. I know, around here where I live that is the case when organizations host potlucks as well as Christmas parties for anyone who wants to come and be around others.

Also, as we are preparing to put 2025 behind us, we look to the holidays to provide hope for the future. 2026 will be a huge election year for example. It seems we are building a chance to put the political tragedies heaped upon us by a rotten president leading an equally rotten, spineless political party which has used the transgender community for everything evil in our country. It will take all of us, pulling together, to make a difference which is part of the holiday spirit. That is why I urge even the most closeted cross dresser to look out of their closet to a future of freedoms they may need later in life.

Happy Holidays to me also means thanking all of you who took the time to wish me the best this time of the year.

On Christmas Day, I will be binge watching “A Christmas Story” which hits so close to home for me. Other than the time period which it is filmed in which roughly matches my life, there is the story of “Ralphie” and his BB Gun. If you have never seen the movie, Ralphie is the child star of the show who desperately wants a BB Gun for Christmas. And the movie goes through all the trials and tribulations he goes through to receive one as a gift. Just when all seemed lost, and all the gifts were opened and Ralphie was dejected, when his father pulls out a brand-new Daisy BB Gun he had been hiding and then the fun began.

My major point to all of this is, I had a major role reversal with Ralphie and the BB Gun. You see, I never wanted a gun of any sort for Christmas and would much have wanted a nice doll baby or a new pretty dress. But there I was once again stuck in a male world I wanted nothing to do with.  That is why I am so enamored with “A Christmas Story” which goes right up there with the National Lampoon’s holiday classic with Chevy Chase as one of my favorites.

I know I am so fortunate to be spending my Christmas with my wife Liz who scooped me up off the trash heap of life I was on at the time when we met online over a decade ago. She was kind enough to accept some of my off-the-wall holiday traditions as well as me accepting hers. I guess that is the basis of a good relationship but one which worked out so well for me. Hopefully, you will find yourself in the same situation or will be in the upcoming year. It happened to me when I least expected it. 

In the meantime, here is wishing you and yours a safe and festive holiday season and don’t drink all of the high-powered eggnog which I used to do! Save some for someone else…It is Christmas!