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When I discovered my true gender issues that were disrupting my life, I needed to try to solve the problems they created.
In order to do it, I set out on a lifetime journey of
discovery. Like most of you, I began my explorations in my mom’s clothes and
even tried my hand with her makeup samples. My mirror often lied to me and told
me I presented as a pretty girl. Of course, in my pre-teen years before
testosterone began to change me, I had an easier time of looking the best I
could as a young girl.
When testosterone came along with puberty my problems became
real. At the same time, I was becoming better at hiding my collection of
feminine clothes I found and was able to buy from my meager allowance. I became
very resourceful when it came to my cross-dressing desires, as I even resorted
to a cheap Halloween costume wig to get me by for years until I could finally
afford to buy one.
As I chased my feminine tail from one close call to another
with my family, I wondered why I was cursed with the gender problems I had. In
addition, I felt as if I was the only one who had them. I was trapped in a male
dominated family who would never understand a boy who deeply wanted to be a
girl. My only choice was to keep trying the best I could to solve my problem.
It took me years to realize my so-called problem was more of
an opportunity than anything else. But first of all, I needed to face my
problem woman to man. No more of my second wife telling me to be man enough to
be a woman. It turned out, I was man enough to be a transgender woman, but it
was going to be a real battle. By this time in my life, I had accumulated quite
a bit of male privilege I knew I had to lose in order to be successful. Basically,
for a while, my female self’s main strengths where she felt so alive and
natural when given a chance to shine.
As she took advantage of her time in the public’s eye,
almost all of my problems seemed to melt away, and I began to feel having the
opportunity to experience both binary genders up close and personal in my life
was not a problem at all. I just made it one due to my inability to deal with
it. I just had too many gender obstacles to overcome. I had accumulated too
much male baggage I doubted I would ever be able to live without. It turned out,
I could live without most of them, and surprisingly, I could bring some of the
baggage along. My prime example was my lifetime love of sports, which I found a
group of cisgender women who were as serious about sports as I was, so I was
able to fit right in and even have fun.
The new and improved me proved I had lived most of my life
as a man as a lie. All the time I spent worrying about wearing dresses and
makeup was a waste of time. I had my whole life backwards. My wife was right; I
was not man enough to be a woman for the longest time. Once I was though, I
never looked back. I can’t say I was prepared for all the changes I was about
to make; I was excited about the opportunity I was given to make them. Which
most people never get.
It was certainly never a way to solve a problem; I learned the hard way.
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