"Jeni SkunkJanuary 14, 2018 at 5:53 PM
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| Chelsea Manning |
Thanks Jeni for this update.
As much as I would love to see another (or one) trans senator, I cannot support Chelsea Manning. As a transgender veteran, I just don't respect want she did.
Monday, January 15, 2018
Transgender Senatorial Run
In Maryland, former Army soldier, Chelsea Manning has announced her run for a Maryland Senate seat as Cyrsti's Condo reader Jeni Skunk pointed out in a comment:
"Jeni SkunkJanuary 14, 2018 at 5:53 PM
"Jeni SkunkJanuary 14, 2018 at 5:53 PM
Shock and Awe
A week ago, I began to transition my massive finances from one bank to another.
All went well, I thought with the very young "personal banker" who set my new account up.
The problems started though, when he asked if I had ever done business with the bank before. I said yes and the system took over.
As he worked out all the forms, they all had my correct new name on all the paper work. Naively, I was so proud of myself, until...
A week later my debit cards arrived in the mail. As I opened them, imagine my disappointment when they came imprinted with my old male name!
I recoiled in shock. I learned the hard way again how much I never wanted to see that name again.
I will be heading back to the bank today!
All went well, I thought with the very young "personal banker" who set my new account up.
The problems started though, when he asked if I had ever done business with the bank before. I said yes and the system took over.
As he worked out all the forms, they all had my correct new name on all the paper work. Naively, I was so proud of myself, until...
A week later my debit cards arrived in the mail. As I opened them, imagine my disappointment when they came imprinted with my old male name!
I recoiled in shock. I learned the hard way again how much I never wanted to see that name again.
I will be heading back to the bank today!
Sunday, January 14, 2018
Exceeding Trans Expectations?
For years I worked in a highly competitive industry in which, success was decided on a daily basis. What have you done for me lately was the rule.
As so often happens, by chance yesterday, Liz and I started talking about expectations and how they affect growing up transgender, or as a cross dresser. Being a cis woman, her idol for a long time was Christie Brinkley. Then of course, harsh reality set in and she learned she would never achieve the lofty heights of Brinkley's beauty.
As we compared mental notes, we began to connect the dots between growing up cis, versus transgender.
I said, Raquel Welch was, (and is) the cis woman of my dreams. I often wondered what I could ever give up to look like her for one day.
Like so many dreams, unrealistic expectations come and go, but if you are creative and persistent, realistic expectations can be achieved.
First of all, I had to learn what looking good (for a man in a dress) meant, then begin to discover the hard way what my positives were. Examples were, people told me I had wonderful eyes and I started to play them up. More importantly, I learned to dress for other women and not how my male self would view me. In other words, Raquel had to go away, to be replaced by the desire to blend in with other women around me.
As I achieved it, I started to relax my expectations of how I looked and began in earnest to discover my full personality as a transgender woman.
To my surprise, over time, I couldn't believe the expectations I did achieve.
Sorry Raquel, still love you. Just not as much :).
As so often happens, by chance yesterday, Liz and I started talking about expectations and how they affect growing up transgender, or as a cross dresser. Being a cis woman, her idol for a long time was Christie Brinkley. Then of course, harsh reality set in and she learned she would never achieve the lofty heights of Brinkley's beauty.
As we compared mental notes, we began to connect the dots between growing up cis, versus transgender.
I said, Raquel Welch was, (and is) the cis woman of my dreams. I often wondered what I could ever give up to look like her for one day.
Like so many dreams, unrealistic expectations come and go, but if you are creative and persistent, realistic expectations can be achieved.
First of all, I had to learn what looking good (for a man in a dress) meant, then begin to discover the hard way what my positives were. Examples were, people told me I had wonderful eyes and I started to play them up. More importantly, I learned to dress for other women and not how my male self would view me. In other words, Raquel had to go away, to be replaced by the desire to blend in with other women around me.
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| Raquel Welch |
To my surprise, over time, I couldn't believe the expectations I did achieve.
Sorry Raquel, still love you. Just not as much :).
Saturday, January 13, 2018
How Many of us do Blackface?
I am sure many "Terf's" or feminists who want to exclude us out of hand from any feminine discussion, would also want to group all of us into one group (transgender, cross dressers and drag queens) into one category, and say yes.
Internally though, we know that is not true and the answer is so much more complex. Blackface by definition is a form of theatrical makeup by primarily non black performers to represent a black person. So drag queens by definition could fall into a similar definition. Primarily gay cis males who use forms of makeup to represent women.
From there on, the comparison gets murky.
Cross dressers, are primarily "straight" cis men who often are feeding a deep seated need to look like cis-women. You can draw your own conclusions if that is a form of "black face" or not. The old term "transvestite" can also be applied here, if you like.
Finally, when you consider transgender women, "black face" should not enter into the conversation at all.
Being over simplistic on purpose, trans women want to do much more than just look like cis-women, they want to live like one. The deep seated need to live a feminine life often takes over one's life, even to the point of ending a life if nothing can be done. Insert, transsexual here if you would like.
My difference between the two is ideally a transsexual woman (or man) deeply desires to have genital surgery to complete their gender identity, where as a transgender person is more content to live the life of a gender they weren't born into. With or without surgery.
At any rate, I thought the "blackface" discussion was a thought provoking one.
Internally though, we know that is not true and the answer is so much more complex. Blackface by definition is a form of theatrical makeup by primarily non black performers to represent a black person. So drag queens by definition could fall into a similar definition. Primarily gay cis males who use forms of makeup to represent women.
From there on, the comparison gets murky.
Cross dressers, are primarily "straight" cis men who often are feeding a deep seated need to look like cis-women. You can draw your own conclusions if that is a form of "black face" or not. The old term "transvestite" can also be applied here, if you like.
Finally, when you consider transgender women, "black face" should not enter into the conversation at all.
Being over simplistic on purpose, trans women want to do much more than just look like cis-women, they want to live like one. The deep seated need to live a feminine life often takes over one's life, even to the point of ending a life if nothing can be done. Insert, transsexual here if you would like.
My difference between the two is ideally a transsexual woman (or man) deeply desires to have genital surgery to complete their gender identity, where as a transgender person is more content to live the life of a gender they weren't born into. With or without surgery.
At any rate, I thought the "blackface" discussion was a thought provoking one.
Cyrsti's Condo "Quote of the Day"
From the Archives
"When you feel that rope getting a little tighter around your neck...make sure it matches the rest of your outfit!"
A "blast" from my past!
A "blast" from my past!
Not True!
It turns out, Trans Big Brother star Rebekah Shelton is NOT dead, and was the victim of hacking
Rebekah Shelton implies she was hacked by someone she knew who 'cannot accept the fact I'm happy'
12 January 2018 by Joe Morgan and David Hudson
Trans Big Brother star Rebekah Shelton is not dead, as she confirms in a video she was a victim of hacking.
The fake news was announced on her Twitter yesterday evening.
‘Please stop spreading this news that I am dead because I am obviously not,’ she said in her hotel room.
Rebekah Shelton implies she was hacked by someone she knew who 'cannot accept the fact I'm happy'
12 January 2018 by Joe Morgan and David Hudson
Trans Big Brother star Rebekah Shelton is not dead, as she confirms in a video she was a victim of hacking.
The fake news was announced on her Twitter yesterday evening.
‘Please stop spreading this news that I am dead because I am obviously not,’ she said in her hotel room.
Thanks to Stana from Femulate also for pointing this out!
Rebekah Shelton
This sad news was just released:
Transgender UK Big Brother star Rebekah Shelton has died at the young age of 32.
Rebekah, who shot to fame on the 2009 series of the reality TV show pre-transition, passed away on Wednesday.
The sad news was announced on her Twitter page in the early hours of Friday morning.
"We’re sorry to inform everyone of the sad news that our wonderful and lovely Rebekah died unexpectedly on Wednesday night," the tweet read.
Rest in Power!
Friday, January 12, 2018
Astrology Fashion Sense
A site I haven't featured in awhile here in Cyrsti's Condo is Deborah Boland's Fabulous AFTER 40.
Of course I was initially attracted to it because I may just be a tad over 40!
This week, several features attracted my attention, including:
Zodiac Styles for Aquarius and Capricorn signs, Chic on the Cheap with tips on building a "Wow" wardrobe on a budget and ways to "Dump the Frump"and jump start your style.
As Stana from Femulate always points out, fashion sense for most doesn't come naturally and whatever you can do to discover and establish a personal style, will help you so much in the world of women.
Plus it's common knowledge we transgender women have to work harder to look presentable. Preferably while not looking like we are trying that hard!
Fabulous AFTER 40, offers a news letter plus more than a few "help books" you can purchase. Which can help you turn that "Oh No!" moment in the mirror into an "Oh Yeah!"
Of course I was initially attracted to it because I may just be a tad over 40!
This week, several features attracted my attention, including:
Zodiac Styles for Aquarius and Capricorn signs, Chic on the Cheap with tips on building a "Wow" wardrobe on a budget and ways to "Dump the Frump"and jump start your style.
As Stana from Femulate always points out, fashion sense for most doesn't come naturally and whatever you can do to discover and establish a personal style, will help you so much in the world of women.
Plus it's common knowledge we transgender women have to work harder to look presentable. Preferably while not looking like we are trying that hard!
Fabulous AFTER 40, offers a news letter plus more than a few "help books" you can purchase. Which can help you turn that "Oh No!" moment in the mirror into an "Oh Yeah!"
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Washington Post - Saturday 2018-01-13
Chelsea Manning files to run for U.S. Senate in Maryland
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/md-politics/chelsea-manning-files-to-run-for-us-senate-in-maryland/2018/01/13/6439f0d0-f88c-11e7-beb6-c8d48830c54d_story.html?utm_term=.146b4a5ae5a5
Chelsea E. Manning, the transgender former Army private who was convicted of passing sensitive government documents to WikiLeaks, is seeking to run for the U.S. Senate in Maryland, according to federal election filings.
Manning would be challenging Democrat Benjamin L. Cardin, who is in his second term in the Senate and is up for reelection in November. Cardin is Maryland’s senior senator and is considered an overwhelming favorite to win a third term."