Dating Yourself? A Cyrsti's Condo Archive Post

I posted this in January 2013:

"Maybe I should say-would you date your old male self? I saw this question on a YouTube video and was fascinated. I have asked here in Cyrsti's Condo would you be the kind of daughter Mom would like or even would you be the kind of girl she would like to see her son bring home? Back to the question, would I date me? For no particular egotistical reason I would say yes.

As with so many other young men in my circles, sports and cars dominated my existence so as a young woman I would have had to expect it and adjust. I worked and had an income so as a young woman I could go with me and have interesting dates. (Or at least get out of the house!) I suppose I was reasonable looking and smart enough to be headed to college so there were worse guys to be seen with. Drawbacks? As any male, past and present-old and young-I had an ego.

Picture from two summers ago with wig.

In fact as a transgender woman I deal with it now with any men I meet. To think genetic women don't learn to deal with the game all their lives is crazy. Some just do it better than others and one way or another I would have had been socialized to the experience. I was never a dating "superstar" and I certainly didn't fall into the "bad boy" category which genetic women supposedly are drawn to. Ironically the reason I wouldn't date me is because of my gender alignments. The ripping and tearing of my male and female sides made life miserable for me and all around me at times. As I got older, I also turned to self medication in the form of alcohol for the most part and considered myself rather "non civilized" following seven consecutive years in college and the Army.

Perhaps the women who did date and marry me felt the basic female need to nurture and change me? The only thing I do know is my wife of 25 years said several times she saw the basic good in me under the turmoil thank God!

 At any rate, it's a fun and interesting question for all of us to ponder-trans women or trans men. The next time you pull out the mirror to admire or dislike your image, try looking past the mirror and take a better look at yourself. The process may just make you a better woman or man."

Do Blondes Have More Fun?

Depends on the blond, right? Cross dresser or not, check out this blond on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Note from Cyrsti...you really have to stick with this video to see how amazing he looks at the end.  I almost went to sleep during the eye make up portion. Then again I have a short attention span but I was dazzled by his skill and attention to detail with makeup.  Not learned overnight I'm sure.  Plus from the look in his eyes at the end, I'm not sure he knew what to do with the finished product.

Ines Rau

Oh, by the way, she is transgender!






Ines recently came out and said she was inspired by "Tula". Other wise known as famous "007" Bond Girl Caroline Cossey seen -below.

When Is a Book Bag A Purse?

I was confused. I was under the impression our country and the world as a whole has some fairly serious problems, say like global warming.

Things must be different in Garnett, Kansas and a kid now is finding out what really is important.  The 13-year-old Kansas eighth-grader says he was suspended from school on Wednesday because he refused to take off his Vera Bradley purse.

That's huge! What's next? Mass social upheaval? The next thing we know the kid will want to wear a dress to school.  Forget about global warming or the lack of health insurance, life as we know it will end! Don't worry though, there was a transphobic busy body lurking in the shadows to make a non call on this and save the world.


Rest easily kids, the revolutionary, anti social  kid has been bagged and suspended.

For a much better perspective on this go here.

Cross Dressing in Cyrsti's Condo!

No, not me silly's although I will be cross dressed as a guy today, as I do "manual labor" around the Condo.

This cross dressing is being done by Dana on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Maria Roman

Maria Roman began her transition in Reno, Nevada at the age of 19 - after all the years she spent enduring the struggle all transgender women and men know all too well.

Transgender Film

If you happen to be in the area, check this out on the Cyrsti's Condo big screen:

Nicole Gibson

Transsexual model Nicole Gibson from the UK:

"Mo Mail!"

Regular contributors Pat and Paula both took the time to comment on the  Cyrsti's Condo Big or Small T.

From Paula:  "Transgender people come from all areas of society, all professions, all strata all ability, and all character. We pretty much reflect all of the society which spawned us. It is therefore inevitable that we will also reflect a wide range of political views, tolerance levels and attitudes. Just because we share this one thing there is no reason to expect that we will share others. The difference comes when we are rejected and hurt by those who we look to for help and support"

From Pat:  "One of the first things that all of us should know is that "One Size Fits All" cannot describe the entire "T" community any better than "One Size Fits All" pantyhose can work for all size bodies. I agree that All men are created equal but that in that general equality we also must respect that every person is different from every other person and that we are all entitled to respect.

 We all have our own individual issues to address. Some of us are old, others young...some large sized, others petite...some have the need to surgically transition, others are comfortable with the occasional cross gender expressions. There are no clear right and wrong people...only people marching to their own different drummer. We are all entitled to respect, freedom and liberty."

Of course of you are spot on. Without going too deep into beating a dead horse around here again, I think there a couple possible sources which these problems stem from.

1.- "Male ego hangover" ...SRS and the resultant pain and expense entitles a person to an exalted spot in a community.  Not unlike a successful job may get a guy a better membership at a country club.

2.- Frustration...very simply not being "fulfilled" by the operation and thinking it may have been a mistake.

3.- Society is changing...slowly but surely the public is learning you don't have to have SRS to live as a woman. Too late for too many older TS women who may think they could have done as much  with less pain and expense.

4.- Appearance...For some unfortunately, all the surgery in the world won't make them into the beautiful woman of their dreams. Same old story, very difficult to buy respect in the world as woman. I can't think of how excruciating it would be to go through all of that to still get harassed by the world.

Please know these are sweeping stereotypes and just opinions and I am far from an expert. I only wish each person to find what satisfaction and happiness they can on whatever level possible.  Referring back to the Carmen Carerra video as she talked about how happy she was, I think it's natural to think her happiness is tied in to her beauty, not her life.

Bottom line is as the girls above said, respect, freedom and liberty should be the standards of a multi layered transgender community.