Transgendered Mid-Life Crisis?

I have heard of more than a few transgendered women who have said something "clicked" in them and they began their cross gender journey.
The vast majority of the trans folks I know though knew at an early age there was something "different" in their perception of the gender world.
I'm over 60 and several of my best friends over the years believe my "mid-life" crisis started when I was crying over a beer on my 30th birthday.
Transgendered or not, I believe 30 is the hardest birthday. Like it or not, youth is behind you and mid life is lurking around a not too distant future.
Using myself as an example, I knew I was becoming more than a "weekend crossdresser". I was experiencing a growing dissatisfaction with my feelings as a transgendered person. Just putting on women's clothes just didn't cut it anymore.
I know I'm no different than many of you. Other not so minor happenings in your life such as kids, career, spouse and mortgage become equally distracting.
During this period, transgendered or transsexual leanings are often buried very deeply.
As mid-life approaches, our pressures increase to an often intolerable rate. "It's now or never" becomes a real possibility  as you begin to speculate on the number of days you have left in this life.
All of the sudden, being a husband, provider and "Good Old Dad" isn't enough and the guilt sets in.
Was your life worth being dishonest about your transgendered leanings over the years worth it?  Now are you not only considering a gender change you are considering your own basic truths. You may have lived an upstanding honest life except for this?
The unlucky ones commit suicide at this point. The lucky ones discover a support structure they never dreamed of.
Then, there some like me. Life or destiny or whatever stripped me of nearly everything dear and gave me a real midlife crisis. At the center of the vacuum sat my choice of gender. It was my choice to go the direction I felt most comfortable doing. Somehow my karma told me if I did go the female path I would need to pay the process forward to others or fail.So here I am for the most part looking back at my mid life crisis and trying desperately for words of wisdom.
Here we go:
There is no easy answer to the mid life monster staring you down.
IF you can get out and explore any part of a feminine existence outside of your house DO IT! Try not to make any assumptions of what you think and assume living as a woman maybe like.  For the most part you will be wrong.
Seek a therapist if you are sure everyone in your life will reject you and then maybe hold therapy as an option with a spouse- after you tell her.
Stay out of WalMart and malls in a tiny mini skirt and 4" heels.
Most importantly, follow your soul. Don't assume it is damaged after all the years hiding yourself from everyone. And-
"May the force be with you!"

Quite Possibly One of the Best Posts I've Seen.

Rarely have I read someone who puts the Trans-profiling dilemma in such concise and concrete words.
Go here to read it!
Here's a clue. The post comes from "Stana" at "Femulate" of course!

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I'm just passing it along and wanted to be politically correct. But-
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Of course all of you Canadians noticed this happened in your country. It could never happen in the United States!
 Just kidding!

Transgender Documentary's "Big Tailia"

We posted the trailer from the "Big Tailia" documentary here a week ago and this "YouTube" cut from the movie itself was passed along to me. In the video the trans woman talks about working in the sex industry.
She was born a boy in Israel and now lives in Northern Thailand.
Unfortunately, her story is familiar to the entire transgendered culture. A life as a prostitute was one of the very few offered.

More JC Penny's

The post entitled "Is J.C. Penny's" Transphobic?" generated quite a bit of interest here as well as elsewhere.
This comment from "Annah" is very enlightening and I thought worth re-posting it on it's own:

"as a formal employee, I have to say with a big resounding NO that JC Penney is not trans phobic.

When I was hired there, they did everything in their power (before my name was legally changed) to keep my legal name confidential. Everything was set up to accommodate me. They went above and beyond their own experiences to help me.

People need to be careful when a person offends them to not put the blame on an entire company.

JC Penney rates 100% on the LGBT equality index.

I would contact a manager rather than assuming they are inconsiderate to trans people.

This isn't just coming from my own opinions, but this is coming from a person who worked there up until December 2011."

Thanks so much for contributing such an insightful comment.  That was why I specifically was careful not to indite the entire company!

Sexy Business Cards!

Several times over the past several years I have considered carrying a business card. A more realistic description would be a "personal" card.
Ideally I could use it when someone just can't stand it until they know more about my gender identity etc. The card would direct them here.
As in most things, I found out others are thinking ahead of me!
Check out this idea from "theFrisky":
There’s nothing worse than meeting Person Whose Job You Want at a party and not having any way to contact them again, foiling your plans to kidnap them and slurp up their brains. An up-and-coming career lady such as yourself has got to have business cards and if your field lets you be quirky, go with it! We think these two-sided cards featuring a retro lady lingerie do the trick. Just be very, very clear your actual profession is not a lady of the night. [$56 for 100, Etsy]

Is Worrying Hormonal?

Looking back at the genetic women who were close to me in my life, they were all worriers to some extent.
As I approach the first three months of my hormonal change, I seem to be worrying more than I have ever in my entire life.
I have wondered recently if my increased level of worrying may be a product of the hormones as much as my sore breasts?
With the vast experience of all of you, I'm sure more than a few of you can lend some expertise.
Along the same subject of experience, perhaps you have heard of the transsexual woman who was denied drink specials on "Ladies' Night" at a  Florida bar. Here's the story from the "Tampa Bay Times".
"Alex Borrego walked into Bishop Tavern and Lounge with friends Thursday night looking for an evening of fun.
At the door, a bouncer invited Borrego and one of her friends — a drag queen — to partake in free drinks as part of the Tavern's weekly "ladies night." But later, as the pair sipped vodka and cranberry juice from their pink cups, another bouncer approached.
"You guys don't get to participate," they were told. "Because you're dudes."
Borrego, whose driver's license lists her gender as female, showed her ID, but the bouncer was unrelenting.
A heated dispute ensued. Words were exchanged. And the group left the bar.
Afterward, a few in Borrego's group, which included three female-to-male transgender people, launched a Facebook campaign to boycott Bishop Tavern and Lounge, 260 First Ave. N.
The group understood the bar's denial of her friend's participation in "ladies night," Borrego said. But as a legal woman, her treatment was nothing short of discrimination, she said.
Borrego was born male, but went through two years' worth of hormone adjustment and gender-change measures to become female.
"Legally, I'm a woman," Borrego said. "And to deny me to participate in ladies night — that's very disrespectful."
By midday Friday, the Facebook group had attracted more than 250 fans, who issued messages of support for the boycott.
The controversy quickly caught the attention of Dean Marshlack, owner of Bishop Tavern and Lounge, who got in touch with Borrego and her friends Friday and apologized profusely.
"Our staff, in my opinion, didn't do anything with the intent to harm somebody," Marshlack said. "I don't think the bouncer's statement came from a place that was meant to be harmful. I think it came from a place of being misinformed."
Marshlack said he plans to speak with his staff about the incident and ensure that from now on, transgender people will be treated with respect. The Tavern also wants to work with the community to raise awareness of transgender issues.
Late Friday, a public apology was also posted on the Facebook and Twitter pages for Bishop Tavern and Lounge."

Has this ever happened to you? Personally, I have only been in the situation once and was served the discount beverages without a comment. This not a statement of how I may have presented. It is a statement that it happened.  
So for once I have no interesting story. I'm sure many of you do! 

Transsexual Bride

Ms Jessie Chung, a transsexual, married Mr Joshua Beh in a ceremony in Sarawak, Malaysia.

AND

Andrej Pejic (of course) and you thought he couldn't look any better? 

And 

On "Trannsnation.com" watch an equally amazing "Miss Tiffany Thailand" Transsexual Beauty Contest

"Ya Think?"

I am the first to admit I post my "horrorscope" just when it is amazingly correct or is amusing or both.
I just loved this one!
Libra (September 23- October 22)
"You’ve got a freak inside of you and this week, it’ll be screaming to get out and try new things. So, drop the good girl routine and let that naughty side of you come out to play. Sure, this might only be a temporary phase, but whatever adventures you partake in now will last you a lifetime."  "Ya Think?"
I'm on the "Frisky.com" email list and the site has a lot of other neat "girl stuff" too!