Perhaps you have heard of the LGBTQ community (individuals) being called "The Family." During my seemingly huge leave of absence around here, I ran directly into my fair share and maybe some of yours too of family.
Beginning Thursday morning (I won't say bright) I had an another appointment with my VA therapist. For what ever reason she couldn't be there so I did a "walk in" which left me to the highest bidder. Or biggest loser. My appointment though was anything close to a loss when I quickly discovered I was talking to a real live transgender doctor at the VA.
Of course I was geeking and trying to keep my mind on the subject of why I was there to start with-me and I never grow tired of talking on the subject.
Plus, part of the discussion just had to center on coming out stories and the world at large now for transgender women and transgender men.
Maybe I will have to look around a little closer the next time I am seeing a new Doc!
Saturday, May 7, 2016
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Finding a Transgender Friendly Place Archive Post
May 2013: Did I get your attention with this title? Actually it's one of the bigger questions I get on a regular basis. Over the years I have tried to over think this process and come up with complex answers I can't even follow.
Last night though, in a rare moment of brilliance- my transgender spirit guide said "listen dummy, you find your own places by just going there."
I thought for a moment a said "wow spirit peep you are on to something!"
Think about it, we all have the power to help a place to become transgender friendly. But of course there are rules:
One of the biggest misconceptions is that all gay venues are trans friendly. The truth of the matter is you have to educate them the same as any other place. They just don't know us. Recent surveys have indicated that only 10% of the population has met a transgender person-change that!
Shopping of almost any kind should be a given. After all you are spending money with the merchant. You can also endear yourself if you don't treat women the way they treat each other. If you don't know, listen sometime.
Which brings me to what I assume are common sense points:
1- Never Assume your experience is going to be a bad one and be a bitch. With that attitude you will be right. More than likely you will give yourself and the rest of your trans sisters and brothers a bad start.
2.-Mind your own Business, be pleasant and TIP well when you are in a service situation. You will indeed make a good impression.
3.-Go Back. Maybe not common sense but a good point. If you become a good customer, you will be remembered and even protected in certain situations.
4.-Communicate. I learned this one the hard way. When you don't talk to people they assume the worst about you. So what if you don't think you have the sexiest female voice around. Not using your best effort will hurt you more in the long run.
Last but certainly not least, rest room and dressing room usage.
Very iffy and very sensitive. Too big of a subject to be covered here except to say I do have one definite standard. When I'm a great regular customer in the places I go-I can get my restroom privileges. Employees and managers get used to me using the women's room. BUT any "civilian" (not an employee) can change that in an instant with a complaint. The last thing I want to do is cause a scene. Years ago a male manager at one of my regular haunts revoked my rest room card. I simply went up the street and established myself at a competitor. About 6 months later, he got fired and a few of the employees who were still there came and invited me back. How nice was that?
Finally, YOU have the power to enable a place to become transgender friendly. Just don't go dressing all crazy, acting like an idiot and being a poor citizen. You will just ruin it for all of us.
Last night though, in a rare moment of brilliance- my transgender spirit guide said "listen dummy, you find your own places by just going there."
I thought for a moment a said "wow spirit peep you are on to something!"
Think about it, we all have the power to help a place to become transgender friendly. But of course there are rules:
One of the biggest misconceptions is that all gay venues are trans friendly. The truth of the matter is you have to educate them the same as any other place. They just don't know us. Recent surveys have indicated that only 10% of the population has met a transgender person-change that!
Shopping of almost any kind should be a given. After all you are spending money with the merchant. You can also endear yourself if you don't treat women the way they treat each other. If you don't know, listen sometime.
Which brings me to what I assume are common sense points:
1- Never Assume your experience is going to be a bad one and be a bitch. With that attitude you will be right. More than likely you will give yourself and the rest of your trans sisters and brothers a bad start.
2.-Mind your own Business, be pleasant and TIP well when you are in a service situation. You will indeed make a good impression.
3.-Go Back. Maybe not common sense but a good point. If you become a good customer, you will be remembered and even protected in certain situations.
4.-Communicate. I learned this one the hard way. When you don't talk to people they assume the worst about you. So what if you don't think you have the sexiest female voice around. Not using your best effort will hurt you more in the long run.
Last but certainly not least, rest room and dressing room usage.
Very iffy and very sensitive. Too big of a subject to be covered here except to say I do have one definite standard. When I'm a great regular customer in the places I go-I can get my restroom privileges. Employees and managers get used to me using the women's room. BUT any "civilian" (not an employee) can change that in an instant with a complaint. The last thing I want to do is cause a scene. Years ago a male manager at one of my regular haunts revoked my rest room card. I simply went up the street and established myself at a competitor. About 6 months later, he got fired and a few of the employees who were still there came and invited me back. How nice was that?
Finally, YOU have the power to enable a place to become transgender friendly. Just don't go dressing all crazy, acting like an idiot and being a poor citizen. You will just ruin it for all of us.
M.I.A
This week is "poke and prod" week at the Veterans Administration for me so I may not be able to come up up with a couple new posts, so I might dig down in the ol' files and come up with a couple archived posts.
But first, I can't help but mention the political passing of Ted Cruz (although like any villain he never really goes away.) I was really pleased in the morning yesterday when I heard one of his television ads in Cincinnati compare Clinton/Trump to "two peas in a pod" because they "approve men using the women's room." What a jerk, certainly he doesn't really believe his own scary rhetoric, and it turned out maybe "The Donald" didn't either. Trump is probably the most surprised person in his room that he has gotten this far.
And Bobbie just passed this along on Facebook to me that Prez Obama is preparing some sort of anti hate speech. So never a dull moment as they say.
But first, I can't help but mention the political passing of Ted Cruz (although like any villain he never really goes away.) I was really pleased in the morning yesterday when I heard one of his television ads in Cincinnati compare Clinton/Trump to "two peas in a pod" because they "approve men using the women's room." What a jerk, certainly he doesn't really believe his own scary rhetoric, and it turned out maybe "The Donald" didn't either. Trump is probably the most surprised person in his room that he has gotten this far.
And Bobbie just passed this along on Facebook to me that Prez Obama is preparing some sort of anti hate speech. So never a dull moment as they say.
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