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As another Thanksgiving approaches, it is time again to give thanks to all of you.
I know the holidays are a difficult and lonely time for many
of us in the transgender community and many of us have reached out to non-blood
acquaintances to fill the void we lost from an unapproving family. I make no
secret of the problems I faced with my only brother on Thanksgiving over a
decade ago.
I was just coming out of my gender dysphoric closet and
needed to tell what was left of my family about my desire to live as a woman.
It just so happened; my timing was perfect as the holidays were right around
the corner. Rather than just show up as my transgender self, I decided to do
the right thing and ask my brother and sister-in-law if they still wanted me to
come to dinner. I was quite naïve at the time and was riding the high I felt
when I received an all-out acceptance from my daughter.
I should have known better when the Thanksgiving door was
rudely slammed in my face and I was told it was best not to come. I should have
known better that my brother would not stand up for me in the face of strong disapproval
from his rightwing Southern Baptist in laws. Pressure was thicker than blood
with him and we both went on our separate ways. I have not talked to him since
and have not missed the interaction.
As I said, my daughter, along with my future wife Liz
stepped up in a major way. Not only was I invited to one family function, but I
was also invited to two and I had plenty of turkey to eat.
I hope something like my experience has happened to you. Perhaps
in the meantime, you have found non-blood friends to fill the family void you
lost from rejection. Sadly, Liz’s dad has passed away and her only brother
wants nothing to do with Thanksgiving, so the only dinner we are going to is at
my daughter’s mother-in-law's up in Dayton, Ohio. For the first time in many
years, her son is supposed to come along so it will make it a family get together.
In many ways, I feel as though I have all you regular
visitors to the blog as family also. As you have read along with me, I feel you
know more about me than most anyone else. In fact, my daughter set me up with a
book writing subscription service so I could write about my life to my family
after I am gone. I am at question number eighty-one so far.
I hope in many ways; this beginning of the holiday season
brings a festive start for all of you. If you are traveling, be careful and
make it safely to your destination.
Once again, thank you for joining me here for my journey no
matter where you are.
