Those of us who have a spouse who has been along for the transgender journey, very quickly we should learn the spouse occupies a very important position in our transition.
I have always believed a spouses reaction to her partner's new life is a crucial factor in if the relationship is going to survive. After all, the cis woman is stuck in the middle of what turns out to be often a very selfish endeavor. She gets to watch in person the gender transition of her spouse, for better or for worse. Just think of all the cis women who have been pressured to help in the cross dressing urges with clothes and make up.
I write pressure because of the urgency to present as a realistic women as possible. Obviously it takes a special person to accompany her spouse down a feminine path and I have an example.
Her name is Veronica and her spouse is actually a nearby acquaintance of mine. Her name is Jade, and here is one of the most awesome messages I have ever read:
"So when I first came out as trans to my wife, she was so supportive and amazing. The thing I remember most about that conversation was when she looked at me and said, "You know I'm not gay, but I'll be gay for you." I love you to the moon and back!"
Isn't that great? Wow! This is Jayde:
I personally have been on both sides of the spousal situation, from very bad to very good. Which I will explore in an upcoming post.
In the meantime, thanks to Veronica and Jayde for sharing in this extraordinary post!!!