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I wasn't under the impression that going to Vietnam would man me up, either. I was, at that time, successfully suppressing my feminine self, assuming that it was never to return. I had already learned how to show the world the man (the man I had concluded I was supposed to be). The enemy I would have faced in battle was lesser than the enemy I battled from within. I thought (and still think) that I would have made a good soldier, but I also would have been a dead one. The same false bravado I was exhibiting in my effort to suppress my femininity would have been amped up on the battlefield. Even if I had somehow managed to avoid being killed, the experience would have broken me emotionally - walking dead. Some hero/sum zero, so to speak.
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