This post was actually written in 2014:
I was talking to Missy the other day (my deceased wife's sister) about one of her boy friends "just happening" to have a couple dresses and women's underwear stashed in the back of his closet. She was waiting for me to "anoint" him as a cross dresser, or something.
The whole conversation brings up and interesting point which we haven't steered clear of here on occasion in Cyrsti's Condo. How good is our "trans-dar" and once we come out to a genetic woman, how much better does her's become?
I know Pat has commented about her wife many times as I have about my deceased wife and current partner Liz. It's a pretty simple deal. Genetic women are simply going to have a heightened sense of who may have entered their girls sandbox. They were born into it as females. No contest!
Now, as more and more of us come out of the closet as Paula Goodwin commented: "as we stop hiding one side of ourselves they (the sides) stop being separate to the rest of our lives. I see that Stana is now going to stamp shows as well as Radio Conventions, as we all do more and more the "Gender" bit just becomes part of who we are (just like everybody else)." It's much easier for a genetic woman to have that "aha" moment when their trans dar goes off. Even if it is wrong.
When we do come out to a woman around us that we know, they begin to see "shadows" on occasion. All of a sudden, that guy they dated way back when or the cousin who came to visit just may have been a cross dresser? To be sure, those guys may have been. We all know there are far more cross dressers buried deep in closets than anyone knows about.
Plus, as I told Missy, there are so many different levels to our community, it's hard for us to keep track. One man's cross dressing may be as simple as wearing panties and bra under his suit to work, all the way to transforming himself into that attractive well dressed "woman" you pass at the mall.
These days, I am careful to mention two things. One, does it matter if the man has a simple attraction to feminine clothes or two, if he has more than an attraction be sure to keep an eye on him. Most of us are
facing a highly emotional, difficult, up hill battle if we transition. She will need all the help she can get!