Will You Take Half a Man-Part Two
I have received several very good comments to my recent Cyrsti's Condo post concerning a recent coming out to a genetic woman in my family.
The point I don't think she ever really understood- was why I wasn't sexually attracted to men, now or ever. Believe me, I have wondered about that too. In my past, I have "made out" with guys and kissed a few who bothered not to stand me up on a date...or even didn't spit on the floor after they kissed me...really? All of that aside, all I can say is-the spark just isn't there. Say what you want (and more than a few will), identifying as a trans lesbian puts me even a notch lower on the mythical "I'm more Trans than you" scale. The fact remains, I'm way past that kind of criticism and I know the rather archaic idea of a man dictating the femininity of a woman wouldn't play well to any of my lesbian and most of my straight women friends. As Marion commented though:
These are questions that many in the cis-gendered world do not have a clue about. They think that gender presentation and identification are related to gender preference. And until they see that these are separate, we have a lot of educating before us....
Education indeed is the key word and it is happening more than we know. In fact, my family friend ( to my surprise) had a real grasp of what a transgender woman was all about, from a couple of television shows she had seen. More importantly, her grasp wasn't a negative one. Just because she had problems understanding the gender versus sexuality concept didn't make the experience any worse. I sometimes don't think many in the transgender - cross dressing community have it figured out either.
So, I think by now all of you know I was happy with the experience. In a future post, I will have to pull a few coming out excerpts from my "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" book .
Speaking of the book, I do have several readers who took the time to leave wonderful reviews such as Don and Mindy. I'm so insecure, I was afraid to even look!!! If you follow the Amazon link on the upper right hand side of the blog, you can buy it for your Kindle.
Finally, Jen said it best (instead of a half a man) I think it's more like two for the price of one, or maybe "get this special bonus" if you act before midnight :-)
The point I don't think she ever really understood- was why I wasn't sexually attracted to men, now or ever. Believe me, I have wondered about that too. In my past, I have "made out" with guys and kissed a few who bothered not to stand me up on a date...or even didn't spit on the floor after they kissed me...really? All of that aside, all I can say is-the spark just isn't there. Say what you want (and more than a few will), identifying as a trans lesbian puts me even a notch lower on the mythical "I'm more Trans than you" scale. The fact remains, I'm way past that kind of criticism and I know the rather archaic idea of a man dictating the femininity of a woman wouldn't play well to any of my lesbian and most of my straight women friends. As Marion commented though:
These are questions that many in the cis-gendered world do not have a clue about. They think that gender presentation and identification are related to gender preference. And until they see that these are separate, we have a lot of educating before us....
Education indeed is the key word and it is happening more than we know. In fact, my family friend ( to my surprise) had a real grasp of what a transgender woman was all about, from a couple of television shows she had seen. More importantly, her grasp wasn't a negative one. Just because she had problems understanding the gender versus sexuality concept didn't make the experience any worse. I sometimes don't think many in the transgender - cross dressing community have it figured out either.
So, I think by now all of you know I was happy with the experience. In a future post, I will have to pull a few coming out excerpts from my "Stiletto's on Thin Ice" book .
Speaking of the book, I do have several readers who took the time to leave wonderful reviews such as Don and Mindy. I'm so insecure, I was afraid to even look!!! If you follow the Amazon link on the upper right hand side of the blog, you can buy it for your Kindle.
Finally, Jen said it best (instead of a half a man) I think it's more like two for the price of one, or maybe "get this special bonus" if you act before midnight :-)
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