Are You "Lady Gaga"?

Or is it really you in your Halloween costume?
Well girl, it is almost Halloween. The time of year for transgender and real sisters alike to strut their stuff.
It's our Christmas, New Year and Thanksgiving all rolled up into one glorious weekend. At the least, you can hit more than one party!
It's the party where the women are jealous of your legs, hair and makeup, and by the way, where did you learn to walk in those heels? Who did do your makeup?
It's the party where your guy friends either shy away from you or to you after a few adult beverages. How innocent is it when they run a hand up your nylon covered leg?
That's you isn't it? The witch in the low cut dress. Hanging with Count Dracula your golfing buddy? Will he ever look at you quite the same again after a few beers in the clubhouse?
The fun part is, you have so many ways to attend a Halloween party. You can wear a fun, sexy comfortable female costume or slut it up and go as a hooker. Remember girlfriends, those heels are very unforgiving after awhile and that short skirt becomes very difficult to be ladylike in all evening. Especially if you happen to get buzzed.(Yes, I've tried it)
OR learn from Le Anne's example (she is a follower here) She dazzled a party by attending as a Hollywood starlet. Everyone was amazed by her look and how she presented as a woman.  To LeAnne however she wasn't dressed in a costume. She was just dressed up! I paraphrased much of her comment but she makes an excellent point.
Your big party night can be a coming out bash for the girl in you.
Beware though, once you let her out and the compliments start rolling in-you may never be able to shut her in again.
Finally, be careful of thinking you are one heavenly creature and go to WalMart the next day in the same clothes.No one will be impressed with you in the heels and the mini trying to look like "Lady Gaga"!
Instead, take the compliments and build your confidence. Remember though,  many of them are saying you make a great looking woman...for a guy.
But that's OK! That's when the fun starts.
I'm sure you all have some great stories like LeAnne's! Be sure to share them with all of us!

Transgender Militants?

Lisa, Christina and baby.

Transgender people seem to be getting more and more press these days. From transgender high school and college students competing for homecoming queens and kings to "Ophra" chatting with  transsexual women. One of which had her sperm frozen and "fathered" her own baby.
Surely "sensationalism" has a lot to do with the upsurge. The difference today is that many of these forums provide the public with an understanding of the transgendered culture in an educational manner.
Referring to these people as "transgendered militants" may not be a totally accurate description-but close.
You and I both probably think of "militants" as angry protesters yelling about their problems. If you use "Andy Moreno" who was nominated by his friends as homecoming queen as an example, militant would be the last word you would use. Andy lives her life as a girl. As confusing that is to some, it wasn't to Andy as she explained why she should be allowed to run for queen.
The tag of transgendered "pioneers" probably is more accurate.  Decades after "Virginia Prince" went public with her "female" life, Christina (formerly Chris) is explaining how she went from a former Naval flight surgeon to fathering her own child in a lesbian relationship.
These transgendered people didn't have to step forward. They did with courage and dignity to inform a world about their lives. Pioneers indeed!
If you are on the inside looking out, locked into a room of no escape. All of this may give you a glimpse of freedom. Of course you hold the key to the door but spouses and families are on the other side. I don't have to tell you how difficult it is risking your whole life by going through the door. Been there.
Just maybe some of your loved ones are watching the pioneers and will have an understanding of your feelings.
So, if you are on the outside, be responsible. You too are a pioneer.
You will be talked about, just make it positive!
No, you just weren't on Ophra-but that person you just interacted with left with a positive feel about you.  She probably will tell her family or friends and one of them may know your spouse. The spouse who hates any thought of a transgender being in her world.  Maybe then, she will start to understand and the world as transgender people know it- will be just a little better.

Trans Girl-Too Far From Home.

This post is a re-written piece from last summer. It is more or less a work in progress that reflects some recent life changes!
The first time I heard "Bob Seger's Hollywood Nights", I knew exactly how he felt. The lyrics: "He knew right then he was too far from home. He was too far from home." burnt a hole right through me.
In your life I'm sure you've been on some very slippery slopes. Relationships, family or job issues made you feel you were sliding towards a very steep cliff.
I was there, on that cliff (with Seger) looking down on the lights of a big city. I'm a Midwestern boy too, but I went to New York City, not L.A.
Did you fall off your cliff and lose a spouse, a family or a job? I fell off my cliff too and lost my gender.
I know many of you have always known you were just that-a girl or a boy. Many of us however, did not have that luxury. I went through the first 30 years or so of my life fighting and then giving in to my female urges. During that time in my life, I was afraid to lose touch with my male side. My female side was scary but wonderfully euphoric and exciting. NYC, of course proved to be the perfect cliff for her to jump off of. Making the whole decision terrifying was a beloved spouse and an "Alpha" male side who had his fun moments too.
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Within two months however, I experienced two defining moments that would set my life on a female path forever.
The first was a trans "mixer" of sorts I attended on Long Island . The real lady at the door wouldn't let me in until I proved I was a guy. "No single real women allowed!"
The second was a Halloween party I attended with a couple friends at work. It just so happened that one of them had two other tall female friends that were dressed as exotic as me! What an evening!
I knew then, I could never go home-even if I did move back to the Midwest. I didn't want too!
A couple years later I did move back to the Midwest but the cliff moved with me. Yes, I'm still falling -as I'm sure many of you are too!
Good luck with your cliff! I finally found there is a girl at the bottom waiting for me. You know, she resembles me a lot!
I hope you have someone waiting for you too!