Friday, January 8, 2021

She Said What?

 Last night, being the glutton for punishment I am, I became involved in a rather lengthy discourse with a person on Facebook Messenger. 

Her profile stated she was a lesbian and her picture showed her to be a very butch one at that. 

Very quickly she asked if I was sitting down and told me she was considering a "sex change". About that time I wondered if she had read my profile at all. She asked if I was a lesbian and I said yes, a transgender lesbian who has been living with my lesbian partner for nine years now. 

Then we exchanged pictures and went into the fact she had a doctor's appointment in Denver in a couple days to determine if she could start testosterone patches. Having a mustache was her goal. I replied I have a very close transgender man friend who has attractive facial hair so she should too. 

Surprisingly, the whole conversation went easily until it was time to call it a night and go to sleep. I told her goodnight and turned my phone off. 

The real surprise came this morning came when I turned it back on and read her last message...good night "Buddy". Buddy? Really?

If I ever hear from her again, I will mention how many years it has been since anyone has ever called me Buddy. 

If and when she apologizes I might actually ask her what pronouns she prefers I use. 

I should also learn never to set my expectations too high. At the least though, I received input for another blog post. 


  1. Maybe she/he/they should, first, try wearing a fake mustache for a while - at least until she learns the basics of what being a transgender person is about. I know mtf cross dressers who have taken hormones so they can have real breasts when they cross dress, but they go to the trouble and pain of binding them the majority of the time, as they go about their male lives. I guess there is room for all kinds under this transgender umbrella!

    1. I should have suggested that! Wear a mustache... buddy!

  2. I think I would have objected to "Buddy" even when I was identifying as a bloke!