Sunday, May 12, 2019

Happy Mother's Day

Or should I say, Happy Parent's Day?

For most of transgender people, it is a bittersweet day. A remembrance of un-accepting children. For others it is simply an uneasy adjustment to the new you. And, if you are very fortunate, it is time for you to be remembered as a parent. A role model for children to be matter what.

As most of you already know, I list myself as a very fortunate transgender woman. My daughter is very accepting and I have made my peace with my un-accepting Mother.

For the rest of you, I will only say be patient with your loved ones. Hopefully, they will come around eventually.

Every year I hope this post finds more of you in the accepting category. For those of you still in the closet, the problem is trying to figure out ahead of time who will accept you and who won't. Most of the time, it is impossible to predict.

In the meantime, I hope you all enjoy "Parent's Day!"


  1. My daughters have just one mother. I would never dream of even asking my wife to share Mothers Day with me. When Fathers Day comes around, next month, it could be the most awkward day in my family. That would be the day that has turned more to a Parents Day for us.

    My daughters still recognize that I am their father, as that's the man they knew me to be throughout their childhoods - and well on into adulthood. The fact that I may receive a pair of earrings or perfume instead of a tie or Old Spice doesn't change anything - except that they know they are presents more befitting of who they know me to be now. There have been Fathers Days in the past when I received no recognition at all, because of their confusion and hesitancy to do something that may hurt my feelings. At least the confusion has lessened to the point that their appreciation can be shown freely now.