Aren't We Really All Cross Dressers?
I remember years ago I brought this topic up to a mixed group of transsexual,transgender and cross dressers here on the blog, and got rocked.
I assume perhaps I would again today, except in the 20 something and below generation -who is much more accepting to gender fluid roles.
I am sure many of you remember the "Red Badge of Courage" days when going under the knife for SRS and going stealth with a man was THE goal. Having that goal is still all good but at some point in their lives wasn't there a man ready to get out of the closet.
Then, there are the purists who believe from their earliest days, they have felt like a girl but were forced to cross dress as a boy.
Now it seems, the term cross dresser has been mainly relegated to a semi negative term-which it shouldn't.
What a mess!!!
Fortunately, I have quite a few comments to pass along which are pertinent to this topic:
The first from Connie: For me, it's difficult to maintain an envisioning of the kind of woman I am, as it's the "transgender" part of it that gets in the way. I don't know who decided "trans*" would be a proper way of referring to me, but it's like saying I'm a "woman*", with the asterisk being necessary for clarification and definition to be footnoted. The trouble is that my spirit and soul are those of a woman; this I know of myself. Nobody else should be allowed to attach an asterisk to my spirit and soul - but there are plenty who will try.
I assume perhaps I would again today, except in the 20 something and below generation -who is much more accepting to gender fluid roles.
I am sure many of you remember the "Red Badge of Courage" days when going under the knife for SRS and going stealth with a man was THE goal. Having that goal is still all good but at some point in their lives wasn't there a man ready to get out of the closet.
Then, there are the purists who believe from their earliest days, they have felt like a girl but were forced to cross dress as a boy.
Now it seems, the term cross dresser has been mainly relegated to a semi negative term-which it shouldn't.
What a mess!!!
Fortunately, I have quite a few comments to pass along which are pertinent to this topic:
The first from Connie: For me, it's difficult to maintain an envisioning of the kind of woman I am, as it's the "transgender" part of it that gets in the way. I don't know who decided "trans*" would be a proper way of referring to me, but it's like saying I'm a "woman*", with the asterisk being necessary for clarification and definition to be footnoted. The trouble is that my spirit and soul are those of a woman; this I know of myself. Nobody else should be allowed to attach an asterisk to my spirit and soul - but there are plenty who will try.
So true! And of course mine- I wonder though if the real negative bitchy word games come mainly from the transgender/cross dressing community. The civilian world has had a tough enough time wondering where we came from all of the sudden.
Finally, I am going to leave you with this before we get back to a topic we discussed yesterday here in Cyrsti's Condo- 20 words which express "femaleness" to you. I think cross dressing may have developed more of a negative connotation from the "fetish CD's."??
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