Friday, August 28, 2020

Transgender Stand Up Comedic Therapy

 Way "back in the day' when I was doing personal appearances for the radio stations I worked for. (As a guy) I inadvertently stumbled into comedic situations. Normally it was a situation I didn't want to find myself in.

However, there are more than a few transgender comics these days doing their best to entertain the public. One of which is "Alice Rose". (below)

Here is a portion of her story:

" I  fell into standup comedy quite by accident in the summer of 2017, when the cafe I worked at began hosting a monthly comedy show. Inspired by this, I decided to write some material of my own for an upcoming open mic. Having only recently transitioned, I was still insecure about my appearance, and particularly my voice, so you can imagine how vulnerable I felt standing in front of strangers and speaking into a microphone for the first time. My insecurities came out in my material as well — nearly all of my jokes were self-deprecating, transphobic attacks on myself.

Imagine walking into a crowded sports bar, turning off the hockey game, and yelling, "I'm a woman with a penis. Does anyone have a problem with that?" Trust me, that is not a social experiment you want to conduct unless you're dressed like a goalie. However, that was essentially what I was doing, sometimes three or four nights a week. And I was getting away with it because I had a secret weapon. I had the power to make people laugh, and while their guard was down I could tell them anything I wanted.

There is much more to her story and you can read it here.


Wednesday, August 26, 2020

Tipping the Gender Scale

Yesterday I wrote here in Cyrsti's Condo about my partner Liz and what she means to me. During the post, I wrote on how she kicked me out of what was left of my cross dressing closet and into a very scary transgender world. It happened during a time of my life when my gender dysphoria was at a peak. I was desperately searching for the answer if I should live my life as a man, or a woman because it was becoming increasingly obvious I couldn't try to do both. 

I was fortunate in that I was able to take the early Social Security retirement and not have to worry about coming out in what would have been a very hostile work situation. So that became a non problem. Another obstacle was removed from my desire to possibly Mtf gender transition. At the time, I viewed the whole debacle as a very slick slope I was sliding down, heading towards a steep cliff. How was the landing going to be was the question. 

The straw which broke the camel's back, was Liz. Even though, she knew me both gender ways but always only accepted me as a woman. She gave me the wings I needed to jump off that transgender cliff and live as my true self. 

Ironically, about that time too, my body was adjusting to the new me by shedding fifty pounds. Allowing me to present more authentically in a feminine world. And finally, there were the new hormones from HRT starting their changes to my body. 

As you all have probably figured out, I certainly made the right decision and would be enjoying my life more completely if it wasn't for the damn virus. I just wish I hadn't been so stubborn and attempted to transition earlier in life. Although along the way I made more than a few memories as a guy which I still cherish.

Transgender Adjustments

  Image from Markus Winkler on UnSplash. No matter how you cut it, life is nothing if not a series of adjustments. As we enter school and le...