Unfortunately, one of the most devastating facets of being being transgender includes being able to use the bathroom of your choice.
So much so, I was surprised to hear one of the new participants (a cis woman) ask about it during our last trans vet support meeting. I said it definitely was a factor to me, as I have used (of course) women's bathrooms for years now. Along the way I have been treated very rudely, although many years ago. Even to the point of having the police called on me and being called a pervert.
Administration) although supposedly, we can use any bathroom we want.
I have always said, I find the whole situation to be over blown because many women's bathrooms aren't the "pristine" palaces one was led to believe they would be. Be careful of where you sit to pee!
I have always found it to be the best policy not to take your time. Do your business, wash your hands, check your make up and move on. Back in the day I used to even carry a tampon with me, in case some women was questioning my girl card. These days I don't because rarely does anyone question my "age" card!
Plus, I have female marked on my drivers license and veteran's administration identification card. Should anyone ask.
Like I said, it has been years since anyone has. I even made it through the rest stop on the Alabama/Mississippi state line.