From the "other" side I can't begin to understand the confusion and even the anguish involved for the wife and girl friend when her spouse/boyfriend comes out as a cross dresser or transgender woman to her.
I know there are the rare publicized relationships in which the wife "stands by her new partner" and I have all the respect in the world for those cis women.
In my case my deceased wife accepted from day one I was a cross dresser but rejected from day one any idea of me wanting to go the transgender route.
I can only imagine what she thought of me tottering around in skin tight skirts and high heels and don't want to.
I know too there would have been no way for our relationship to continue the way it was if she had not passed on, but I am sure we would have parted as friends.
What would have been very interesting would have been her take on the transition path I ended up taking.
She was rather conservative and would have approved for the most part of my jeans/flats style wardrobe but would have recoiled at my choice of hair color (violet.)
I have just met a fledgling trans girl who says she has come out to her wife and "she knows" I just wonder how much and if her and her family are ready for the rocky road ahead?