How much effort are you/should you be putting into your feminine presentation?
I suppose it's like everything else you do in life, what you do, is what you are able to do, are motivated to do and how much work you can put into it.
Looking like a woman is very hard for the great majority of cross dressers and/or transgender women. Let me use the example again of the transgender woman who comes to one of my support groups. Essentially, she throws on a pink dress and flip flops and says to the world, hey! I'm a girl.Sadly, as you can guess, it doesn't work in the world. I'm sure you have seen plenty of cis women who have no clothing or makeup skills either.
Before this post becomes a novel, let me add in what Connie sent in on the topic: