I started to write this Cyrsti's Condo post after I read someone's comment (I paraphrase), if she was able to interact with women - as a woman- does that make her a woman? Good question and way too complex to discuss in one post-or ten.
Since the venerable "sex is between the legs" and "gender is between the ears" quote is beginning to go the route of most other "discussions" in the transgender community - into bickering hell, I had to try to come up with something different to toss into the mix. Eventually I went from hell no that's too easy, to why not? She just could be on to something. If gender is a perception held mainly from others, then she is a woman because she is perceived as one plus she perceives herself as one. Finally, I came away with one certainty, all the thinking made my head hurt! Remember the old cheap shot, "look at the head on that?" What would have Einstein thought? Is that what happened to his hair?
As I said though, I didn't plan on continuing to write on the vague concepts above. (Aren't you lucky?) Instead, a mere three word question got my attention, "are you (me) a pre opt transsexual?" Well, in the strictest of terms yes and no. Yes, because of totality of my lifestyle and No, because I don't feel the need for surgery (SRS).
That's as simplistic as my backward noggin can make it. Without another headache of course!