Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Is It Time?

I was recently reading a Femulate  post in which Stana relayed several of her most asked questions along. One of the questions revolved around establishing a female voice...not just a feminine one.

It is true, no matter how feminine you look, your voice can give you away instantly.

To begin with, I have constant problems with my voice to start with. It is very raspy. Coming from many years working as a disc jockey "back in the day." If I had my choice, I would/could develop a voice which sounds like Jacqueline Bisset.  ( Right)

My problem is I am voice lazy too. Being full time, it is easy to relapse into old voice habits and then try to bring out a more feminine tone when I am out in public. Sometimes I  think I am more successful than others but it doesn't really matter if I am just guessing...does it?

At any rate, I have a couple options. One would be to have Liz help me, or it's possible to schedule an appointment with a VA voice therapist, or finally take a course such as the one Stana recommends called "How to Develop a a Female Voice" by Melanie Anne Phillips.

The only benefit of the first two options are they are free. But then again, you get what you pay for.

My next step is to ask Liz about her opinion and ask my VA therapist if she has heard anything about the in house therapist there. I know she has outside recommendations, but as always, there are financial considerations to look at. Plus, Melanie's course is not that expensive.

I know one thing for sure, the voice status quo is getting old and it's time to do something about it. Instead of my voice being a liability to my transgender presentation, it's time to work on making it a positive.


  1. I really don't know how well I do with my voice, either. It doesn't seem to be a problem when I'm having a face-to-face conversation in a quiet setting. If I have to raise my volume, though, I tend to lose the feminine sound of my voice, which requires a softening of it. I also cannot scream like a woman, much due to the fact that I have lost whatever falsetto I used to have. But, if I should need to scream for help, I don't care what I sound like!

    My singing career has taken a hit since beginning my transition, as trying to keep my feminine voice limits my ability to really sing as well as I can. I have a three-octave range, but a good half of that is just too low to use now. Besides, the notes that are in my power range are partly within the unacceptable octave, so that affects my ability to "sell" many songs.

    Whether in conversation or in performing, I still manage to get away with my current voice. There's an old saying in show biz: People listen with their eyes. If I look the part, then, the sound that I produce is, at least, forgiven. I don't mean that I must look pretty, necessarily (which is hard for me not to do - HaHa), but my mannerisms and facial expressions help considerably. I would urge anyone learning to have a more feminine voice to use a mirror while practicing. This is a technique used by many singers, by the way. Of course, this won't help much over the phone, but it does help somewhat. Speaking of the (dreaded) phone conversation, I have had people on the other end tell me that I have a soothing and sultry female voice, but only after they either know my name or I've had to correct them for assuming I'm a "sir."

    My biggest problem is that my wife became accustomed to my physical presentation as a woman much easier than she has been able to adjust to my feminine voice. Consequently, when we're alone together, I usually fall back into the voice she had heard from me for about forty years. Since she is the person I talk to the most, I still have to consciously switch it up much more often than I would like. If there is a third person present, though, she just has to hear the woman's voice from me.

    One thing I have worked on quite a bit is the way I make those involuntary sounds. You can sound every bit the woman when you talk, but the big and hearty laugh of a man will blow it for you. I also have learned to sneeze and cough in a more-feminine manner. Burps and other such sounds won't help much at all, but I have found that my farts are a bit higher-pitched and more poofy these days. :-)

  2. I have the same problem with volume! Liz said she bought me a tape recorder to help me with my book if I can find it, I could use it to practice.
    I agree, women especially, listen with their eyes!