Monday, December 16, 2013
Problem?
Two ladies commented on the Cyrsti's Condo "Sunday Edition Post". "Billie" commented the evening must have been wonderful, but asked where was the "problem" I mentioned.
The "problem" was simply one of "habit". As I struggled to learn more and more of what this feminine life is really all about, it was tough. Of course, the whole process of dressing yourself, moving correctly and interacting with the public was tough enough. As difficult though, was having to accomplish the task in "bits and pieces". I resorted to one to three days a week living as much feminine life as I could. Naturally, I would lose much of what I learned when I lived as a guy again then started all over.
My problem now is, I have flashbacks to those days. The rare times from my past when everything seemed to be "working" and I felt good as a woman, I really began to relax, enjoy myself and invariably slip back into male habits. I had to constantly remind myself of which gender role I was occupying at the time.
I found myself "reminding myself" of the same habits at the party. The problem is the process really disrupts me being me. I know I'm relatively outgoing and I enjoy the process more as a woman. For the most part, men still don't migrate towards me but women do and I enjoy the interaction. Women of course are naturally curious and want to learn more about what makes me tick so the process works well.
The "problem" becomes when I start "thinking" about the process. When and if any of my male past slips through to my personality, so what? He has been part of me for so long. The transgender mix which defines me makes me what I am.
The incredible process I'm going through now, of course is tipping my gender scales more to the feminine side. I should worry less and less about who I was but ironically now HRT has made worrying about less a bigger force in my life so worrying needlessly about problems such as this comes with the territory?
On a lighter side, Wendy commented about buying a bra as a guy and the register person calling for a "Wonder Bra" price check! The ultimate in making an embarrassing situation worse! Another little hint I learned yesterday was a bra made by the same company doesn't necessarily means it will fit the same!
Thanks ladies for the comments!
The "problem" was simply one of "habit". As I struggled to learn more and more of what this feminine life is really all about, it was tough. Of course, the whole process of dressing yourself, moving correctly and interacting with the public was tough enough. As difficult though, was having to accomplish the task in "bits and pieces". I resorted to one to three days a week living as much feminine life as I could. Naturally, I would lose much of what I learned when I lived as a guy again then started all over.
My problem now is, I have flashbacks to those days. The rare times from my past when everything seemed to be "working" and I felt good as a woman, I really began to relax, enjoy myself and invariably slip back into male habits. I had to constantly remind myself of which gender role I was occupying at the time.
I found myself "reminding myself" of the same habits at the party. The problem is the process really disrupts me being me. I know I'm relatively outgoing and I enjoy the process more as a woman. For the most part, men still don't migrate towards me but women do and I enjoy the interaction. Women of course are naturally curious and want to learn more about what makes me tick so the process works well.
The "problem" becomes when I start "thinking" about the process. When and if any of my male past slips through to my personality, so what? He has been part of me for so long. The transgender mix which defines me makes me what I am.
The incredible process I'm going through now, of course is tipping my gender scales more to the feminine side. I should worry less and less about who I was but ironically now HRT has made worrying about less a bigger force in my life so worrying needlessly about problems such as this comes with the territory?
On a lighter side, Wendy commented about buying a bra as a guy and the register person calling for a "Wonder Bra" price check! The ultimate in making an embarrassing situation worse! Another little hint I learned yesterday was a bra made by the same company doesn't necessarily means it will fit the same!
Thanks ladies for the comments!
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